If my game was tighter i am sure i could pull this off.. please bear with me


almost 2 weeks ago I met a beautiful 24 year old girl in a club and had a good convo with her. we exchanged numbers, and i called her 2 days after.
that phone call was okay, not totally tight game but i told her i was gonna go on a holiday for the next week and i would like to hang out with her after that week.

after that holiday i called her the same day i came back to my city. she was busy and would call me back soon, then i got a text with at what time she would call me back exactly and she did.
the convo was okay, and i asked her to come have diner with me. then she told me there was this other guy who she really misses (her love or something) and that he was in another country for the next 3 months. She told me however that she was free, and not in a relationship. I told her I understood, and she agreed to come have diner with me.

1 day later I texted her my address and at what time I would pick her up, as I had said in the call 1 day earlier.
she texted back 1 minute later, confirming the date.

that night (i was already asleep) i got this really long text about how she not feeling right about the diner anymore. she said our meeting in the club was really great and she would like to leave it like that. also she was sorry and she also regrets giving me her number (please mind that i barely texted or called her) and that she regrets saying yes to our date.
she says the reason for this is that she has feelings for the other guy and that she would not feel honest with herself and with me if she would come over for diner..

in the text she is very decent and open, she explains everything which I totally respect a lot

however i feel sad about it. I REALLY looked forward for her to come over and have a good time. dont even care about sex, however if she would come over i think i could have sex with her quite easily.

maybe i texted too little, and was too eager on the phone (which doesnt make sense to her, and is probably a flaw in my game) however can someone please take me by the hand a little and show me some insights. I'm still a beginner at this dating stuff and would really love your insights on this.


please

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Mabe you never built enough rapport, after the meet? In terms of fun texts, before suggesting dinner, I would have set up a meet in a public place. Less pressure, things to do, and more comfortable for her and you. Women need comfort remember that.

She gave you her number because she liked you, or she was very drunk, either way, because she liked you!

She probably felt a bit pressured, maybe not over her "love" and the dinner date at yours, felt serious, because it seems it to a woman. Dinner with a man is a serious date.

Next time, again, meet in public, grab a coffee or something, less pressure, show your fun and attractive, then she'll feel more comfortable, you can then proceed for a dinner date next time.

Chel

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I'm pretty my gonna just reiterate the above post but yeah, you could of built up more rapport and made it seem like you two could be more friends to take less pressure off, meet in public like for coffee or whatever.

There may still be a chance in this if you want it, txt/call her randomly and ask if she wants to just hang out as friends, build up in person from there, she likes you, she gave you your number and was thinking about you in a sexual way, as told by the long text she sent and the sense of regret, all you have to do is get rid of that regretful feeling she has.

If she doesn't bite, remember, "I don't care, it doesn't matter" move on to the next one, only thing you can do.

btw awesome sig

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hahah thx

btw, she wasn't drunk at all. She does not drink alcohol like me and she's a yoga instructor.
damn im really bummed about this. anyway i sent her a text that took the pressure off i reckon.
basically I told her i had looked forward to it, but that i understood her decision.

after this all settles a little I'm going in for a less pressure date, or maybe even reestablish the last date.

just waiting for her move right now i guess.. and see how it goes

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

This girl is more attracted to another guy for whatever reason. It's bullshit but there's nothing you can do. You can't blame her, you can't blame yourself. At least she told you what's up rather then just not replying to you and leaving you wondering what the hell happened.

Try not to get attached to a girl when you first meet her. It will save you heaps of disappointment!