Hey guys Im 16 years old and ive never had a girlfriend.Ive hooked up with 10 girls and ive had sex with 3 but ive never had a girlfriend and it makes me feel insecure.I need advice

What advice do you need? If you can sleep with 3 girls how come you can't get a girlfriend? Also are you after a girlfriend because you want one, or just because you feel insecure about never having had one?

I like this Adam.

Also, you've slept with girls, because they've seen something you. Be positive, some people are virgins until 30's and 40's.

Never want a GF for security purpose. Be secure in yourself, and if a nice girl your into comes, make her your GF as part of your life, don't make her your life. That's where many of us on here have failed.

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i want a girlfriend because im getting the reputation of a player and its fucking me up.Also people think its wierd that ive fucked but not had a girlfriend

game better and quieter, you don't need the rep of a player but if you keep doing what you're doing you'll get one.

Having a girlfriend won't stop you having this rep, if you use it right you could help yourself get one (girls love to tame the un-tameable)

honestly i think being actively in search of a girlfriend is a waste of time. Go out, have fun, meet girls, if you connect with one make something happen. If it's right she might want to become your girlfriend.

As Chelios said, if you make it all about the girl you will fall down later, girls don't want a dependant and if you are out from the very start to get a girlfriend this is likely what will happen. That or you will end up with someone unsuitable and it'll cause one or both of you grief.

Edit: the bit about being weird to have had sex without a girlfriend is just because you're 16. In the real world it's not a big deal, if that bothers you then you'll have to stop having sex, its your choice.

i dont understand though because ive read on alot of forums and i cant find a single case like me. To be truthfull i dont really care about having a girl friend but i like to get laid. In my eyes im going to move on to college and nothing is gonna matter so why not do what makes me happy? And i dont get why i can fuck girls but im shy around girls i dont say much when we hang out yet i still manage to fuck. Is it because im a good looking guy? I also cant understand why i havent seen anyone with the same problem i had and ive searched all across google.Most of the guys that havent had girl friends havent even kissed a girl.I also forgot to add that i lost my v card when i was 15 and its been a year since that

im 22 never kissed a girl before, u have yeeeaaars ahead of you, about being called a playa, don't worry what people think of you, the whole point is to get laid as much as possible, if they don't like that you're a player or what not, they can move on, well done though, 16 and already had 3! brilliant

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Isn't being labelled a player a major DHV?

Mate I am exactly the same, I'm a quiet guy myself and still get laid, it doesn't matter, don't worry about it. You're right when you say you should do what makes you happy. You're talking about getting a girlfriend but that's not for yourself is it? It's for other people. Fuck them, do what you want. Even though I only just entered a relationship I've always been more into having fun with lots of different girls, if you're getting a bad reputation you're probably doing something wrong.

Firstly you need to be discreet. Anytime you sleep with a girl you should keep it quiet, and never brag or tell anyone about it. If a girl thinks you're going to brag about it then she's not going to wanna sleep with you, she doesn't want to be judged as a slut. So you need to make sure you keep quiet, and make it clear to the girl that you will. She can tell whoever she wants, but most of the time they won't. When you escalate on a girl always make sure you don't do it around friends or make it obvious, only do it when the two of you are isolated.

You should also be very honest about your intentions, before you have sex with her. Never lead a girl on and let her think there is a possibility of a relationship when there isn't. A girl's number one fear when she hears that you're a player is that you'll lie and just use her for sex. If you're honest in the first place she has nothing to complain about, and often the girl will respect you more for being honest, even if she isn't interested in casual sex. You will probably lose a few lays this way, but at least you'renot hurting people, being a dick, or getting a bad reputation.

i dont say anything the girls always tell everyone because they want to brag.Also i just feel like im too young to have a girlfriend like i dont want to get in a relationship im not trying to marry the girl im just trying to get a nut. I also have alot of problems to deal with such as legal problems and dealing with trying to get my shit together and get back to school after dropping out.

I would say consider yourself lucky. I'm 17 and I can honestly say that relationships at this age NEVER end well. You're getting pussy. FUCK what everybody else thinks about you. That doesn't stop girls from being attracted to you. Look around, I'm 100% sure there is somebody in your school that has had sex with at least 5 girls in your school. They all know this yet he continues to get with more girls. You don't want a relationship bro, I mean, if that's what comes and you find yourself caught up with a girl then that's different. But don't hope for a relationship, just let it fall into place. I've had one serious girlfriend. I don't plan on having another girlfriend until I'm at least a senior in college. We're young, it's all about having fun right now.

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i just want to understand why girls are attracted to me im super shy yet I always end up getting pussy i dont know why could someone explain to me?

I really wish I had your problem when I was 16. lol

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What do you mean?

When I was 16, I was not even thinking about girls... and they were surely not thinking about sex. :p I had my first girlfriend at 18yo!

Believe me, you're doing great!

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