Hey i wrote this up awhile ago for campus charmer.com but i thought its a worthy share
The article on campus charmer is much cleaner and theres alot of pics and infield footage in a related article. Check it out if you want
http://www.campuscharmer.com/2010/11/op ... rties.html
Opening at Parties
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This week im going to be focusing on opening....hurray
Anyhoo, one of my strongest aspect of my game is opening. Alot of my pulls have been on from the very first seconds of the approach because of what I convey when I approach. It is absolutley crucial to become good at this because if you cant get a girls attention and some attraction right off the bat alot of sets will die or stall right there. Also if you become great at opening you will be able to activate the DTF mechanism in horny girls very quickly.
Ive been extremely lazy at times and just walked around a venue using high octane openers till ive found Miss
Hornball of the night.
This post is going to be based soley on opening girls at parties, not bars or clubs.
Opening girls at parties
(If you have very new skills and dont understand body language, tonality, eye contact, parts of approach etc. Go read about it. This is for a person with a decent idea of pick up)
This is absoulutely essential for college guys. From the age of 18-21 your gonna be spending alot of time at parties surrounded by a pretty large social circle and more importantly girls looking to fuck a handful of guys in that social circle.
Keyword: Handful. In big social circles 80% of the girls sleep with the top 20% of the guys. You need to get to this point. Ive talked with HPRJ many times about this, and in his fraternity of close to 80 guys, theres only a few that really do work.
Cold approaching girls at parties is not like bars. Everyone knows eachother, its not total videogame mode like at clubs where you can just get yourself blow out after blow out and then go back in a corner and wait for more girls to come. People notice how you interact with people.
So this being in mind lets looks at WHO you want to be at the party.
Im sure you have all been to parties where there is a handful of people that stand out in the party. Then there is a shit ton of other people who are just there. You first need to be one of these people. This is not a bar where you can sit in a corner for 45 minutes and then decide to approach a girl from out of no where. If you sit in the corner, there is gonna be some other guy whose actually brining alot of fun to the party that the girls will already be watching.
Things you can do to stand out
-Have a shit ton of fun, be crazy loud. Develope relationships with alot of people at the party. Dont become bffs but make sure your talking to everyone. People need to know who you are. Have a presence. If you could suddenly disappear from a party without people noticing, your wrong.
-Be the crazy dressed guy. Peacocking it not something to do if your shy or a bitch, but if you are naturally crazy and fun itll just get more attention on you. Bear hats pull pussy trust me
-Talk to all the girls. Even if your not pulling them back to the bedrroom, have basic rapport with alot of the girls at the party. If your into pickup and your shy, get over it, start talking to people. When you talk to these girls just chill and talk. ( its extremely important to just be able to have a conversation with girls. This is good practice)
If your walking around talking to every girl or making alot of friends, girls and guys will notice you and want to talk to you.
All of this can also be done low energy or in a way to suit you.
Okay so now your somewhat noticed . Im not gonna use the word approach anymore in this post because a much better term would just be socialize. Most college partys are just a huge social circle or group of circles coming together. No one is a TOTAL stranger at a party so its not approaching, its just being social.
Why is it important to be noticed?
The average college parties around aroud 25-50 people. People are aware of everyone esle. By getting girls to notice you before you socialize with them its like walking up with a already cocked gun. When you approach you are no longer potentially weird stranger, your the social life of the party. They will be 10x more receptive and may just start getting turned on before your even meet them. Hell they will probably open you if your having to much fun.
*lil side note. There are also alot of parties with 100-300 people at them. This is just go time cosmic mode. You basically have the ability to approach girls who will mostly be receptive and actually looking to meet guys. Run normal game, go crazy. Makeout with everyone. The amount of people is to large for any few people to stand out. Just have fun and approach
Okay so your locked and loaded. As you meet girls, be physical with all of them, tickling clawing spining hugging yada yada. Girls react to you the way they see other girls react to you. If you lined up 3 girls and the first two hugged you, the last one would even if she was hesitant. Same applys in the negative aspect. Get girls to think its the norm to be physical with you.
(A even easier way to do this if your sorta chode is by being physical with girls you are already friends with around the girls your targeting)
At this point youve pretty much good to go to socialize with girls at will, and girls will just open. A simple Hey, Whats your name? will cover it, as long as its confident and not value taking the girl will be interested. Be close to her when you start talking.
One thing youll also see if your being the life of the party is that girls will open you, be sure to capitalize. This is one of the main reasons why some guys just slay in college and then have very meh sex lives afterwards. Its very easy to meet girls if you are of high value in a social group.
Combine this with pick up skill and its like hunting squirrels with a mini gun.
(Fun lil tactic that ive been using at party: Find the girl you really wanna fuck, as you walk by slap her hand, poke her/ wink at her in a fun way. Then go flirt and be extremely socially popular. Because of your initial weird interest she will be watching you to some extent from that point on. Come back to her after a bit and she will now definitely be aware of your value.)
This small simple proccess will lead you to opening and talking with girls. This isnt really even cold approaching in my book, and if you really suck alpha gorilla balls at CA, then this is a great way to get used to opening for beginners. This is how most girls in college expect to meet guys naturally, dont over complicate it. In fact you should abuse it to stupid levels. Even guys without game like HPRJ can score in these scenarios =D.
SEE LOOKZ
Look at the shock on his face. Hell even bob the builder gets laid at college parties
If you want to skip to what else you can do after the opener read my thread post about social circle gaming.
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