ok so there's this girl, we will call her Aimee. I've known Aimee since freshman year (last year) but we hardly talked. now this year, starting in august, I saw her in the library cuz we are both on newspaper. I asked her what she was up to then talked to her for about an hour. at the end I got her number and things looked good and then at some point in september we just stopped talking almost completely. recently in the past month or so we've been texting more frequently and talk a LITTLE in class. both me and my friend who has a class with her is under the impression she is iterested in me. she is always joking and stuff, but sometimes she just is flirty and says things that make me think she likes me. I offered for her to tag along with me and some friends today but she decided not to cuz she wouldve been the only girl and my friends don't know her, but she seemed happy for the offer. she gives me trouble for not talking to her more in class. we have. dance coming up on February 12. I was thinking I should ask her to that so that there's not too much implications of dating yet. but if things were to go well, I was gonna ask her out. so what should I do? thanks guys and girls

I think is the case where the girl likes you but she is waiting for you to make a move. definitely ask her to the dance. now, why would you ask a girl to join a sausage party?? at this point you should it chose her instead of your friends. you are hesitating more than you suppose to. I would say ask her out for a coffee or something simple, then look for three IOI if you get them, wrap it up with a kiss at the end. good luck

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yeahi know what you're saying. it was kinda so for future reference she knew I wanted to hang out.

she actually called me today and we talked for twenty minutes with no silences or anything.

any more advice?

so she asked me how I felt about her. I told her I kinda like her. she told me that she always screws things up and doesn't realize she likes a guy til it's too late. she said she wasn't sure if she liked me, but she likes talking to me. I then just got forward and asked if she's just letting me down easy. but she says "not at all. it is what is says"

so basically I'm thinking it's my job to progress things further until she realizes she likes me. I'll ask her to the dance and start hanging or with her. I'll keep flirtiness up and kiss her. what do y'all think?

nice! now, hang out with her more. key things, body contact, grab her by hand when you directing her. but not for too long. now is her turn to show you if she likes you. you did your part now you wait for her to do her part. if she realizes she likes you she will start playing the touching game back. good luck!

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yeah thanks man. I get what you're saying.

she's actually initiated kino with me everytime in the past, and she does when we do talk. she usually playfully hits me or something just to touch. I think I need to step up and return it.

yeah so it's like two and a half weeks til the dance and I'm not sure when to ask her. might not even have a ride, which would mean I'd be walking. I still really want to ask her, just not sure when.

also, should I not text her everday even though she said she likes to talk to me? I don't want to come off desperate, but I dont want her to forget about me.

and talking to her can be difficult due to the way class is that I have with her. there's really hit and miss opportunities to do it, but I'm TRYING. some days I might not even talk, then others we night spend half the hour just laughing and talking.

it shouldn't be so damn complicated, I just want to see how a couple dates go, I don't want things to be dramatic. she's a really down to earth friendly girl so I know she won't be awkward if thugs don't workout.

please tell me what to do, I always used to find a million reasons not to go for a girl, but I'd ignore the other million reasons to ask her out. thanks in advance:)

Hey mate, as you say yourself, you always find a million good reasons not to ask out a girl, well here is one good reason to do it:

what if it works out?

sounds like you generally like the girl, and personally i would go for it in your position, if you're looking to get a date or two with her before asking her to the dance, this is how I usually go about it:

All I'll do is simply to not give her a choice in the matter, this requires a bit of trust between you and the girl, but it seems like you have that end down.
usually I say something like "i just crushed my homework for today/this week, lets celebrate, we'll watch (insert random fun movie)"

usually i do this line over facebook or text it, and its worked like a charm to set up some casual (but sneaky) dates with some of the girls in my social circle that i fairly know but isn't too close with, i can then escalate or get to know the girl depending on what kind of relationship i want to built with her.
the good things about this method is:
1: it's generally accepted to get together and watch a movie (where i am from)
2: The girl usually doesn't view it as a date, which makes you less likely to be rejected
3: since this is only something i use on girls i have met and talked to on several occasions i can root out which movies she likes, and if im lucky there's movie she would really like to see and thus i can prepare.
4: if executed casually, i can quickly scope out if this is a girl i am interested in seeing sexually, socially or on a more serious basis

hope you can use it, good luck with the girl mate!!


ps. 2magic's words are golden, like he says she showing IOI's so she likes you, but remember keep your cool, dont start touching her every 2 seconds and showering her with affection or compliments for that reason, i still fall into that trap sometimes when i get a little eager, everything in moderation mate

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awesome advice man! anymore?

Sure man, act natural, confident and casual and remember, you shouldn't worry about if she likes you, make her like you, the "what if's" are killers don't fall into that trap, good luck mate!

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thanks man.

I'm thinking if I don't get a chance one on one to ask her this week, I'll call her up and ask. I refuse to text ask a girl to the dance, it's just a poosey move.

I'm usually busy as is she so the time we get to talk face to face is limited and sporadic. I hope to improve it, but still. I want to just be casual about asking her because we are so funny around each other, but I don't want to start a relationship off all serious.

good or bad idea? the dance isn't till feb 12, but i'll ask about 1.5 to 2 weeks ahead, just in case some dudes go for her. any more advice?

thanks all in advance.