Hey guys. Haven't posted any of my own stuff in a while, so thought I'd share this:

I'm going out with a girl on wednesday, that I know from a friend (who is female, that I work with). She's cute, a nice girl, definitely LTR material.

Question is, how do I act?

I've seen her out and about a few times, but on saturday it was my birthday night out, so a group of us went out, I obviously got quite drunk, but I'm a good drunk and just get extra confident, I don't get reckless, stupid etc.

At the end of the night, she said "How comes you haven't got a lady in your life?" (I'm dating a few on and off, but none of them have done it for me!)

I just said " Who said I haven't? and smiled, I just haven't found one that can handle me" She laughed. I said "Where's your man? " She said " I've been single for a year, I though you knew" I brushed it off and said to her, "alright, tell you what, let's go on a date this week!" She said " Yeah, okay, sounds good and smiled".

I left that topic there, we all went home, we've been speaking a lot since, been having a laugh, been cocky, funny etc.

I'm generally good at gaming girls, but rarely interact with girls I know through good friends, because I don;t want to mess things up, in terms of their friendship, so basically, is there anything specific I should do, or be? Any advice really.

I feel good, and she's attracted and having a laugh. Maybe it's just about continuing. Our date's on wednesday, just me and her, probably go for a meal.

Kino the same as usual? K-close as per usual? I'll see her best friend, my colleague the next day at work, ideally, I want to go to work, knowing she's had a good time, which she will, tell our friend all about it and I look great! haha.

Thanks guys

Chel!

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Just carry on like you normally would. Obviously things are on pace as she likes you for you. Just escalate the sexual tension that you two have on your date. Close the same as usual... you can kiss or w/e. Depends on what a work friend will think of you if you game her and hit it on date 1.

Try to hault urself before you f-close. Otherwise... it sounds as if you've already won the prize. She's into you. Now, my question is... how do you keep her from HER prize? lol

Good luck Chel!

Thanks Andy, much appreciated!

To be honest, I don't want to hit her on date 1, for 2 reasons:

I'm looked at as a respectful guy, who can get girls, I don't want her to think she's cheap etc, and that is because I know her already and people I know are mutual friends.

Secondly, I've got to see her best friend the next day at work, I want something easy to talk of if any questions are asked, I don't want to seal the deal straight away, so I don't mess my friendship up.

I'm thinking already of a K close at the end of the night when I drop her off, by saying" See, I told you I was innocent" When she looks at me, see if she smiles etc, show my rebel side and K close, then come out witha cocky line. Probably something I'll let flow.



How do I keep her from her prize? By causing tension, making sure she has a good time, and getting her excited for a meet a few days later.

Thoughts?

Thanks again!

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You keep her from her prize by inflating the sexual tension and not acting on it. You may think, wont that make me into a tease and ruin rapport? NO. Not if you show her in conversation/body language that you are sexual... but theres no intensity to act on something that you ultimately dont need. You aren't a tease because you are showing the general interest of wanting to see her again. You can get women, Ive read some of your posts. Be sexual w/out acting on it, be yourself... and have fun.

Seduction is fun... but its more fun if she doesn't think you're actually doing it.

Haha, thanks Andy! This is just a different situation, obviously, I don't want to mess it up, and I want to learn all situations possible.

I'm just going to go with the flow and have a good night. Usually with the sexual tension, I can raise it, it's just where we have this mutual friend, I'm unsure if it's different, probably not, I.E, th thoughts in her mind, but if so, why would she want us to date ... She already said she thinks I'm very attractive too.

Think I'll go for the K-close, why wait!

Thanks Andy!

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chelio's Just be straight forward with her on your intentions. Tell her you just want to have fun and nothing serious right now Obviously her friends hasn't stopped her yet from seeing you and that's a plus. They know you are gonna hook up its just a matter of time . i would agree with you on holding back on the first date for a few reason
1) Its shows her that YOU are not that easy
2) builds up that sexual tension everyone has been mentioning about
3) she is part of your circle of friends, don't wanna rush things to much
4)Build rapport not only with her but amongst her other friends (basically it can open more doors for you)

Definitely k-close, You know her friends are going to ask her about it. Let her know that its not all just innocent fun and games.

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Well said Reaper.

It's not that I don't want anything serious, it's the fact I don't want to rush it, for the reasons stated, that you have also pin pointed.

Another reason I'm in no rush is because I have other options.

I'm staying calm and composed as ever. I'll go for the K close, when it feels right.

I usually use the "I've been trying so hard not to kiss you tonight"

They usually say "why?" ... Then I just move in for the K-close, and bang, boundary shut down, she will want me again.

Haha.

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We went out today, I did K close, she likes me, said she liked me, and thanked me more than once for a great evening.

I did pay for the date, for 2 reasons, one I know of her and the kind of person she is, secondly she offered to pay, which I said nah I will (wasn't much) She said it's on her next time.

Had fun, she was kino'ing me, more than I was to her, which is a great thing, she was smiling, laughing, being natural and having a good time.

I K closed when I parked up to drop her home, by being a bit cheeky, I said " I would kiss you, but (pause)" she looked shocked, and I just grabbed her, we kissed a good few times, nothing intense, but I sealed that. So it was good!

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good on you!

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Good work. See... you had it in you all along. hah

Thanks guys!

Support appreciated!

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I would have gave her my cheek "go on then sugar, plant one on me" haha

You don't need to fix what isn't broken...everything was there from day one!

Good work