ok guys, long story short, i met this girl when i was in cusco, peru a few years back, we spent an amazing 3 days together and we both agreed it was very special but we had to part company

so she calls me up just after the summer and said she wanted to fly over to visit me, of course i agreed, but after exchanging many phone calls i noticed she kept making excuses to not book the flight, next thing she stops contact and stops returning my calls.

i waited a few months and messaged her on facebook to ask if everything was ok....no reply, i waited a few months more and messaged her again one more time and this time she did reply, she apologised for losing contact and said she still really wants to come over again and gave me her new number and told me to call her.

Should i call her? I think i have put enough effort in so far, was thinking of replying with this message, please tell me if i should use it, or edit it, or not use it at all and just call her

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Contacting this girl would be a waist of energy, don't do it. What are you trying to get out of this anyway, a piece of a$$? There are probably 100 hot women within a 10 mile radius of your location you can game. But here you are chasing a piece of tail that is 1000s of miles away? Come on man.

lovely to hear back from you again, I would be delighted to continue communicating with you and I also very happy to hear that you want for us to meet again because I would love this too. I would really like to call you but the whole thing feels like it has shifted out of balance, I feel that it must be your turn to initiate contact by now, so if what you say is true then here's my number ******** and call anytime or text and i will call you back. I really look forward to hearing from you, if you don't contact i will understand and wish you all my love and prayers in your lifes journey


As far as this reply is concerned, it has approval seeking AFC written all over it.
Personally, I would not contact her, but if I chose to send a reply, it would read something like this...

"Nice to hear from you, here is my number, don't be a stranger."

This communicates confidence (the #1 trait women find attractive in men) and it puts the ball in HER court. If she wants to contact you, she knows where to find you, period. You need to start communicating your higher value here, make her work for your attention, this goes for ALL women.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

thats perfect, thanks

i've put a spin on yours, what do you think?.....

That's cool, Nice to hear from you, here is my number, when you give me a call we can catch up on what we've both been up to xx

I think you missed my point before Peter, here it is again.

Contacting this girl would be a waist of energy, don't do it.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

I wouldn't leave a message that long, short is nice. You should man up. You should be the one in control not her. She needs to call you, not the other way around.

Say something like: Here is my number, If your actually serious this time, then you call ME when you give me a call we can catch up on what we've both been up to xx

I only needed to look at the message you were going to send...don't send it man!

It's far to long, shorten it up with just one question. Also stop mentioning that it's going to be great and you can't wait. Once would do.

Also wtf was the last bit about having a good life if she didn't contact you etc.!!!!!!!

Change the message to something relevant....something you and her talked about...try and make your message less needy and generic and more YOU and excitiing for the receiver!!!

Good luck

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"I guess a little small talks in order here now."

"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

Agree with the guys on here. Don't waste your energy on this one.

Text her, keep it short and sweet!

"Hey [insert name], was in town and saw this funny doll and had to think of you immediately! Laters [your name] x"

And that's it! Move on. Plenty more fish in the sea bro