You guys dont understand her at all.

She LIKES him and she lies.

He should NOT CHECKING HER THAT MUCH ANYWAY.

And women try to avoid conflict.

Women are women and men are men. They are different.

She has feelings for him or else she would have told him to leave her alone.

I think the problem here is simply that neither of you are putting your foot down.

I'm willing to bet you've expressed concern about her being on this chat without outright telling her you don't want her on it in order to be with you. And I'm also willing to bet she hasn't outright told you she enjoys the chat program, that it's harmless, and that you either need to accept that or walk.

You both could be acting in non-optimal ways for fear of an ultimatum and losing one another. So ask yourself this: is it a deal breaker if she chats with strangers? If not, tell her you don't care about the chat, you just don't want her to lie about it. Then you have to follow through by NOT checking up on her anymore or making any negative comments about her using the chat.

And if she acts defensively or maintains she hasn't lied at that point, dump her. You gave each other the chance to be adults where everyone wins, so if she's still being deceptive at that point, then you don't have a woman with integrity.

Lying should not be tolerated, what if your boyfriend lied to you, to avoid conflict, because he "loves" you.....nah doesn't work the same way, does it?

This is so true.

alot of people here and myself included will tell you its just not worth it. No matter how special she seems no matter how good she makes you feel, no matter how much you enjoy her company if shes lying to you about something as simple as that then I can guarentee you she is lying about way bigger stuff.


Trust me mate it will do your fucking head in, shes proven she cant be trusted so you will be doubting everything she says.. was she really at her friends house last night?? Did she really behave when she was out on the weekend ??

AS hard as it is and trust me I KNOW I just broke up with my fiancee 2 weeks ago who was a chronic liar from the beginning i thought i could change her. You cant women like that just arnt worth your effort. You'll just end up getting burnt like I did.

Get rid of her before she sucks your soul out

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I hate lies too, so I think you'd better leave her to get another love, I think honesty is most importmant in our life. Go ahead to make a good decision.

[quote="camus154"]I think the problem here is simply that neither of you are putting your foot down.

I'm willing to bet you've expressed concern about her being on this chat without outright telling her you don't want her on it in order to be with you. And I'm also willing to bet she hasn't outright told you she enjoys the chat program, that it's harmless, and that you either need to accept that or walk.

You both could be acting in non-optimal ways for fear of an ultimatum and losing one another. So ask yourself this: is it a deal breaker if she chats with strangers? If not, tell her you don't care about the chat, you just don't want her to lie about it. Then you have to follow through by NOT checking up on her anymore or making any negative comments about her using the chat.

And if she acts defensively or maintains she hasn't lied at that point, dump her. You gave each other the chance to be adults where everyone wins, so if she's still being deceptive at that point, then you don't have a woman with integrity.[/quote]

I like your solution and the way you see things.