Sorry about the all caps, but I need this answered in possibly the next hour! basically, I've been freezing this girl out because she feels like she has power/control over me. She's stubborn as shit so we haven't talked in like a week. She just called me about an hour ago and I didn't pick up. I called her back about 35 minutes later and she didn't answer.

When she calls me back again I'm sure she's going to say something like, "Hey stranger, how have you been?" or "Hey you don't know how to speak to anybody anymore?" Not sure about her exact words but I'm sure she's gonna pull a 'WHY THE FUCK AREN'T YOU TALKING TO ME' type thing in a nice way. lol How do I respond to that? I was thinking about just saying, I been busy. Honestly, I haven't so what will I say if she asks about what I've been up to?

I didn't want to just be like, "None of your business. Why are you so concerned about me?" (Unless you think this is the right thing to do) I don't want to do that because when I freezed her out, she actually texted me a few days back during the 'freeze out'. She basically was excited to talk to me and I responded right away once, then text her back like 2 hours later and told her I was busy with something else. I don't want to be too cruel because I don't want her to get the feeling that I'm not attracted to her anymore.

I know, It's alot of questions in here so please read thoroughly before you answer! All opinions count as long as you explain why I should say what you said...Thanks!

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you've got to be unphased. so keep that in mind.

you are right. she is a tough one. and you are also correct that she is probably going to pull some passive-aggressive bullshit like "Hey Stranger, why so distant?"

so, let's look at the facts.

she is shit testing you.

she is trying to establish her dominance over you through her stubbornness, basically forcing you to show that "you care more" by always being the one to contact her back. don't cave. you are the man, not her.

best way to deal with a passive-aggressive shit test delivered in a "false sincere" or "false serious" tone... do it with genuine humor.

this is just my opinion, others may disagree or have a better idea.

play it off, be like "aww girl, you know how it be, and change the subject, take back control"

basically she will be "questioning" you with her comment. don't fucking answer the question. you shouldn't have to be questioned by this woman, especially when SHE is shit testing.

play it off, reframe, move on, establish dominance, change the subject. act completely unphased. BE completely unphased.

be the ball.

Mack, I love ur answers bro.
Question though, so are you saying to say something like this?

Her: Why so distant stranger?

(Options)
Me: Well you know, its not that easy being me. (Playfully of course)

Me: Aww, sounds like somebody missed me..

Me: That's just how it is sometimes ... (again, playfully)

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Usually somebody would tell me to go with the second one. Should I take a different approach because she is different then most girls?

I just realized that she shit tets me ALL THE TIME!. And unfortunately, I failed a few times which is why I had to freeze her out in the first place..

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i was going to add some more here, but it keeps truncating my posts, hmm

Please do add more.
That was happening to me too but it was because I was drawing an arrow. Make sure u don't have any "symbols" or anything..

S/n: They should have a built-in I.M. system to where we can I.M. any member of this forum. It would be much easier to get others opinions

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Ok, let's look at the facts.

What do we know?

1. She is shit testing you.
2. She is likely to do it in the form of some passive-aggressive comment that puts you in an awkward situation.
3. She is playing a power game with you and has made herself intentionally hard to connect with unless it's on her terms

The answer: Don't react awkwardly. Don't give up your power.

For example...

Her: "Hey Stranger, long time no see, why do distant?" (the shit test)

You: "Awww Girl, you know how it be" (humor), then change the subject to something fun, and really mean it, forget the shit test, and go immediately into a fun subject and chat her up, literally BE unphased.

You could try to come up with some cunning response that shows you aren't phased by her shit test, or to try to act like you didn't notice her shit test, both of those are epic fails because you-know-that-she-knows-that-you-know-that-she-knows-etc that you know what she is up to.

So, don't act oblivious. Doing that shows her that you've calculated a response because she's hit a sore spot and has bothered you.

Nope. She wants a serious, or awkward response. Don't give it to her.

Humor "Aw Girl, you know how it be" (shows her you know what's up, that you aren't going to answer her preposterous question about where you've been, when she has been playing hard to get too)

Followed immediately by: subject change, reframe, fun topic (shows her not only did you know she was shit testing you, but you were unphased by it, then you reclaim your power by changing the subject and devaluing her attempt to put you on the spot)

GOOD SHIT BRO! U just made me look at the situation in a whole nother light. Another thing learned. I can't wait until I master all of dis shit.

So is this how I should respond to all shit tests after I freeze a girl out? Or should I respond to every girl differently depending on how they respond to being freezed out?

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or...

I was off to see a man about a horse. (immediate subject change)

I took a brief whirlwind tour of planet earth. (immediate subject change)

Oddly enough, I don't know, I awoke in a field, several miles from home, naked, with several sore spots. I suspect...aliens...and possibly probing were involved.

Anyways, ZOMG change subject............

Honestly, I think that each situation needs to be handled differently. This stuff really is about adopting a paradigm shift in your mind. That paradigm shift comes when you go from "learning how to ACT like the man" to actually "BEING the fucking man".

but practice makes perfect. it's conditioning. i think it is entirely possible to overthink a lot of this stuff, and then come off as calculated, canned, and potentially lame.

i think keeping those few basics in mind is of utmost importance.

1. Women shit test.
2. It's nothing personal.
3. You fail, you don't get pussy.
4. You pass, you do get pussy.
5. You can't give up your power.
6. You must be confident in who you are at all times.

because without that manhood, the pussy will dry up quicker than a midget camel's piss on a hot august day in the sahara desert.

i suppose as time goes on, this stuff becomes instinctive, which is good, because it would be nice to not always have to be all planned out and calculating. i try not to think of this stuff as "conditioning" but actually "deconditioning".

society has taught us to be pussies. women themselves will teach us to be pussies if we let them.

So true ... I actually knew some of these things before I joined this forum. But to be honest, I was in a relationship ... thought I was in love. I was the guy she needed not the guy she wanted blah blah bullshit.. got walked over. Never again.

I actually have decent natural game once I get passed all of this shit test stuff, and maybe tighten upp my phone game a little. But I'm only 17 though, still young.

EDIT: So I just text her back from earlier.

Me: We're gonna have to stop playing phone tag, sooner or later..
(60 seconds later)
Her: Lmao I agree completely

I have a feeling that in her head she believes that I'm gonna call her? I might be wrong, but I doubt it. Just to make things clear I SHOULD NOT call her, right?. I have nothing to say back to the text, so should I just leave it alone or do you think I should start a conversation?[/b]

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that sucks, zohan. i've been there. walked on and hurt. honestly, although i'm figuring this pickup stuff out, i am not sure how it applies in a "love" settings. just a few hours ago, i broke up, for good, with a girl i have been with for a year and thought i loved. hell, i did love her. but she walked all over me. i was so afc.

the problem for me is when i do love a girl, i want to be kind, and attentive, and sensitive to her, and chivalrous, etc. but that gets you emotionally assraped.

i get this game thing, i've been trying it out, and have had really great results. hot chicks totally digging me that i thought would never have even talked to me before, lol.

for me, the real question is how does it translate into love?

i'm pretty jaded in that department, not even sure it's truly possible without eventually being emotionally assraped.

i was afc for 12 years with one. thought she was THE ONE. but, alas, she bootybanged me (figuratively speaking, of course) and did me wrong, all wrong!

Yeah ... I don't know. I guess it applies to love in a sense, but not really. I would just say this is OUR end of the field, and love is the WOMENS end of the field. If a guy loves a girl, the girl always ends up dominant, it doesn't seem like there is a way around it. Because if this material/information is gonna be any effective, you CAN'T care about the girl past a certain point. IDK, that's a whole other ball field.

BTW: I added something in my edited post (the one before this one) respond to that

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reply with...

"great minds think alike"

You obviously are more Emotional invested In this whole thing than she is. That's the first issue.

Do you think she's posting on some chick blog" what do I say wen I call him back?"

Take a chill pill bro an sit back. So what if this chicks gets away. Millions more are gonna come along way better.. That's the attitude; and once you adopt the right attitude everything else comes natural. Your only 17! Is this a chick you plan on marrying? Probaly not so chill.. Your dream girl is out there. I just want you to put things in prespective.

2nd we may be able to get her attracted again but you will repeat this same process over again until you remove some investment. She's not that important. It's just a girl. There a dime a dozen. Try this attitude on for size an see how you feel. Read this post everyday 20 times a day of you have to until it gets stuck. A better chick will always come along. Always

You obviously are more Emotional invested In this whole thing than she is. That's the first issue.

Do you think she's posting on some chick blog" what do I say wen I call him back?"

Take a chill pill bro an sit back. So what if this chicks gets away. Millions more are gonna come along way better.. That's the attitude; and once you adopt the right attitude everything else comes natural. Your only 17! Is this a chick you plan on marrying? Probaly not so chill.. Your dream girl is out there. I just want you to put things in prespective.

2nd we may be able to get her attracted again but you will repeat this same process over again until you remove some investment. She's not that important. It's just a girl. There a dime a dozen. Try this attitude on for size an see how you feel. Resettle post everyday 20 times a day of you have to until it gets stuck. A better chick will always come along. Always