Attraction, for many it’s just another word that means how to get girls to notice you. How to get girls to see you as an handsome guy with the potentional for a mate. Remember, girls do pick on different aspects regarding “mating”, in this topic I will try to elaborate some of the aspects that spikes attraction with the females.
First let’s take a look at the definition of Attraction.
As you can obviously determine when reading these definitions, they each hold their value. Let’s take a deeper, closer look into each definition at first, after we have discussed the definitions – I’m going to give you some topics which do spike attraction, but first – it’s important that you understand the different definitions properly.
Attraction is something we can influence – it is an influentiable variable in ones life. Therefor we can assume that it’s an act. You can take effect or master the property in which other people are attracted to you.
You can interpret this definition in many variable ways, as thus said in between the different “seperators (;).” However, according to this definition Attraction is a charm, an entity that entices people to notice you. This can either be something abstract/exterior related or some quality that you possess.
Attraction is not a person, it’s a thing. Attraction is the object or element that causes a person to entice or attract somebody else. Therefore, it’s a thing. Elaboration of this is that attraction causes people to notice you.
What attracts people in somebody else, it isn’t the person – it’s the qualities or the characteristics that they possess that make them interesting or attractive. Therefor, it is an option that this quality can offer pleasure to the person that is attracted.
You got physics and you got physical. In physics it’s directly as it is stated in the definition. However in physical meanings – attraction isn’t much different. It’s that magnetic force that acts between 2 oppositely charged bodies(not in persé – most times it is male & female but .. nvdr.) that “ties” them together. In other words attracts them to eachother.
Somebody who has the specific characteristics or qualities will be a specific kind of entertainment to the public. Wether this public being one person, a room filled with an audience or anything else. It’s “Attraction” – this can be relatively mistaken. But people will react to your attraction. In the audience example – this is illustrated perfectly with a room filled with people that payed tickets to see a comedians new show. In this case they are “attracted” to his sense of humor.

Now that we have discussed the different kinds of attraction; let’s talk about what “defines” attraction – for the ladies that is.
Note: This is only based on several field reports & own experience. This may vary from girl to girl.. but in general it’s the same.


Body language
Body language is pretty sure the most important aspect of attraction. But “Why?” you might ask. Because body language typically says more about you then a book or a page can. Even more then your own journal problebly can. This is simply because body language is a general accepted concept that depicts one behaviour and his view about him as a person – concious or subconcious. However – what is vital in body language and what is not? We’ll take another closer look.

1. Arm movement
Having arms is like everyone. I’m going to take a bet – when you enter the room of an audience you don’t know.. you’re arms are most likely to be in 4 places.

• - Your hands & arms will be crossed in front of your torso;
  - Your arms will be hanging by your side with your hands casual (with your
  fingers ticking against your pants or just touching your other fingers.
  - Your arms will be hanging by your side with your hands in your front pockets.
  - Your hands will be touching your head.

Each of these movements will give a bad impression towards a girl. The first movement depicts you have a closed character (subconcious) or you are very defensive (concious.)
The second movement will mean your nervous (subconcious & concious.)
The third movement will be that you are closed (subconcious) & have no clue what to do (concious) The last & fourth movement will be even more bad, because it indicates that you are thinking – don’t think - it’s not a good sign. Be spontaneous!
Anyways – now you might problebly be wondering – what is a correct arm movement then? Arm movement that radiates that you are a direct & open person. Hold your hands in your back pocket – this depicts certainty & self-assurement. Also it will tighten & put your torso more in the spotlight – this depicts dominance.

2. Solid Rock Stance
*Wiggle Wiggle* You all know the song, it's rather famous. But do you know that 90% of all the guys on the world also act this way in life when they are nervous. You can't sit still, you start tapping with your feet, you keep ticking with your fingers against the wall. Oh hell, you even start getting sweaty because you move to much. Doesn't this sound familiar? I bet it does.

This is one of the most unattractive things for a girl, a guy that is show nervous that he starts ticking or moving to anything that he's leaning to. Or sitting at. How can we work with this? Well it's actually very simple. The biggest tip I can give you, shift all your weight on one leg to keep yourself occupied with standing straight or solid. Spread your legs, this way you can't keep ticking with your feet, if you are sitting make sure you hold a statue image. This way you won't look really nervous.

A great thing I actually learned when I was watching "The Next Pick Up Artist" is positioning. How you position yourself between girls does actually matter. For example, you are talking with a 2-set. And they are close to the bar, don't go stand right away from the bar, Go stand in between them, with your back leaned to the bar. This way you shift your weight, you across as a confident guy and you won't be as nervous because you are in a relaxed pose.

3. Eye contact
Eye contact may be the most important thing in body language. You can express every single feeling that you have ever felt with your eyes.

• - Being sad – your eyes show tears.. thusfor you’re being emotional.
  - Being angry – you’re eyes tigthen … thusfor you’re emotional.
  - Being suprised – you’re eyes widen open .. thusfor again you’re emotional.

Each of these actions will sound familiar if you pay attention to it. Thusfor eye contact and eye expression are important. When engaging don’t make sure your eye expression doesn’t differ to much – stay relaxed and a bit monotone. You can express to show that you are “living” with what she is saying but don’t be overexpressing – it will cause different impressions – and they all aren’t that good.
However when you are actually talking to a girl – or a boy, your boss, your family, … - always keep a 80%-90% eye contact. NEVER 100% - this will creep some people out – you must be sure that if you do this “100%” you do it with people who you know. Anyways the 80%-90% rule of eye-contact ensures the following:

• - It shows you are showing interest.
  - it shows you are self-assured, confidence & self-aware of yourself.
  - It depicts dominance.

The 20%-10% that’s left is to be a bit mysterious to this girl – be a bit vague. You can’t give away all your “benefits – advantages” towards other guys too fast.

4. Voice tonality
Voice tonality can express a lot of things. Aswell positve as for the negative side. For example; You’re talking to a girl and you’re expressing a rather monotone tone towards this girl. She won’t have the slightest interest in your because you talk the same – constantly. You don’t vary – thusfor giving her the impression you don’t do anything variable in your life – thusfor you are boring. Remark – this can happen in 2 seconds time!

Another example of voice tonality is overuse. Example: you are talking to a girl – and with each sentence you change your tonality – can be slightly or it can be big, whatever it is.. you will again give a bad impression. This time you’ll be the creep. You know the guy that really gives them HUGE EYES with fear.. yeah .. now it’s you!

The best & perfect example is to switch your tone on a regular basis. Not to much.. but on a regular basis. Even more important that whenever you talk, always talk with enthousiasm and if you respond to something she says – respond with care & actual interest. You can put this in tone aswell.

5. Hand movement & touch
Hand movement is another sign that you can express your feeling & give an attraction feeling with. Remember to be really cautionable with this, because again, it can give the wrong impression and sometimes even worse than other body language signs. My advice for hand movement is that you need to use them to express your vocal expressions. What I actually mean with this is; whenever you talk – wave your hands (not actually wave to the girl) but wave around with them. It will give an open impression and a caring was. Also it will strengthen the indication of passion about the subject you’re talking. Remember – never go too wide with your expression – keep it plain & simple.

What do I mean with hand touch? Don’t have greasy hands, don’t have TOO soft hands, but most of all DON’T have sweaty hands. It’s the worst turn-off for woman ever. It’s saying “hey look – talking to you makes me really nervous”. A woman will continue thinking about you in a former stage for example – “wow if he’s this sweaty just talking to me – he must be like a mob that just came out of a bucket when he’s having sex with me.” Make no mistake – IT will POPP in their heads.

6. Smile
Always, and I say ALWAYS smile. It shows confidence – happiness and just that you are enjoying yourself. Woman love to be around people who are confident (know what they are doing & who they are), happy (scientificly proven – has to do with endorfines and stuff) & enjoying yourself.. means that they will enjoy themselves too when they are with you. But do please keep in mind – your smile should be real – not a faked one. Woman will pick this up really fast – it’s like a 6th sense.


More factors will be added over the upcoming days such as Appearences(grooming, clothing,...) "You represent who you are "(self-esteem,respect, state of mind, ...) & vocal expression (sexual talk, direct talk, ...)

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what a good post!very informative!!

I love it lyrical.... cant wait to see what you have next. Ill post more when i get a chance

Appearence
As many of you do validate this, appearences do actually make a difference. A good first impression, is vital because a first impression can only be made once. The fact that a girl won’t be interested in a hobo – is just because she dresses herself up and you dont. Which in that fact would be a princess dating a farmer – no love involved that is. You just can’t see that happening anytime soon, can you? Okay so here we go! Another interestesting factor: Appearences.

1. Grooming
Grooming, or shaving or cutting side burns. These are all very important things once again. A lot of different sideburns or beards or whatever exist. So remember to keep thinking about shaving yourself. I’m going to describe a few. Regarding sideburns:

• - Long sideburns, till the bottom of your face (straight line) -> wild & unclean impression.
  - Short sideburns, a bit like a stopple beard (straight line) -> give a good, strong, clean impression.
  - Short sideburns, leading up to your beard -> Edgy – playerish & wild vibe.
  - Long sideburns, leading up to your beard -> definitly worst option of the 3.

As you can tell – sideburns do matter. These are some of the various options that you can have while having sideburns. Please do pay attention to how you shave them. Now onto beards! Regarding beards:

• - Long beard, messy & distorded hair -> Give a nutcake – professor look.
  - Long beard, shaved a clean -> Give an intelligent look in combination with wild.
  - Short beard, ringish -> imo, they gave a gay look. But some girls do dare to say intelligent is also an option with this kind of beard.
  - Short beard, just a regular one -> again, a lot of impressions, give you a bit of a distinct option & makes you resemble an italian (apparently!)

Now, as you can tell .. there are a lot more other different types of beards & you can go really deep into them. However, again I’m telling you, make sure you pay attention to this factor. Girls hate a guy that doesn’t do anything about his facial hair.

2. Accessoires
A lot of people will look at this with a strange, odd eye. “Why?” you might again wonder, because it looks a lot like peacocking. But then again – define peacocking & what is an accessoire to you ? To me peacocking is being “outside boundaries” with your outift. Beat hat, pink long coat.. whatever, that’s peacocking. An accessoire is another part of your personal game. It’s an extension of who you are, just like your piece of clothing is.
Do never ever underestimate the power of a good accessoire. For example a wristband.
I have a leather white one, brown one & a black one. Each for my different outfits (black, brown or white) anyways – they give me that edgy surfer look. Girls dig surfer or wild looks. Just to remind you! Or a scarf, a necklace (no, its not gay!) .. just about anything is something cool. Even a hat – if it fits you. But do make sure, then when you wear this, it’s not just an attribute, it’s an extension. You need to be able to explain why you wear it or what the motivation behind wearing it is.

3. Clothing
Clothing – what defines clothing in attraction. Some girls like guys who suit up, other girls like guys who look italian. But EVERY girl likes a guy who dresses up just for himself. Why? It’s a sign of respect. A sign of selfrespect. Like I said with accessoire, it’s not just a piece of clothing – it is an extension of your character. I will address a few types of clothing below:

• - A nice suit -> Will give a general good impression. But remember, the place where you are going too, might have a different eye on what you are wearing because a suit might be out of placement.
  - Casual clothing -> Casual clothing is just the best option there is. There is nothing special about it, but it does make you feel good. Showing people that you wear the same at night as at day is just another bonus for you. Because it means you don’t have to “change” for anybody’s opinion.

However what you do need to realise, casual clothing doesn’t set you apart. It does not distinct you from all the other guys in the club. So what does? I’d say something special.
I wear a scarf when I go out, hell I wear it everytime I go somewhere, even inside my own house. It’s my identity but it also disqualifies me from the rest of the guys. They ain’t wearing that, it does not identify them. It is not an extension of who they are as it is for me. Find your own piece of clothing that extends your character!

4. Odeur (or smell – but didn’t like this!)
Your odeur (or scent) is something important. A guy who has a stinky breath is a turn off – he hasn’t brushed his teeth is what they will think. Even worse, just by thinking that.. they have their entire life planned out in 1 second with a guy that doesn’t brush his teeth. So this scent is important – always brush your teeth. Yeah but I can solve this with Tic Tacs a peppermint candy? Yeah so? You like having red teeth then & turning girls more off? Remember you’re doing this for yourself aswell! Not only for them. Personal hygiëne!

A shower.. The less you shower – the more your body will develop a natural stench. This isn’t good, hell, far from it. Take atleast 3 showers a weak to keep your body scent clean! Wash your face several times a day – it will also help.

And last but not least, perfume. Perfume is an awesome treat. I love it. Yeah, okay, that sounded gay. But think about it, what does perfume mean? If you smell sweet – you are sweet. If you smell odd – you are odd. It’s another extension of your personality. Remember that this extension is really important in everything! So when you go choose a perfume, don’t pick one that smells good. Pick one that smells good and defines your character. Mostly the name – kinda helps. Just an example I usually wear “Animagical” or “Urban motion.” These perfumes define my character – I am an urban type of guy. I dress myself that way and my mind is marked that way. Animagical – I am the combination of a hunter – a jaguar and I am magical. Magical are my words & my actions. Magical is a definition of my mysterious side. See, it’s not just something – it’s an extension.

5. Skintone
So.. tell me, what is your skin like? Are you white like a zombie? Are you red like a tomatoe from sunbathing too much? Brown like a guido from “Jersey shore” or are you just a bit tanned from enjoying the sun when it’s up but not overdoing it? I can tell you directly that the first 2 answer – they ain’t good for attraction. Nobody wants to date a dead guy or nobody wants to date a vegetable. It’s easy!

The 2 other options do mark you a lot more – the guido color is awesome for attraction. But it requires a lot of sunbathing. You prolly might ask why this is ideal? Because it’s exotic. Guys from southern places (spain, portugal) or w/e they can validate what i’m about to say. When those guys go to a location where all the guys are casual white – they hit it off with an 80% chance. It’s just normal. The last option is also something good – it doesn’t overdo it – but still gives off that little exotic vibe – which of course.. is what you all want right? You all want to be a bit exotic for a lady… don’t you?

Now I will talk about appearances cause by social effects. These kinds of appearances aren’t material based but social value based.

6. Social Circle
The more you can fit yourself in any type of outgoing social circle, the more you benefit with this for spiking attraction. Why – a social circle is equal to social proof. Those people go out with you for being you, yourself. Those people know you aswell. You don’t need to be different. A girl will notice if you are alone or if you are with friends having fun. It’s all social impression.

Even more important – the larger your social group is… the higher your chances are for getting this girl. Social circle is something you can expand really easy by just saying a simple “Hi” to everyone you meet. You do not have to know them, but it’s just being friendly. Say it with a smile and you will come over a lot more charasmatic and interesiting to a random girl. She will problebly think you know a lot of people, therefor a lot of people must like you.

Last example of an important social circle. When in attraction phase befriend the social circle of your “target”, better said woman. This is because if her friends like you, she will like you too. Remember they are friends for a reason, they like eachother, they think a lot alike and therefor have a lot of same interests. So if her best friend likes you, then why shouldn’t she?

7. Status
Your status – nobody is going to date you if you are the underdog on the social circle. But even though, nobody is going to date you either if you are the biggest prick in the world, even though you know a lot of people. Status is very important.
In a group of friends – be sure to be 100% completely yourself this will cause attraction. If you are the outgoing, social, party-moving, shot-caller type of guy like I am, there is no hestitation about attraction. There just IS! Be the type of guy everybody wants to be with, be the type of guy they can rely on and build on. Be the alpha! Be social, be dominant, be funny & be secure.

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So does that mean that LD should give you a + vote as well ? :)

You just want that 50$ from Amazon don't you ;P

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Yes Sir!

To bring some value added to this thread, I like what you did LD. Nicely written.

I would add one piece on your first post, in your body language section. You go into great detail into arm movement, smilint and all, but one thing that helped me a lot and was harder to control was jitery/body movement. By that I mean shifting my weight from one leg to another, rocking my body if you will. Heck just moving around a lot. That showed a lot of nervousness. A great tip to combat that is to put most of your weght on one leg and keep it there. Focus on it. Work on it. If you body is stable when you speak it shows all the good things.

Good work :)

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Thank you TheJ ! Great to hear that you like it. Anyways about your point - I forget that completely! Thanks for reminding me.. i'll put it between it. Thanks man.

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i'm curious about something.This things you said help you project something that you are not(if you are just starting out for example).So it's a lie,that becomes more and more true as you progress,and some day,you won't need any techniques and stuff like that.But what if the girls do it the same,how can you figure out wich are fake.Because i'm sure a lot of girls have an agenda too,how to figure it out?

I understand what you mean, however, you start giving too much about what they do or could to do you. You need to reach that mental state first.

In the beginning it is a "lie" - it depends how you look at the things I am saying. For me it wasn't a lie that I started out - I projected myself to work to something more real. I knew that these things were pointers for my workpoints. And thus I handled these pointers.

Now I'm at the stage that I don't really care that girls have their own "hidden agenda." Every person has his or her own personal agenda. And these things that I'm pointing out in this topic are just pointers - it's not a hidden agenda. You always do things for a reason - a girl can go with your seduction for fun, for interest, for love. It are different reason - but you can chose how this affects you and that's the most important lesson to learn!

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“You attract what you are”
However this sentence sounds really familiar to most of you guys, because it’s a famous quote. It’s not exactly what I mean but it’s the one that comes most close to it. I’m going to describe in this chapter of my article that the girls that you attract are a result of your inner game. In other words, you are going to attract girls the more you a concious about your strengths. Subconciously your confidence will “radiate” to the outside world and you will be noticed.

1. Confidence
Confidence – it’s a hard thing to understand. What do we define under this word, under this “strength and it’s weakness?” Confidence is actually nothing more than believing in yourself. It’s the positive and the negati… oh wait – no ! There is no “negative” – you gotta work around it. Instead of being “negative” about ourselves, let’s call it workpoints.

Anyways, what I’m actually saying is. Confidence in who you are, results in a more attractive energy around you. This way you do have a more attraction level than any other guy, not because of how you look but because of the way that you believe in yourself. Believing in yourself can result in a lot of ways – the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you dance & smile.. Confidence – it’s one of the most important key factors to success as well as in relationships as in businessrelations.

If you are curious about how to find “confidence” – my tip is. Go do something that you always wanted to do – grow in it. And feel confident about your ability to do something you please. The more you get used to it – the more confident you will become. It’s the same with approaching. If you only sit at home and don’t do something that you love – i.e. approaching – you won’t get anywhere, you won’t feel confident about your skills an beliefs.

2. Selfrespect
Selfrespect – acknowledging what you can do and what is still hard for you does again result in an outer decoration. Now you are problebly wondering “I already respect myself, what the hell is he saying?”

It’s easy, you know that when you step up to a girl you mostly go like “excuse me?!” Voila, there goes your selfrespect. You are excusing yourself to ask for her attention. Why? There is nothing wrong with you – there is nothing wrong with asking for her opinion about something or just to have a talk. Stop excusing yourself for your actions.

Remember you are doing them for a reason, so why do you have to apologise for it? You need to be proud of your actions and proud of your desires. So stop saying you’re sorry and start being a man with needs! Agree to them, learn with them & grow with there.Like hoobie said:
“There are no failures & no rejections. Only experience & growth”

3. Evironmental awareness
What do I mean with this? Be aware of your situation but don’t let it affect your personality. Grow to your situation around you – adjust. A person is like a cameleon I say. A cameleon will camouflage himself in his situation but it won’t change his character. What I’m actually expressing with this – be ready to see around you. Notice the effects some guys have on some girls, notice the effect you have on girls.
But most of all – notice the external factors that influence once’s behaviour in a too drastic. This is the most important thing to learn from. Whatever influences other people’s behaviour, makes them change. Be sure that it won’t affect your change, not in a drastic way. This way – you can be independant from it and create another field of attraction – independance.

4. State of mind
State of Mind. Is something you can accomplish rather easy – a tric for this are affirmations. You can copy affirmations from mPUA’s but they won’t help you much further then when you write your own affirmations. Affirmations that you create yourself are based on personal experiences and therefor they are based on your personal goals and personal problems.

State of mind is actually variable to different kind of situations – wether or not something bad happened or something, it will influence in you in a specific way – adjusting your state of mind. The key or the tric is to keep a steady state of mind. Not be influenced by to many external factors – cause when you actually get influenced by it, you will lose control and get more depressed.

A good way for “State of Mind” is meditation – a basic exercise is one written by Zac L in the topic “Core value of a Man” in the inner game section of the game. It’s a basic meditation example and it will relax you – making you forget a lot of things and it will be more easy to get into that “State of mind” zone than with some other things. Of course – this is for each person different – I’m saying in general it helps a lot. The more advanced you get in meditation again – the more you can do it at different locations & situations. This way your steady “State of Mind” is more guaranteed.

5. Attitude
Attitude is what makes the exterior difference between an arrogant douchebag and a sentimental mr nice guy. It’s how you look at life and how you wish to experience it. It can be attractive but it can also be an entire attraction destroyer. You need to pay good attention to how you wish to “adjust” your attitude.

You will hear a lot of people saying “there is nothing wrong with you, you are perfect the way you are.” But if you don’t believe it – than what to they mean? They are seeing you as a person, a good person with a healthy attitude. But however, they do not know your inner problems – the points that you struggle with and that you wish to improve.

As long as you don’t acknowledge that you have workpoints, you won’t be able to get enough confidence and selfrespect. And this will take affect on your daily routines & appearences. So for this matter, your attitude is actually a product of your inner strength.

A good and mental attitude is “I’m an amazing guy, I do tons of positive things! BUT… I do have plenty of things to learn.” Nobody is perfect – in contradiction to many PUA products on the market – there is always room for error & always room for improvement. The best attitude comes forth out of realisation of your inner competence.

My mental attitude is like this “I am an amazing guy, I do what I want – when I want it as long as I do not harm other people with it. But I place myself first.” I was a Mr Nice Guy – Now i’m not alpha - but I’m a real guy. “What’s the bloody difference and why do people talk about alpha?” You might wonder.

As I have explained before in another post of mine – An alpha is just a label. A label for a guy that appears to be socially dominant, self secure & aware and in contradiction to the real guy – does not care about other persons. A Real Guy however does. He knows why he is dominant, he knows why he cares about himself and thus he strives for perfection in the most outrageous way – however he will not ever do something that will harm another being – being humon or an animal. This is because he respects it.

Conclusion
What I tried to explain here is:
Attitude is a product of selfrespect & confidence. You gain this; through experience and realisation of yourself . The more you realise you are constant, the more you realise you are good, the more you are in that state of mind. The more succes you will experience

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Great thread mate. You really got some solid points in there. And i really value your cover on body language.

+ 1 my man

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Vocal Expressions

Vocal expressions are prolly not so important because of the many ways you can handle them. Even though I would like to be sure to speak a few words about it. Remember you can’t have a conversation if you are quiet and she won’t be attracted to your looks only. So you will need to have a “type” of converstion. What I do wish to stress regarding this topic.. make sure you “observate” for a sec with some of these types. For example you can’t just be like “sexual” talk as an opener. It will give a wrong buzz.. atleast – to most woman. Like I said “Observe & Report!”

1. Direct Talk
Direct talk is my opinion the best way because you can easily get noticed – the girl will know your intentions pretty fast and there is no whapping around the bushes. A girls like a guy that does what he want, that speaks his mind and is not afraid to do it. Being direct is one of the best things that you can do. It allows you also to go for a faster kino than regular “indirect” talk because of the tension you create early on during the conversation.

Be sure to note that when you use direct talk – don’t go in TOO fast. I’m stressing this really hard because it will come over as a creep. Pay attention to what you say – how you formulate it but be sure to say it DIRECT. Be sure to SPEAK YOUR MIND. That’s what eventually matters in direct game. You will notice the reaction from the girl being a lot more pleasant because you’re the only one being direct – the other guys will problebly be whipping around the bushes.

2. Indirect Talk
Indirect talk is a good way to build a safe comfort zone, but you need to watch out. Too much indirect talk can bring you in the friend zone, really fast! So be sure to switch to direct on a given point. I was watching “Flawless Natural” by Tim from RSD and he said “If you don’t kino in the first minutes – there is no chance that you can escalate.” I think this regards to direct & indirect talk aswell. It can be a good thing to open indirectly but you need to make sure that you switch fast to your direct talk.

Indirect talk is a safe way of opening, it doesn’t give you a push like direct talk and the girl will feel at ease. But remember a girl that is at ease – mostly won’t be chasing you or won’t be feeling attracted to you. I actually advise you to go with a minimal of indirect talk.

3. Sexual talk

Seksual talk is a lot of fun. But you need to realise a couple of things if you wish to pull of a good sexual talk.

• - You need to be confident in yourself – else it will not work;
  - It needs to go paired with good strong eye contact & body language;
  - Kino is also very important to give the girl the right impressions.

Sexual talk arrouses really fast and it’s very easy if you do it correctly. But you need to watch the previous mentioned, listed, items. Also, do never ever open with a direct “sex” opener. Do not, I agree, do not do this. This mostly creeps them out and if you are too confident – it will be really bad too because it will give off a vibe that you are doing this on a regular basis – which is too “player” like for most girls.

4. Humoristic talk
Humoristic talk is awesome! It can give you so much advantages in every single way. You can go into sexual, direct in just one strike. You can skip branches, you can do everything that you want with it. You’re the joker – a girl laugs a guy that can laugh that is filled with humor. So don’t be afraid to go crazy or to do something crazy. There is nothing bad about it – in fact, the girls will notice it and they will act to it too!

When talking in a humoristic way you can easily pick up a lot of different vibes and you can work in sexuality in a subtle way. This way you can escalate fast and strong – while not being rejected just because you are doing it in a “comical” way.


5. Intrueging & mysterious talk
This kind of talk is fun – but it’s hard. You need to come across as the adventurous, mysterious and intrueging type. You need to make them guess to your answers. It will give a fun topic. For example; Now this ends my article about attraction, I hope you guys found it usefull and use these pointers wisefully. These are based on my personal experience. Enjoy!

LyricalDream

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Finally got done reading the post LD i enjoyed it very much the only thing i would like to ad is that sexual talk and humor should only be mixed with great caution as it can lead them to think that there is no truth in it or your a creep. sexual talk and humor should be done with strong eye contact and escalation but make sure its at least a little classy and you have some comfort before you go dry humping her leg in a comedic way

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