ok so i met this girl at a club.. now i dont know whether shes not interested or shes just playing hard to get, but she invited me out on a night with her friends, so i took the day off work the next morning and went with one of my mates...

and lucky i did too because i only saw her 2 times in the night...! first time i didnt notice her in the smoking area until my friend said "she was looking at you as you walked past but when i saw her she quickly put her head down"... she knew i didnt see her but maybe wanted to know why i was there cos i dont smoke... i was just gaming girls, which i found out exactly how to game girls on the dance floor now so i did get a little extra gaming experience from the other night! haha

i was giving her a few texts before this but it was quite flakey like "nah dont worry were going to be a bit late.." i only wanted to wait because they had a guest list and it wouldve been free to get in with them but i didnt in the end and i didnt text her until like midnight saying something about a little joke thing and her dancing but no reply so ive not texted her since, i did stop and talk to her friends for like 2 minutes after when we walked past each other but not her, she looked like she wanted to talk to me but her friends were just all over me.. they were quite drunk...

apparently i rang her 3 times while i was in the club, i dont remember that at all as i was drunk.. im now trying to figure out is she just playing a little hard to get cos literally a few hours ago she gave me her number and all that shit, maybe it was just cos i was drunk and came off a bit needy...?

there is recovering from this i hope... im just not exactly sure how...?
obviously ill wait a few days, and drop her a text or a facebook chat message or something.. but any ideas exactly? i dont think apologising is my part of the deal.. but im open to all suggestions...

Cheers for reading

A lot of PUA's don't like to do what you are doing, chasing the girl. By what you have put she seems to be the one in control most of the time. Not how you want it.

Getting drunk and then ringing her non-stop is also not a good idea but talking to other girls in front of her is a great one, she should then become more attracted to you and chase you etc

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"I guess a little small talks in order here now."

"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

Ok so how would i pull it around? Have loads of girls posting on my facebook? Coa i get around 30 new girls on my facebooka week im sure i can get a few to write back to me on my wall...

But should i try reinitiate on a few days? And how?

im sure i can get some advice on how i can re-initiate and set-up a date after kind of showing a bit of neediness..

i need one date, if its out clubbing even better... ill get her back into attraction and have the ball back into my side of the court...

how can i get her out with me?

When I said to talk to girls in front of her, I meant in real life. Preselection and social proof is just one way she could become more attarcted to you. It just shows that you are not giving her to much value and desperate to get her. Also shows you are willing to let her go, as you talk to other girls.

Getting girls to chat with you on facebook could work as long as the girls are seen by her to be investing in you and it's not you failing whilst chatting them up etc

If you need one date, then make it low risk for her..."oh me and some mates are going to club xyz, you should come" or "oh you're going to club xyz one friday, me too, maybe I will see you there"


I'm sure you can think of better ones, this is just the idea. Arrange an easy meet up at a night club you both know, you should build some social proof anf as much preselection whilst there.

Good luck man

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"I guess a little small talks in order here now."

"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

i was thinking of texting her something like... "Hey.. get ready, this friday were going whale hunting in the the ocean!!" its a little joke on the club we go to (basically inviting her out to the club this time)

but should i be trying to make it a one-on-one thing or would it be better if she comes clubbing with me, another bunch of girls who are coming with me and her own friends?