So my ex has contacted me a fair amount over the last 2 months. To start with I did not answer when she was sending messages saying "had a really kinky dream about you last night". Then she wrote again, then wrote to me on my birthday. I replied with a simple thank you.

Now shes written again about another sex dream.

This is a girl who cheated on me then told the second guy I was gone when she was really playing us both.

What does she want? Why is she bothering me after she treated me so badly!

From a psychology standpoint she probably wants two things.

1) to be in control
2) To have external affirmations of her self worth

From your brief description it seems she deserves neither.
Tell her that if you want to fuck you will call her and that she should probably stop wasting her time. She will love that.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

I'm gonna give you the advice that i wish i followed when i was in your exact same situation.

cut her off man, she's trying to play you. She wants to feel like she can control you...and girls love it.

There are tons of girls who can appreciate you and won't cheat on you. This girl seems untrustworthy,her cheating on you was a wake up call.

Good luck man, i know its hard but trust me i was in the same boat as you, and now i regret talking back to her cause she cheated on me again.

Remember dude a leopard never changes its spots .. As the other members have said stay well clear & cut her off ... Your worth more than that and you deserve better..

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let me give a piece of advice because i ve recently been through this and heres a simple way to deal wiith her: tell her to go away then ignore her! if she asks you way tell her why because you dont trust her and that shes just a cheater!

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I kinda disagree with you, just let her go and don't even bother talking to her.
Just forget about her completely and cut her off.

Dreams often coincide with thoughts you have sometimes during the day time etc

So she has probably been thinking about you recently.

The ball is in your court and I recon you are in control

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"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

about two years ago i went through a one-itis with a girlfriend who had broken up with me and it was pretty harsh, so i'll agree with jay dog on this one, cut contact.

as for her little dream, she could be honest or she could be feeding you a big bowl of BS, though if you don't utterly hate her, it can be fixed somewhat, my ex and me are currently having sex no strings attached, and we function very well together though she seriously played me to the point of depression.

but i think it's a long shot, and thinking back the process we went through was seriously not worth it! (took us about a year and a half to get from the breakup to where we are now)
so yeah, I'd say cut contact

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"seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already".
-Waiter Rant

She wants to do to her current boyfriend, what she did with you. And when she's done with you 2 clowns, she'll find more. You don't seem like the type who's F'd up enough to laugh this off and jack off down her throat. Nor do you seem like the type who'd just laugh it off, keep her as your simpleton, low self-esteemed possible pivot buddy.

So just cut all the BS from your life.

I hope I don't get flamed off this forum for suggesting this, but I think you should fuck her and then cut off all contact afterwards.

I duno about you but I always miss my ex-girlfriend's vulva after a while and I can't help but dream of having one more go at it.

Of course, this will take an extraordinary amount of mental discipline as you need to make sure you don't end up trying to get back with or something (in which case, I am truly truly sorry for being the one to suggest this).

Otherwise I think you should text her, and literally say "let's have sex tomorrow." Lay down the pipe like Luigi, then leave right after. Don't cuddle or anything, you'll just be giving her the self-affirmation she needs.

Personally I just don't think there's any point in denying yourself sex when there's a vagina wide open in front of you with a sign that says [Insert Penis]

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