Just thought id put this point of view across and say that if your doing things because you think that you 'should' or 'must' even though you really dont want to then find ways of psyching yourself up beforehand or you will just piss yourself off even more- ie this mission and just talking to strangers in general. Do it if your in the right frame and if not get in it before hand. Positive and in control frame is do-able if you ask how and THEN go do it. saves making a bad mood worse.

Heh, this is easy to do, but some friends of mine culdn 't do this...

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Just did this tonight. I went to a smaller mall since I didn't know how well this would go. I said "hi" to 6 women. Two gave me a mild response, just a "hi." Two didn't hear me (or pretended not to) and another two gave me friendly responses. So I suppose this was a minor success. I'm not happy with my results though and am going to continue until I am. I'll try again tomorrow night at another mall.

I've tried to do this 3-4 times but I never succeeded.

First time: Couldn't do it.

Second time: managed to say hi to 2-3 people, they just looked at me weird.

Third time: same as 2nd

Fourth time: managed to talk to a couple girls handing out flyers, but couldn't say hi to strangers from cold.

So yeah, I don't have much faith in this newbie mission.

Alright fellas, I did it on X-Mas Eve at the busiest mall around this part of Jersey.. I didn't think I had any confidence issues whatsoever so I thought I would skip this mission but I decided to give it a go anyway.. I've always had trouble trying to figure out how picking up girls works.. The few girls I used to be able to summon up the courage and talk to I got, but they weren't the ones I really wanted..

So I tried doing this peacocking shit I've read about, wearing interesting items or clothing.. So I decided to go for the rockstar look, nice fitting ripped black jeans, a big chrome skull belt buckle, some chains hanging off the side..a tight red thermal..and a leather jacket..some black boots (Tims) and a santa hat for the holiday spirits..

On the drive there I thought to myself, I need to do some shopping anyway.. That this wasn't going to be a big deal and it'd be a breeze.. Pulled up.. At least 2000 - 3000 cars parked? I don't know, I didn't sit and count them but it was a shitload..

This obviously isn't how I normally dress.. When I walked in the mall right away to see this hot chick staring right at me, I kind of shit myself like.. "I look like a asshole".. I felt like I was going to have a heart attack.. But when I saw her smile I kind of just shut my mind up, walked by and started the mission off with a "Hey there"..

Walked around the Mall for a bit.. Saying "hey" to every female that walked by.. and I started feeling confident even more when I saw girls brushing their hair when they looked at me.. When they smiled or turned a little red.. And a few girls with their boyfriends eyeballing my cock..

I guess I just don't make myself approachable normally.. or I just don't stand out enough? I'll try it again dressed like my normal self..

Every now and then a girl would say hi to me first.. It feels empowering knowing that I created this kind of instant attraction.. Is it that? It felt like I caught the attention most of the time with eye contact, smiles, lip licking..

So I figured I'd try to open a single girl.. It was in foot locker..I saw her in my periphery and knew that the way we were positioned was ideal.. I was facing the rack of shoes and she was facing me..

I looked at her (the term is HB right? well she's a HB8.5) and I froze we had eye contact for two seconds.. I said in my most audible voice whatever my shitty memory of the jealous girlfriend opener was.. I can't really remember what I said because my heart was pounding.. But whatever I said worked because she started telling me how threatening to leave someone for that was lame and blah blah and how she would have handled it..

Got her talking for a good five minutes before I asked if she wanted to sit somewhere else.. We walked by the kids going in for the Santa line and we sat down on a bench nearby.. I kind of sat back and spread my arms, I had it so I wasn't positioned towards her at all.. She was sitting facing my direction.. And so I thought I'd tell a joke and ask her what she wanted for x-mas, and then she asked me what I wanted.. "I want an official Red Ryder, carbine action, two-hundred shot range model air rifle!".. I thought I had made the gayest, dumb fucking A Christmas Story reference in all time.. Until she started laughing..

We talked for a little longer.. It was all fluff.. Her name is Katherine.. I kept negging her by saying "dork, geek".. Age 19... Dominican/Puerto Rican.. 5"6.. She was straight fire. Thunder booty.. Got a number close when I told her that I had to leave and wished we could carry this conversation on..

I really don't know if I negged right, because I think I overdid it.. I'm not sure.. But I got the number and I've been texting her every now and then since I got home and it's going pretty good so far..

Mission Success

Did the newby challenge;

hellod bout 10 girls, 2 smiling back, 1 smiling while looking away, some making weird faces.
then i saw one sitting alone on a bench,
Smiled nicely and said hey as i sat down,
We started talking, she must 've been an 8

Things were going well, comfortable talk, gave some compliments, she was relaxed, I lil' nervous.
I started running out of stuff to say and got to nervous to stay n look around.
But then i went AFC, shook hands and left it there.

I could have number closed but i didn't dare
But i learnt alot, to be more playful in the conversation, deepen the topics we touch, etc.... And number close, better a no than a no-tried

Great challenge, i'll go again

Well, in my busy day I did it. After work, ate, and went out to do exercise. 2 hours of biking later I'm saying to myself that I need to go somewhere with people so I can do my newbie mission tonight, I need to go to where people are and just get off my A.A. (which was detrimental in a party I was at yesterday).
As I was biking I saw Denny's, I said why not. Locked up the bike and told the guy at the front that I ran out of water, just biked 16 miles and needed a drink. Now is when it gets good, as he was getting my drink I look to my left, a table across the way had 3 HB's. A 6, 7, and a 8 (radiant blonde, she took the room).
It would be a far walk; it's not next to the bathroom; if I was going there, I was going there for them. I got my water drank it down real quick on purpose.. Thanked the waiter and walked.
I walked with purpose, and that stretch that looked like a mile felt like only 5 steps (it was more like 30-40). I said I had just gotten of a 32 mile bike ride from the beach/downtown, and that they were the most beautiful ladies I saw all day. My voice was smooth, no stutter no hesitation. They all looked at me smile and thanked me. I body rocked and walked away with a smile.
I did recognize in looking over my memory that I had pecked (leaned in for attention), I should of been body rocking the whole way (i need to keep it in mind next time). A bit of a downer in the end was I think I distinctly heard someone say "what a nerd" on my way out (I need to loose the glasses).

One quick note before I close this. I'm trying to adapt my mind to the 3 second rule. I waited more like 2 minutes (a long 2 minutes). I felt it was appropriate in the end, I had finished my drink and I was on my way out. It's more like I stopped on the way out to give them that complement. I think it would been less smooth following the 3 second rule, paying them the complement and going back to my drink, then walking out. IDK.

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Awesome mission. Helped me gain confidence. Thanks Chief!

1st day: couldn't do it because I always waited too much for EC

2nd day: I tried to wait for EC. but didn't wait too long, if I know the chance to say Hi would just pass by. I greeted 20 people. 3 looked at me with a weird face. 3 smiled. the rest all said Hi. This mission is really easier said than done. I also conversed with some people since I was doing the stylelife challenge.

I can greet only one person. Can someone give me tips on how to greet two persons or more? like when should i do it? (when: their passing by, in a bookstore, grocery? etc). Thanks! I would be doing this for a couple of weeks just to get my AA off.

Well i tried this today:

I just circled the mall and walked into some stores. I would look at strangers and if there was EC i'd say "hi" and nod my head. Dished it out to almost everybody. I'm not sure i'm the right track here, but is this a "going up to them and opening" thing, or a casual passing-by "hello" thing?

Well i'll try it again. Half the time i tried to say "Hi", i fumbled it out in a low pitched growl.

Don't you think your advice kind of contradicts you catchy tag line at the end?

I think this is not only a newbie mission but a never ending mission. I use this all day every day. I adopted the 3 foot rule. If anyone is within three feet of me for any reason I attempt to open. It makes for great urinal conversation LOL. It also really makes opening super easy when it counts. Look up the high five guy on youtube to see how many people respond positively to positive behavior.

I've tried doing this even before seeing this thread but I came across a major problem. How the hell do i initiate eye-contact from passing HB's? It was fine when our eyes met and I said "alrite" (Hi felt a bit wierd for some reason) and the girl HB6ish smiled and said "Hiya" but that was one instance. I tried to get eye contact from others but I couldn't manage it.

How do I get HB's to make eye contact when they are going about their daily lives, looking at the ground?

Also when there is sometimes eye contact the girl usually always looks down too fast for me to open whilst having eye contact, and I'd feel creepy saying "alrite" etc after she's obviously looked away.

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Why does every guy suddenly believes that you need eye-contact before an interaction. There is no reason for it, just interact. She can't turn you down for just saying "Hi."
Get some balls & like Nike says "Just do it!"

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Yes it does as this was written after I made this line tag ( now changed )
Every rule has its exceptions- this being that after learning about imprints on your memories of bad experiences from certain locations can adversly effect the way you feel in certain situations(mine being the pub) so sarging in a place that makes you feel really bad no matter how much psyching up you do can be very damaging to early confidence building . So I say small steps in places that you feel A LITTLE uncomfortable is best for learning talking to women - no point in doing a mind fuck on yourself and putting yourself off. I now find the best way to start to sarge is at work or somewhere the girls are in a pressured social behaviour situation (college) not a pub or club where they have all the status and have no hesitation to tell you to fuck off if they feel even the merest inclination to do so.

If she looks away it is probably because she thinks you are cute. If she looks away say something more direct like "looking great!" and just keep walking. I like this mission a lot because you don't have to worry about any of the other stuff. It's just making contact.

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