| Pleasure to meet you guys.
I came on to thank the community partly, and give back a bit.
First some context: 22years old. 6'1 180-185 lbs ex boxer of 4 years, now doing bjj for about 3. Have a good physique.
Was a loner and ugly duckling for most of my life and stuck at home until about grade 11. My social skills are relatively weak and were ridiculously weak only a few years back, but boxing got me out of the rut and I won't lie probably my height and size as well. (full disclosure last year before I weight lifted I was at 165lbs).
When I first got dumped by my ex I had no fucking clue about any sense of game. And I was desperate too. I'm the moron who went clubbing 15 times and got one grind. I'm great looking, but being a fucking hermit with no social skills ridiculously alters my 'game' for the worse never mind my original state of terrible confidence.
Anyhow, what the PUA community gave to me: Lame fucking scripted openings that do work because at least you have something. I've been rejected hundreds of times, and still do (I love it and it no longer even touches my ego). I could never approach these bitches. Now I do all the time, all because of the practice the scripted openings. Just do it, and play a long. Talk to her, have fun and if it dies down walk away. The robotic stuff never worked for me.
Regardless, pua gave me a foundation. I still have weak game I think, relative to what it can and will be in 3 or 5 or 10 years of this. but last night I nailed the tightest pussy I ever had. I paid 5 dollars for skating, made her pay her 5 dollar ticket and then took her home. My friends came over so I dropped her off then more girls came over and I fooled around with one of them. I remember just after my 2nd crazy bitch ex dumped me I had 3 I would nail (how they didn't find out I still don't know).
Anyhow, that last paragraph wasn't bragging or anything. Actually I think these broads waste too much time and money while SPAM too much headache.
Ok here is what I think would help you guys out (I truly think this will help and is what the PUA community is lacking)
-High intensity sports to build your body up. (Gym, boxing, bjj, muay thai etc. but avoid the traditional martial arts I really don't believe in them)
-Career. These bitches NEVER came to me at my low points (which I will always remember) Even fat chicks rejected me after my first girl dumped me and my confidence hit rock bottom. Get a degree, and become successful. SUCCESS GUARANTEES PUSSY and will easily offset your need for game. Don't waste too much time trying to figure out the technicals of talking to girls, they COME TO YOU when you have money, power, fame, etc. those kids with rich parents and BMWs generally get laid a lot. Whatever, fuck them too, my dads not rich.
-Say no. There are a few meanings to this that I have thus far discovered: I played a little game with a 2set in mexico this holiday. I asked them to guess my name. They guessed a bit then one of them said "shithead". Walked away. She chased me down to say sorry and a few hours later I was fingering the crap out of her on the beach(fucking security guard cockblocked me, but oh well thats another story). Or when a girl asks to be taken out somewhere, saying no puts you in a position of power.
-PUA seem to think phone numbers = success. I personally believe sex = success. I've gotten so many useless numbers, does it really mean something? I guess partial interest, but far from success.
-Do not chase women. I fucking hate clubs. I went only one more time after those 15 failures (I went a week after my second dumped me and the first 15 were after my first dumped me) but this time I made out with this hot chick (probably the hottest I'd done stuff with at the time) and felt her up. But for me that shit is gay. Clubs are where women go to turn men down and boost their own egos. Plus you pay money for alcohol and cover and it guarantees nothing. Instead you could be studying. If I'm at school or a mall and theres a girl, I'll play the game then. Why go out of your way for these useless broads? It only wastes your scarce resources (money, time, ego). Finally, I hate clubbing bitches. They are the worst. They blow so much cash on their ugly dresses, alcohol, and get all these dicks pressed on their asses. You want to chase these skanks? Don't bother, they are plentiful
To summarize, build yourself up physically, mentally, and financially. Find a well off man who is in great shape that cant get laid? You won't find too many. Enjoy yourself and not these bitches. They'll never bring you out of a rough time, and they may cheat on you in the long run, etc. Only do stuff that you enjoy doing, and if they ask you to do stuff you don't want to do then just say no. If they insult you, kick em out of the car or just walk away.
Good luck guys, hopefully we all continue learning and improving.
Lorne
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