Hey everyone,

I have read some game theory, and have done a considerable amount to boost my self esteem and cocky-ness. I am pretty much at the point where I know that I am the best thing to ever hit the planet and I carry myself in such a way, and communicate that to everyone whether they are women or men and they laugh ect., and often agree with me.

Now here is the thing: I have some kind of approach anxiety that is rooted so deeply I am having severe problems getting rid of it.

I see beautiful woman at coffee shop, I communicate powerful body language, she notices me I gaze into her eyes and she smiles. I pause wait for her to look down, and then walk right past her as my brain freezes, as does my throat like an adverse reaction to peanut butter. This happens all the time, and I tell myself every day that this is going to be the day that I give those women the opportunity to prove their worth to me, but every day I simply blow them off because of the panic attack. Are there any suggestions for this? I know that woman just would not be able to behave themselves around me if I could get over this step.

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Is your confidence by chance, fake it til you make it? It sounds like you're over-compensating. That doesn't really fly. There's a metric shit ton of threads about AA. The reason I get AA is because I know I don't really have anything to say. That's why it's easy to talk to a girl that's working when I need something, but hard if I need something less concrete like some private time. A routine might help you with that "reason" to engage.

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31 and still figuring it out.

What Minsok said is true. Look at the state you are in. You are confident by using books, material... You aren't confident about who you are, you haven't been soulsearching deep enough to actually KNOW what you're are about. Trust me, you're not the only one.

The other point that Minsok also said is "You get AA because you don't have anything to say" ... I think that's pretty much with every guy the same. Unless you have anything to say .. you won't walk up to the girl or person for that matter, because the outcome isn't relevant to what you need to know.. and since that is nothing. It doesn't matter.

A great way if you are stuck with with AA - starting doing Observe & Report
With other words, go to a mall, look around - identify your target, observe her a bit (non stalkerish way) and then step up to her. Due to the fact you observed her - you know what she's looking for, how she behaves and the opening will be less difficult.
A good example;
It is only as difficult as you want to make it for yourself.

≠ LD

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