Hey...i went out last week and met a HB 7. We had a lot of fun at the bar, danced, talked about interests and she seemed to be giving lots of IOIs. Toward the end of the night, her friends wanted to leave and I asked for her # since I thought it would be guaranteed. She seemed taken aback and asked me to find her on FB. I friended her but I'm confused if that was her way out of not wanting to give out her #. Since then I've sent a couple messages regarding what we talked abt and no reply...

What do you guys think?

I think she blew you off. You should have messaged her before friending her "What exactly do you have to offer that would make me want to be FB friends with you?" maybe find a nicer way to put it but I am kind of an ass when I feel that people are wasting my time.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

well...she just sent me a message now asking if i'd like to meet up at that bar again in a couple days. On top of that, I found out she has a BF while talking to one of her friends. Now i'm really confused. I'd hate to be strung along like this.

What's the best thing to do? Be upfront about my intentions or see how things progress?

Ew, facebook close. That's never happened to me, but if it did, I would punch a puppy in his balls. Argh, pisses me off how scared people are of the telephone these days. Back in my day, there was NO text messaging and people had social skills. It was sweet. Anyway, sounds like you know what to do. Be up front, feel shit out.

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ok i've slept with a few girls who've had boyfriends and they want you to be discrete about it!! thats why she gave you her facebook! she must be around her boyfriend a lot of the time because she doesnt want him seeing messaging from you saying "hey there shrimp lady... this is your shrimp daddy " lol... if she gets caught her whole entire relationship is screwed! so you'd better have tight game to sleep with her because she's placing her relationship in your hands...

and as for telling her how you feel?? wtf?? she's in a RELATIONSHIP... if she cheats with you then do you really think she is worthy of recieving your feelings?? i dont think so... any girl who dumps their boyfriend for me automatically fails in my eyes! in saying that though... if i had a girlfriend and another bloke picked her up then i'd seriously have respect for him lol... i'd high 5 that mother fucker and say nice work... you done well haha...

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A wise man once told me
"Bros before hoes, unless hoes have no clothes!"

u got the facebook answer because she has a bf. She dont want a dude calling her if she has a jealous BF. Dont get discouraged. Just go to that bar... and take advantage of the cards you've been dealt.

She wants to bang but doesn't want her boyfriend to find out. Escalate kino and fclose with righteous indignation! If that's your thing.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

thanks guys...you all have excellent points. After her reply and BF knowledge, I think I'm just gonna go with it and see where it takes me. I'd hate to be a guy that screws over a relationship because I would never want that to be in that BF's position. At the same time, if she wants to have fun and I need to be discrete I could do that as well. It's a tough call, but I'm gonna go to the bar and see where things go.

If she's out to cheat, she's going to do it. Who better than with you? I totally forgot Facebook is the tool for cheaters.

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31 and still figuring it out.

minsok you make me smile

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Exactly.

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She has clearly taken your interaction in a different way to you. Perhaps it was lets just be friends as their was no sexual escalation etc

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"I guess a little small talks in order here now."

"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

Well let's say she wasn't sexually interested. Maybe it wasn't on her mind, maybe she shelves that because she has a boyfriend, maybe she's habitually nice and spineless with guys and doesn't know how to say "No, fuck off." Maybe she expands her social circle for selfish reasons, maybe she's cognitively dissonant, maybe her brain says no but her bod says well maybe. The question is, using a PUA rather than AFC frame of mind, can you convert her? She's clearly angling for LJBF but who knows, maybe that can be overcome. Maybe her decisionmaking power isn't so strong on the matter and you're capable of making some decisions for her.

Lemme give you guys an update on this situation:

We exchanged a couple of messages on FB and arranged to meet at a bar. SHE asked me for my # in case she couldn't find me there. She came alone and we had a lot of fun, danced, basically the same experience as before but this time going all the way to a F-close. She told me that she had already decided to break up with her BF when i had met her but just hadn't told him yet. A few days later she did and then met up with me.

This whole thing made me realize, why not ask for a FB close upfront? Never bring up a phone #, which might trigger a reflex response of NO since our society has a negative connotation when a women is asked/gives out her phone #? In fact with a FB close, you can learn a lot about her thru her FB page and have a ton of material to build comfort and seduce. You both "accidentally" realize you have the same taste in movies, music, been to the same country on vacation, etc

what do u guys think?

thats brilliant!.... nuff said.


jitz, you just became my new superhero!

as for the whole FBclose.... im interested to see what others say on the matter.