Hey everybody! I am sort of new here, and just introduced myself in the introduction section.

I write today seeking help with a situation in which I need a game plan, mode of attack if you will. I apologize in advance for the novel – I tried condensing it, but I just can’t see getting everything across without the length.

Let’s start off with a little background. One of my biggest problems with women in the past has been the inability to read them and their signals. I have missed out on many opportunities in the past due to this ignorance. This situation revolves around HB10 who went to my old school. HB10 is not only stunningly beautiful but with a bubbly energy and with an aura of genuine beauty that sets her apart from every other girl in the school.

During the semester, while driving around she pulls up in a car next to mine at a light and she starts eyeing me and we start giving each other flirtatious looks and gestures through the window (it was pouring rain and very cold so speaking through open windows wasn’t an option). Several days later while I am eating lunch at a restaurant by myself she is with her other friend and opens ME! She is giggling, smiling, touching her hair the whole time and I felt like I came off as a wet blanket and ended up making the situation awkward. The timing couldn’t have been any worse – I was dealing with some very heavy stuff in my personal life that was affecting my whole life, which in turn shut me down to the point where I couldn’t see what was in front of me. Pile that on top with the previous inability to read women and you have a failure.

Once the storms cleared in my life and I was back to my old self, I would see her around the campus and I would smile at her and say hello and she would always return with a huge smile. We occasionally made chit chat here and there, but with my inability to read women and build attraction at the time I never made a move… I felt like I had blown the whole situation out before there was even a situation.

Fast-forward about 9 months to present time. In this time I had been traveling around the world, rediscovered and changed myself, had new perspective and purpose, come out of my shell and gotten in the game so to speak.

I had completely forgotten about this girl in that time, but was reminded of her when I was hanging out with a good buddy of mine and we were with a large group of girls. HB7 and HB8, friends of my good buddy met up with us and happened to be good friends with HB10 and mentioned her a couple of times in conversation when telling a story. I would have gamed HB8 and HB7 but HB7 had just been mugged and got knocked pretty good and was not in a good spot while HB8 and everyone was comforting her. I helped them both out by giving them a ride and they were interested in me and really friendly.

Now, I feel the urge to try and game HB10 over facebook. At this point, if I succeed great, if I don’t who cares. I feel like I have two options, directly game HB10 or game HB7 or HB8 with the purpose of connecting up with HB10 later. I am pretty new to gaming online and have had success using the divorce opener, but don’t think that would apply here… What do you guys think? Should I game her directly or her friends? I want to hit her with a bang and need a strategy and a good opener to use. What would you guys suggest?

Many thanks in advance, I really appreciate it!

Why do you want to game this girl online when you know her face to face? Get the social proof from the other girls in the circle, go to the same places and flirt with them like hell when she is around but keep eyeing her up, if you get a smile back then go over and talk to her...thank her for saving you and ask why you two never do anything together...simples

I want to game her online because I don't have a way of getting in touch with her otherwise - I don't have her # in my phone. I wanted to use Facebook as a way to sort of casually reconnect, build a connection, and then take it from there.

As far as the other girls in the circle, I never gamed them that night because one of them was sort of hysterical after being mugged - so I never got #s from them. My good buddy who knows these two left town for 3 months to go back to school. Therefore my option is to game them on facebook and get their #s.

Any ideas?

add the 7 & 8 for strategic value. Since you actually met them they should just accept without question. Be publicly friendly/cf with comments but maintain distance, don't talk to them on chat. That'll leave them future possibilities.

Assuming their fb friends with 10, either wait till the 10 comments on their status or some time later, add the 10 with a generic friendly message in the add request. something like:
"hey x, didn't know you were friends with/just saw your comment, what you been upto? "
She'll most likely accept as she sees you nice guy/mostly harmless and you have the social proof of the two friends. You should be able to get in under the radar so to speak.

The reason I suggest doing it like this is because the biggest bang you can have is turning around her past opinion of you before her very eyes. It's the distance travelled in her head between meh and wow. the effect from shattering people's incorrect perceptions can be pretty powerful; it only works if you go from minus to plus.

Assuming she's single and you can get into a catch up conversation in chat,
Start out with no unexpected moves, perhaps some subtle CF and then when it get to you explaining what you've been up to then you suddenly bust out all the DHVs about travelling the world , finding yourself, getting over your personal issues of the past - you should acknowledge them, and roll straight into gaming her.

if she's not single...still bust out all the dhvs, notice/comment on her relationship, roll out the cf but get out of conversation fairly quickly...after that keep your hand in with occasional public comments but don't talk to her on chat any more. go game the 8 leaving the 10 an option for when she's free.

Very nice reply! I like where your head is at!

First off what does CF stand for?

I think the strategy is good, but how should I go about approaching 10 if I am already friends with her on facebook? I would have done like you said if I wasn't already friends.

Also in regards for gaming her, should I game just like I would in real life? If not how should I go about it? I seem to feel like online vs. in-person gaming are totally different, and wouldn't know how to go about gaming online outside of using a canned opener (like the marriage/divorce one). Bottom line, I am not the best at expressing myself, passion, emotion, etc through facebook/text as I am in person. All my experience in gaming and socializing is through face to face interactions - which I strongly prefer. Sorry if I am asking too much or seem too needy, I am pretty new at this whole facebook/online game. And yes, she is single

I personally would say since HB10 is friends with a buddy of yours, have him set up an opportunity to meet up/hang out with her so you can isolate her and game her directly....open up with some CF and make sure the IOI's are there still, pull some good kino and explain why she hasn't seen you in the last 9 months and defiantly k-close if not f-close that night

btw CF= Cocky-funny

so naturally you want to game in real life where your strengths lie. I still think you need to dhv online in order to get her thinking of you differently. sort of giving her a taste of the new you with enough intrigue that when you manufacture a reason for getting together in person..she'll be intrigued enough to want to find out more.

if she's already your fb friend, how much, what type of online contact have you had with her in the past and how long since you "got back" ?

Sorry for the late reply guys, I have been pretty busy as of late!
That would be ideal, however my buddy left the state for a while and to have him call her to set up an interaction between us, would be well - awkward.
Exactly what I was planning to do. Use Facebook to connect with her, conversate, exchange #s, and meet up IRL where I can let my true colors shine.

The mutual contact we have had between each other is a happy birthday, pretty impersonal because it seems everyone wishes everyone a happy birthday. I got back into town just before Christmas after being out of town for months. FYI - I have business contacts on Facebook and since everything is cached permanently and Facebook has become a succubus of personal information I try to keep a professional, discreet, non-encriminating profile. Therefore pictures in clubs and of wild parties with many women are never shared. I feel like I have a witty profile however, and friends agree with me. I feel like I can significantly DHV once in conversation though because I am fortunate enough to have been able to do things, have things and experiences that 99% of people my age haven't been able to. The only thing I worry about is coming across as a braggart since the internet is so impersonal and you can't weave stories in based on the direction of the conversation. Ya feel me?