First off - Like I said - I could figure out that you were making a statement by stressing the bold facts & proving my arguements were unlogical. But of course - the matter of the fact being - it are affirmations.. But they aren't completely mine either.

Hoobie put these up - I copied them, like I got 3 posters fill with affirmations in my room. 1 poster coming from Hoobie his material, and 2 filled with my own results - my own affirmations but those are only personally & only applicable to myself. That's why it's useless for me to put them up in here.

& You ask why or what did make me so naive regarding this kind of topics. Maybe because I use(d) to trust the good in human beings and getting burned often once more again. I imagine a lot of guys on the forum having a rough past due to circumstances - it chances your natural beliefs regarding people. That's what happened in my case, wether you like it or not, wether you can comprehend it or not.

I've learned a lesson in here, but there is still a lot to learn and a lot to explore.

Thanks for any tip regarding it Kasabi, however, next time you can just say it too. No need to go with such an approach - however yet again - it's your choice & not mine.

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Lyricdream,,,, great post. Men should be happy about out desires. Keep posting brotha...

That IS helpful.
This is the kind of statements that most of newbies (like me) know but don't truely believe. I guess the thing here is to take each of this statements and show to yourself that they are true. I take this list as a challenge: let's prove that to myself.
Obviously, the only way to do that is to put yourself out there.

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I don't agree with these affirmations. Here's why...

If I put up on my wall at university:

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- I am going to get a 2.1 in my degree

- I am going to bang a girl tonight

- I am going to lift 70kg in a bench press
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repeating these things to myself will not change anything.

Let's look at your affirmations, and see my replies in bold.
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Do you see a similar pattern? It is delusional. You are trying to kid yourself, for example, that you need no particular woman. Now if you are hellbent on one woman then saying this is not going to help you.

What you need is actual goals, like so...


How to get over a woman

-Meet new people

-Have a busy life

-Enjoy and treat yourself

What you are actually doing here is making progress on getting over that woman, and realizing that you don't need this woman, instead of just affirming (or deluding) yourself that you don't.

I could do it for several more examples but hopefully you get my point.