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If you are looking for a long-term relationship you have to take a much different approach. But for the player lifestyle, I think my post makes a lot of sense.
Yeah I think "requiring substance" is overblown too. Imagine a job interview. Your job is to get hired. Well, maybe you also want to find out whether the company is worth bothering to work for, whether you'll get paid well and treated well, but the main thing is to get hired. On the timescale of work, it's a short term goal. All the people at the office are really busy and can't spend forever checking your credentials. They can't guarantee the perfect decision about what you're going to do with their company or not. So they size you up, shit test you, apply whatever heuristics they can to the hiring process, and at some point just pull the trigger and make the decision. Why? Because they want to get on with it, they want to get back to work.

PUA is similar in this regard. You don't have to be Ghengis Khan. You just have to look like you're worth hiring and get hired. Don't overestimate the intelligence and energy of women who might fuck you. Doesn't mean they're dumb, just means they're human beings with a finite number of tools for making a decision.

Some people are innately talented at acting. They end up as movie stars. Or spies. Or undercover cops. They don't provide substance, they just push whatever buttons people want / need to hear. Know what? Reality changes around them, because people's behavior changes around them. That's a kind of substanceless substance in and of itself.

Long rituals of proving yourself to have "real" value are to be avoided. It's a false reality. Getting laid is not that hard.


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If you are looking for a long-term relationship you have to take a much different approach. But for the player lifestyle, I think my post makes a lot of sense.
Yeah I think "requiring substance" is overblown too. Imagine a job interview. Your job is to get hired. Well, maybe you also want to find out whether the company is worth bothering to work for, whether you'll get paid well and treated well, but the main thing is to get hired. On the timescale of work, it's a short term goal. All the people at the office are really busy and can't spend forever checking your credentials. They can't guarantee the perfect decision about what you're going to do with their company or not. So they size you up, shit test you, apply whatever heuristics they can to the hiring process, and at some point just pull the trigger and make the decision. Why? Because they want to get on with it, they want to get back to work.

PUA is similar in this regard. You don't have to be Ghengis Khan. You just have to look like you're worth hiring and get hired. Don't overestimate the intelligence and energy of women who might fuck you. Doesn't mean they're dumb, just means they're human beings with a finite number of tools for making a decision.

Some people are innately talented at acting. They end up as movie stars. Or spies. Or undercover cops. They don't provide substance, they just push whatever buttons people want / need to hear. Know what? Reality changes around them, because people's behavior changes around them. That's a kind of substanceless substance in and of itself.

Long rituals of proving yourself to have "real" value are to be avoided. It's a false reality. Getting laid is not that hard.
Exactly. This is my whole point and the job interview is a great analogy. On the front end.. your goal is to GET THE JOB.. and you can worry about the rest later. In pick-up your goal is to go from "stranger" to "sex" in the shortest time possible. Once sex has occured.. you can worry about what happens next later.

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but the main thing is to get hired.

Yes, if you're desperate and this is your only interview.
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and at some point just pull the trigger and make the decision.
yes, if they are desperate and you're the best they can do.


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but the main thing is to get hired.

Yes, if you're desperate and this is your only interview.
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and at some point just pull the trigger and make the decision.
yes, if they are desperate and you're the best they can do.
Kasabi -- If your goal in a job interview isn't getting hired.. then what is it?

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Yes, if you're desperate and this is your only interview.
yes, if they are desperate and you're the best they can do.
Kasabi -- If your goal in a job interview isn't getting hired.. then what is it?
The goal is getting an offer.
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Well, maybe you also want to find out whether the company is worth bothering to work for, whether you'll get paid well and treated well
If you weren't a bottom of the rung guy who's desperate for a job and you have 5 offers on the table, wouldn't ^this be your priority?


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Kasabi -- If your goal in a job interview isn't getting hired.. then what is it?
The goal is getting an offer.
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Well, maybe you also want to find out whether the company is worth bothering to work for, whether you'll get paid well and treated well
If you weren't a bottom of the rung guy who's desperate for a job and you have 5 offers on the table, wouldn't ^this be your priority?
You wont find that out in your interview. Being "paid well and treated well" is subjective. My idea of "treated well" might be different than yours. In your first conversation with a woman, you wont find out everything. If that was possible, people would never break up or get divorced.

Just like you can quit a job.. you can quit a relationship. So I still don't see the point you are trying to make.

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DHV'ing through stories to a girl is not like trying to get a job, sorry. Having a job should be higher on your priority list than getting a girl. Therefore, you do have to "DHV" in a job interview, right from the beginning.

You don't HAVE TO, but you can, tell these DHV stories to win her over. Instead, you can just be seductive.

Now if this girl you got becomes your g/f, then yes, you will want to show her that you are someone of value. However, do you see the difference?

Getting a Job = DHV from Beginning
Getting a Girl = Seductive at Beginning

Again, I'm not saying that telling stories, DHV'ing, blablabla, to a girl from the start won't work. I'm saying that you don't HAVE TO do that stuff until later. Correct me if I'm wrong, but Kasabi made it seem like you have to show the girl you're higher value through stories from the get go.


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PHM, here's why your story telling sucks. You're simply a unlikable little headcase with an inferiority complex. When you know you're wrong, just let it go. I don't know you, I don't care about you . . . and still, I think you're a little twit. You began with a made up bs story about how game is and how game should be and blah, blah, blah, yet . . . things simply don't work this way. It just doesn't add up. Unless they're retarded, Women DO NOT FUCK strangers no matter how powerful your "DEMO GAME" is . . .

Even if you do not want to tell them exactly what you do or how you do it, you communicate to them through "story telling". Christ you guys are a fucking bore.

Can any of you who actually converse with women once in a while just chime in? God damn, what's with this lying and lying and pulling shit out of a sky just to tell a damn story? This is EXACTLY what you're doing now. You're telling a story to demonstrate some value but the problem is you totally fucking suck at it. Don't you get this at all? At least I'm being honest. Women will simply squirm, get uncomfortable, and give you odd looks.

Back to the topic story man: All things being the same, The following companies are offering you these salaries. Please choose which company is paying you 'well':

A. 70K
B. 90K
C. 48K
D. 60K
E. 150k.

Same little quiz can be done with their vacation time, benefits, etc . . . Try it for yourself.

In a club, these girls are offering the following hook. Please choose one:

A. "Nope. I never kiss on a first date ever."
B. "I've got a bottle of rum at home. How about we pick up some coke on the way."
C. "Well, you're a little bullshitter aren't you.
D. "Your stories are making my eyes water with boredom."
E. "Please, get the fuck away from me. Be nice. I said, 'please'"

You have a habit of putting yourself on a pedestal and making a fool of yourself. Please, lose this habit first. Worry about pick up later. And in the future, I suggest forming your made up bs in the form of a question; same idea when you interact with girls . . . if you ever get around to it. Good luck.


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DHV'ing through stories to a girl is not like trying to get a job, sorry. Having a job should be higher on your priority list than getting a girl. Therefore, you do have to "DHV" in a job interview, right from the beginning.
Priorities have nothing to do with it. The principles remain the same.
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You don't HAVE TO, but you can, tell these DHV stories to win her over. Instead, you can just be seductive.
OK, tell us how you like to seductive . . . I will tell you that you're telling her a story.
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Now if this girl you got becomes your g/f, then yes, you will want to show her that you are someone of value. However, do you see the difference?
Again, priorities do not matter. The principles remain the same. you want her to stick around for one hour? Then offer her one hour worth of value. You want her to stick around for a few years? You'd have to offer her more.


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^Listen, here's why your story telling sucks. You're simply a unlikable little headcase with an inferiority complex. When you know you're wrong, just let it go. I don't know you, I don't care about you . . . and still, I think you're a little twit. You began with a made up bs story about how game is and how game should be and blah, blah, blah, yet . . . things simply don't work this way. It just doesn't add up. Unless they're retarded, Women DO NOT FUCK strangers no matter how powerful your "DEMO GAME" is . . .

Even if you do not want to tell them exactly what you do or how you do it, you communicate to them through "story telling". Christ you guys are a fucking bore.

Can any of you who actually converse with women once in a while just chime in? God damn, what's with this lying and lying and pulling shit out of a sky just to tell a damn story? This is EXACTLY what you're doing now. You're telling a story to demonstrate some value but the problem is you totally fucking suck at it. Don't you get this at all? At least I'm being honest. Women will simply squirm, get uncomfortable, and give you odd looks.

Back to the topic story man: All things being the same, The following companies are offering you these salaries. Please choose which company is paying you 'well':

A. 70K
B. 90K
C. 48K
D. 60K
E. 150k.

Same little quiz can be done with their vacation time, benefits, etc . . . Try it for yourself.

In a club, these girls are offering the following hook. Please choose one:

A. "Nope. I never kiss on a first date ever."
B. "I've got a bottle of rum at home. How about we pick up some coke on the way."
C. "Well, you're a little bullshitter aren't you.
D. "Your stories are making my eyes water with boredom."
E. "Please, get the fuck away from me. Be nice. I said, 'please'"

You have a habit of putting yourself on a pedestal and making a fool of yourself. Please, lose this habit first. Worry about pick up later. And in the future, I suggest forming your made up bs in the form of a question; same idea when you interact with girls . . . if you ever get around to it. Good luck.
Women do to fuck strangers. There's guys who've gotten lays from, "Hey, do you wanna fuck?". It doesn't happen often, but it does happen. It seems like you think there's only ONE specific method on how to get a girl. Lol nope, that's just false. I remember a sig, on this forum, once read.... "While your sitting there telling your DHV stories, I'll be the one to seduce her". (Or something like that) Something you should definitely think about.

And I'm not putting myself on a pedestal. Do I suck at telling stories? Umm I don't really pay attention to when I'm telling a story, I just say it how it is. I guess I'm decent. Anyways, I could really give a damn about my "story telling game", As of now, I'm putting more time and energy in my seduction game. Maybe once I master my seduction game, I can try to master my "story telling" game, and be a badass at storytelling, just like you.


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Hey, I wasn't replying to you. . . I replied to you through another post here are my replies anyways:
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Women do to fuck strangers. There's guys who've gotten lays from, "Hey, do you wanna fuck?". It doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
Go ahead and name them. Who? Have you ever tried this? Yes, I did write these things can happen. But only with crazy ass suicidal chicks (this would be the female version of the toothless trash who motors around seedy neighborhoods looking for a 10 dollar BJ) . . . By they way, even she will ask in the morning, "So, what's your story?"
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It seems like you think there's only ONE specific method on how to get a girl.
The correct statement would be that the ONE specific method detailed in the OP is really a figment of the guy's imagination.
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Lol nope, that's just false. I remember a sig, on this forum, once read.... "While your sitting there telling your DHV stories, I'll be the one to seduce her". (Or something like that) Something you should definitely think about.
Hey, why don't you ask the guy how he 'seduces her'. Google, wiki, or look up "story" and also "Value" while you're at it.
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I'm putting more time and energy in my seduction game.
This seems to be a big topic here these days. Why don't you educate us and give us a run down of what you've learned thus far?


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Kasabi - Whoops, sorry if I came off as a dick. But in sum, I don't feel like going back and forth on each specific thing. In a nutshell, from what I got from you was that you needed to DHV through stories to get a girl. I'm saying no, b/c I've done 60YOC formula and it works. Did I ever DHV through stories? I don't think so.


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Here's the disconnect:

1. Most think of the story as a narrative of a fairy tale. Telling the girl that you'd like to F her is ALSO a story told in the future tense. If you leave this story as it is and punctuate it with a drop of drool, I'd say that this is a bad story. For this to be fun/effective, you'd want to frame it in a way that makes sense, doesn't treat her like an idiot, and is plenty fun for all: this would be a good story. (Well actually, the drop off drool might be pretty good . . )

2. Most do not know the definition of "Value". His imagined definition of value and the "math" presented by the OP earlier on is nutty.


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A good example is Christopher Colombus. He actually had very little knowledge and came from a low class background. Yet he was able to associate with royality and even get the queen to finance his explorations! How? Why? Because he projected a sense of confidence that was completely out of proportion to his means. He behaved like royality and therefore he was percieved like royality. People believed he was "destined for greatness" without having any evidence of it.
I'd like to see what sources you used to argue that he behaved like royalty and projected such a high confidence of himself. As far as I know, Queen Elizabeth turned him down because she didn't believe his wild claims of promise of gold and riches. Another Queen, Isabella, did.

This is not a major issue but I suspect you're making stuff up, which lowers your credibility for me reading the rest of this thread.

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Kasabi - Whoops, sorry if I came off as a dick. But in sum, I don't feel like going back and forth on each specific thing. In a nutshell, from what I got from you was that you needed to DHV through stories to get a girl. I'm saying no, b/c I've done 60YOC formula and it works. Did I ever DHV through stories? I don't think so.
Nothing comes for nothing. I once had sex with a girl despite hardly talking to her but she was suicidal and messed in the head, as someone above described. Apart from these sort of girls, you need to have some form of value for them to be attracted to you, whether it's through DHV stories or not.

Seducing a woman is still telling a story really, I think. You're still demonstrating value just in different ways.

If you finger a drunken girl in the club, that does not really give off high value. It's a funny thing to tell your mates, but it isn't really going to score much points with the girl (even though she was the one getting fingered).


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Women do to fuck strangers. There's guys who've gotten lays from, "Hey, do you wanna fuck?". It doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
You are not getting the point - define a woman first, before discussing this topic.
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wom·an (wmn) n. pl. wom·en (wmn) 1. An adult female human. 2. Women considered as a group; womankind: "Woman feels the invidious distinctions of sex exactly as the black man does those of color" (Elizabeth Cady Stanton). 3. An adult female human belonging to a specified occupation, group, nationality, or other category. Often used in combination: an Englishwoman; congresswoman; a saleswoman. 4. Feminine quality or aspect; womanliness. 5. A female servant or subordinate. 6. Informal a. A wife. b. A female lover or sweetheart. See Usage Notes at lady, man, person.
The person or type that you are reffering to in this case isn't a woman Puaking, it's a girl.
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girl (gûrl) n. 1. A female child. 2. A daughter: our youngest girl. 3. Often Offensive A woman, especially a young woman. 4. Informal a. A woman socializing in a group of women: a night out with the girls. b. Used as a familiar form of address to express support of or camaraderie with a woman. 5. Informal A female sweetheart: cadets escorting their girls to the ball. 6. Offensive A female servant or employee.
Look at the different discriptions - and tell me.. since when does your "woman that does fuck with strangers" fit in the category of an actual woman? I'm still thinking the second one is rather correct.

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