So I've been working on this girl, I've f closed and we see each other quite a bit. She does stuff that would piss anyone off, for instance, last night she was going to have some guy over but ditched him to invite me over instead because she was sick, so I got there and she wasn't feeling any better so I comforted her for a bit but then she whipped out the cell phone and started texting the guy she ditched me for. I ended up leaving because I wasn't going to put up with that, and she texts me later saying that she was with her friend because the roommate was trying to throw a party and she didn't want to get involved, and since she had been so rude earlier and I was with my friend, I told her that I was busy with my buddy and she could text me later. She flipped out the next morning telling me she wasn't trying to have a conversation and that she was just telling me what was going on and not to be a dick, so I told her I wasn't being a dick, I was with a friend and that I left because I didn't like that she was on her phone ignoring me while I was there. She tells me that she wants me to leave her alone today and she can't put up with me right now. I said "Okay you're being really mean right now, when you can be cool feel free to text me but I'm not going to talk to you until then". Was what I did right? I can't tell if she's really pissed at me for not wanting her to text other guys while I drove 45 minutes to take care of her when she's sick, or if it's a shit test to see how I react in the situation. I'm not sure how I should handle it, or if it's worth my energy to continue. Any suggestions?

answer one: it's a shit test

answer two: she isn't worth it, because that's so rude and wrong, that she is a fucking bitch. who does that? i mean, come on now...

* it's not like she shit tested you "do you like madonna?" or "buy me a drink!"

dude, she was fucking texting guys while you were there visiting with her.

there are shit tests.

and there is abuse.

two different things.

i think your instincts are telling you what to do.

i know that pussy is good, but is it as good as your self-respect?

GFTOW? she IS NOT relationship material...

She did the regular shit test asking me to pick up a pizza, and then when I told her no I didn't like the kind she wanted but I would gladly pick up the kind I wanted she told me no, but she would like a drink, and I bought her the drink, which was a pretty big mistake on my part, I feel. I need to keep more vigilant for the shit tests, because I always seem to fail them HARD. That's by far my game's biggest weakness.

You're right, though, Mack.

I made plans with her for this next Wednesday, saying don't make plans I'm going to come steal you, but I think I'm just going to talk to her the day before and say "You know, I was thinking about tomorrow, but you've been a real shrew lately and it hasn't been fun for me whatsoever so I'm out." I'm not sure if that's a good way to GTFO or not, but I want her to know I'm leaving because she's treating me like shit and that her behavior will not be tolerated for one moment. I'm not gonna let some woman call me a dick when I tell her I'm with my friend and busy but she can text me later.

You're very right, it is definitely abuse. She's abusing and using me for comfort. I'm still kind of AFC when it comes to this kind of stuff after the F close. I'm bad with relationships and seem to get walked all over, and I need to work on it a lot more, what are some other things I can do to prevent this from happening?

My biggest concern is that the woman will leave or whatever, which I know isn't a realistic concern because there are tons of hot women, and I can usually close with a few of em, but how do I get out of that frame?

i'm quite new to all of this.

but a lot of it has "snapped" into place for me, because once i started reading her and other places, i realized that i instinctively knew all of this shit, or at least suspected it. so, maybe i'm an advanced pupil.

i know there are some very smart guys on this forum, with very insightful and accurate advice. i'm learned a lot in a short time.

this is probably jaded, and i may be corrected...

but this is a Pick Up Forum, i don't know that these techniques are intended to build long and meaningful relationships or even maintain them. i honestly don't know.

but they are definitely intended to pick up women.

as far as i can tell, there are two options in life:

A. Care, Be AFC, Show your true feelings, desires, emotions - get walked on
B. Don't Care, Be Alpha, Don't show your weaknesses, only power - get laid

i don't know, and am not enlightened enough yet or maybe ever, to get an option C.

C. Really Love A Woman, But Somehow NOT Care How She Behaves or Treats You.

Dude, you've moved past gaming this chick. It sounds like you're trying to make this a LTR. If that's how she's treating you freeze her out. Don't bother telling her why you're going to stop talking to her. That's just your ego looking to get one back at her for hurting your feelings. Fuck it. It won't do anything but make you look like a chump. You're alpha, you don't have to explain your actions to her. Control your emotions.

If she gets hold of you again, which it sounds like she will, ignore it. Move on man. It really doesn't sound worth it.

You know your concern about the woman leaving is dumb already. They come and go. It's very true.[/quote]