Hi guys. I've just had enough of my all too slow progress. I mean I've been in the game for almost a year now and altough I have achieved some results it's far from my expectations and I know it's all just my fault. I'm reading too much, I'm making excuses over and over again, and if I suddenly get it in my mind to game it turns into just having fun. Which is good. Having fun is great. However if I don't set my goals I feel that I'm just not gonna improve any further from this level. So I think I'd at least temporary change my mindset to a more 'result oriented' one(not dependent, oriented!) And so I'm gonna start this journal, and write a post every weekend of the week's noteable achievements and fails. This way I'm going to see my own progress and it gives me some extra motivation too. I also appreciate any feedback on my posts. See you on Sunday, Happy sarging!

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Hi there,

I'm glad you started a journal too! It really helps me and I'm sure it's going to help you get more results.

Have you been practicing day game? What's the results you've already achieved?

I'm following you.

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Not really I was into night game/SC game. I'm getting into daygame too however now.
Appereantly results in 1 year:
not needy anymore
passes most shit tests
a nine month long LTR (with that I also lost my V card)
this also gave my ego a huuuuuuge boost
being more social
not afraid of teasing girls(actually I love it )
being able to hook up at most parties with some HB7+ drunk bitch(know it's not a great achievement but I wasn't able to do even that a year ago...)

Still need to work on:
Achieving high social status
Spark attraction more
Effective closing
Getting almost completely rid of AA(not far from that)
Taking the fuckin' risk
Handling AMOG
Solving recoverable awkward situations instead of just leaving the set

That's pretty much all I have in my mind yet. I'm gonna follow you too bro thanks for your visit!

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Hey man I hope to see you grow on your journal. I'm keeping one too but my progress has been slow as well. This might be due to me being at work most of the time. I know its not a good to make excuses so you shouldnt too. Let rock the world... and HBs I am following you.

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Day 1

Okay first I decided I'm gonna post every day not just on weekends because I might not remember the details. I had plans for today to go out however the weather had other plans. Hope it will be better tomorrow. I'm eager to try myself out and improve my skills but I just can't do it when it's raining. Everyone's in a hurry trying to get home asap and it also kills my state.

What I did however:

I got a fellow wanna-be PUA friend(my wing) to also start this.
We two decided we'd go to England in the summer.
Altough this sets up some problems...

I won't be able to get to England if I can't find a job there. I can't afford a month there with just my pocket-money. Do you have an idea where should I start searching and how? I've never worked abroad before. In fact I've hardly worked at all since I'm just 19. I had 2 weeks as a receptionist last summer but it is not something for me. The boss was rude and there was a lot of paperwork and a day was like either nothing was happening and I was bored as shit for 12 hours or a whole wedding came and I was sick of it after 12 minutes. I think babysitting would be a good thing to concider. My cousin, who has been to England told me lots of students did that there. I'm very good with children especially for a guy. I can learn how to cook by summer it can't be that hard and other than that it seems fun. I mean I won't get bored as I'll be playing with the child or doing something or chilling in front of the TV while he/she plays. Also it doesn't seem to be an impossible one if so many students are doing it... How low chances are for that I get to some obnoxious uncontrolable little beast? Because I know very few out of the many little children I know from they're siblings of my friends or children of my parents' friends.

So now the goals are to make a lot of progress by summer and then have an epic month with my wing.

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Day 2

Thoughts before going out.
Okay the weather is very nice today. The sun is shining it's not too cold for winter. I have to go the bookstore for a book I ordered online so now would be the perfect time to open some sets. I don't have an appointment, so I've got plenty of time. What I am really going to focus on today is eye contact and body language during the opening. I want to make that perfect. It's not useful if I try moving on from the opening but my body language is in complete incongurance with my 'all cool' shit I say. What to say is not an issue for me anymore I couldn't even use this as an excuse. Even if I didn't know that it doesn't matter what I say I have like 30 canned openers to use back from my really really AFC days(when it was a problem...) I'm going to report as soon as I get back, wish me luck, and happy sarging for all of you following me! I really appreciate it

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Day 2. It's FAIL time.

Well that was my first day out on the field. And it was pure fail. I had probably the second worst day of my life (the first was when I pooped myself in elementary school grade 5th that's something you shouldn't do if you ever hope of a high social status XD)

Okay so my phone was ringing that was what woke me up. It was a sign I should have seen and listen to. I was tired and shit but I decided this won't ruin my gameday. I wrote the last post quickly had a bath and went out. First I had 0 state so I thought some warm up would do it, I asked a pretty girl (HB8) about some directions. She was smiling back I hold eye contact she gave me directions and I ejected. I then went to the mall to do something. State was better altough this is when real shit started happening. I was hungry as hell so I decided to eat some chips at Burger King. Some money fell out of my purse so I had to collect it. This was fail #1. I ate my chips then when I was about to bring the empty tray with some papers and napkin on it back, I was going a bit fast and the papers and napkins fell off. I had to gather them too and this was fail #2. Then I decided it would be probably better to take a little break as these fails kind of ruined my state. So I've decided I head to the bookstore for my book. Yeah that's a good idea. On the crosswalk my purse successfully fell out of my pocket. Some cars were honking and the people pointing behind me. I'm like wtf? Then I see what just happened. Fail #3. Okay. That does it. It's really not my day I thought, I'm just going home with the next bus. There's one bus/hour so I thought I would go to the bus stop, see when it comes and while I wait I could still open some. At the very moment I arrived at the bus stop my bus came in. I guess that was a sign too...

What I learned: Daygame is nothing like Nightgame or social circle game. Those are actually easy. I am astonished I was this horrible when it comes to a party I usually just shine.

What I'm going to do: The old me would have said: This is the reason why I shouldn't go out. It's pure fail.
The new me says: This is the reason why I SHOULD go out. It's pure fail YET.

You could say I use these fails as excuses. It's true. But imagine this is my first day and all this shit happens. I was unable to do anything after fail #3. Better luck tomorrow.

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Those first days of Day Game are really exhausting, I mean physically and mentally. Beeing out there, trying to push your limits and having little results is hard. Yet, little by little, you'll strenghten your inner game... You'll be confident, smiling,... well just enjoying yourself and these kind of days will be memories.

That's where I am now... I go out, enjoy myself (no frustation anymore) but still can't manage to properly approach and close (I open and eject...). That's the next step for me, and it will be soon the next step for you too

We need experience. And you know what? Experience is what you get when you fail in getting what you want... So don't be so negative about failing. You opened a HB8 and even had a smile back... that's really nice. Try to think about what you have done right and what you could have done better... Keep up! Soon it will become easy for you to be social with strangers and approach someone with great body language.

The Game must go on!

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Yes you're right. I'm exhausted. But I will continue. This can only be done this way. There's no backdoor. Tomorrow coming next report and after that next and this will continue on and on until all my report is going to be like #close #close #close kclose #close #close.

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Day 3. Slightly better than yesterday.

So today was my second day on the field. I opened 3 sets. A HB7 for warmup, asking for directions. Then a HB6. This time I tried keeping the conversation. It went on for like 7-8 sentences. And my last set was actually a 2-set. A HB7 and her goddess HB9.5 friend. The HB7 sent me some IOIs the 9.5 mostly seemed like she was wondering for how long do I want to keep them occupied so I ejected after a few minutes. But all in all, it wasn't so bad, definitely better than yesterday. From tomorrow until the 17th I won't have time for this because I need to pass my Biophysics exam. If I won't do it I don't think I will be able to finish the semester. Which is prior now to my gaming skills. But after the exam I'm sure to go out especially if it goes well

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I'm really happy for you man! Keeping the conversation going is a sticking point for me... I can see you're better at this. That's cool! Do you think you could have number closed today?

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Interesting question I was wondering about this also. I don't really know, maybe. At the moment I was focused elsewhere, namely my body language. I've made a small but more important improvement:
No more hands in pockets.
Neither crossed arms.
These are bad, and I know it so I had to get rid of them asap. If I pay attention to it I don't do these anymore. On the 17th I'm going to try a close I think. Oh and for your sticking point. Once you opened them and they replied, their mind as well as yours switches to conversation mode. Which means you're free to change the topic at anytime. For example I opened the HB6 like this:

Me: Hi, what do you think about those shirts? Do you think they would fit me?
HB6: Well those are pretty nice shirts. I think... Yes.
Me: Ahh I don't know. They really look cool but they're striped. Striped things have never really fit me.
HB6: It's your choice, I told you my opinion.
Me: Yeah thanks. What's your name by the way?

See? Now since she was really just a HB6 I didn't even want to numberclose her. So after I asked her name and introduced myself I asked some shit about where she studied(turned out she was still in highschool. Another not really good factor...) and stuff. I couldn't help DHVing with that I'm at the medical university but after that I ejected because today was still opening practise and I might try myself out a few times during these actions, but really unless I can open any HB10 with confidence I don't want to focus too much on moving on.

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You're right to focus on learning step by step... body language first, then...
I was just asking because for my first approaches I felt that I could have try to number close on some cases...
That's a really nice move. I would like to do that but, I don't know if it's me making up excuses or something, but I have the feeling that these opportunities are very rare... (by herself, in the man part of the store...) For now, I've only asked for direction and that's not a good opener to start a conversation. I think I have to work on openers too... I was hoping to do it naturally but nothing comes up for now. I've done some cool moves in social game but work is still in progress when it comes to day game.

Anyway, thanks for making it sound so easy... I'm already learning from you experiences.

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Well that shop was a small one not a New Yorker lol so there wasn't actually a men part of it. Or w8 there was. 2 metres away from the women part cheers I strongly suggest you to use directions only for warmup. Asking their opinion or something general is way easier to continue, and it still doesn't seem a 'threath' to them so you can release all the AA. (You don't have AA when asking about directions or do you?)

I don't exactly remember the situation with the 2-set (which they say is a good sign it means I was in the moment) but more or less it was something like this:

Me: Hi, can you tell me where did you buy this jacket? My cousin is turning 18 next week and I need something as a present.
Hb7: I bought it here in the Árkád.
Me: Oh that's cool in which shop?
HB7: (Don't remember but doesn't even matter)
-->note I was ignoring her friend the HB 9.5 but she didn't really start wondering why I am ignoring her she was just bored as shit.
Me: Awesome. (To HB 9.5) Are you okay? You seem to be in a bad mood.
HB9.5: I'm just tired...
--> here I would have asked for their names and introduced myself but that bitch was just so passive I decided to eject instead. I got nonverbal IOIs from the HB7 however. Anyways as I said before, it's still opening and mainly body langauge practise.
Me: Too long last night, huh? Well I better get going for that jacket as I have plenty of other things to do today. Thank you very much, good bye.
HBs: bye

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I like that... ignoring the HB9,5 in a first move and then almost neg her on her attitude... That's great man. I really need to get back on this.

Let's do this!

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