I have discovered that this girl I have been talking to a lot lately is 100% DTF with me. I am also totally DTF with her, however a bit intimidated because I am a virgin still, and she is well far from. She thinks that I am not a virgin because I do hook up with lots of girls, which I kind of do, I just never F close.

Now she is hot, however her personality is not what I would want for my first. She is kind of bitchy (although we get along fine) and she is a huge blabbermouth. So if I was to mess up (or perform amazing) she would tell all her friends, and since I go to university the social circle is pretty communal so it could have a negative blow on my reputation.

Now on Friday we made out at the bar for a bit and then got pizza after and ran into a bunch of friends there, where eventually we left as a crowd and then nothing ended up happening (I was hoping she would just invite me back to her place). This kind of worked out for me though cause her friend told me it made her want me more haha.

Anyways I just have a few questions regarding the matter since I will be getting a second (and probably last) chance this weekend with her before she gives up.

In what ways can I get back to her house? I can't go back to mine cause its too far and I just usually crash at a friends. Should I be obvious? Subtle? etc. I feel like just offering to walk her home seems kind of cheesy.

I am nervous about my performance as well. For some reason I don't feel like I will have trouble getting hard, but I am just worrying about awkward fidgeting, movements on my part and just the general feeling of not knowing what to do, because this will be new to me. Any tips regarding performance minus being calm and confident.

I could do with the same advice...

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Hmm walking her home is usually a standard procedure. Act as if it's on your way? Personally, I'd just kino escalate more than you ever have before, have a few drinks, and tease her, touch her in those sensitive areas, she wants you anyway, but this way, she'll end up basically jumping on you!

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i was shittin my pants wen i was about to lose my virginity, tbh, dont worry about it, it sort of just comes natural, i found that anyway

yeh instinct will take over and you'll feel like a pornstar

First up don't put so much importance on losing the big V. Once you have lost it you will wonder what the big deal was.

Performance anxiety is normal, Just RELAX and stay CALM. Its not as easy to blow in 30sec as you are led to believe.

About performance. First give her an orgasm using your fingers (Dr. Shade has nice books on this topic.) Don't forget foreplay. After couple of orgasms, you'll become more comfortable with her body, and remember. The best way not to get disappointed in sex(especially the first one) is not to expect much of it. Once you did it, you'll see that nothing special happened.

+ if you fuck her well the whole college is going to know about it...so-more social proof for you ))

DONT GET TO MUCH PERFORMANCE ANXIETY. Cant stress that shit enough lol itll fuck you over hard. Like the dude before me said. Just do ALOT of foreplay until you are comfortable being with her and then it will all happen naturally.

If you rush into that shit fast, youll get performance anxiety and you will fail hard. FOREPLAY FOREPLAY FOREPLAY. It does the body wonders =)

If you do get her in the sack just be the pleasure giver, take your time, tell her you want to learn her buttons, tell her to tell you what feels good for her, explore that sexy body of hers! And just let it all happen.

If theres a next time she will return the favor and you wont be so nervous. Its really no big deal once you have done it, i dont even remember my first time.

Dont try and be the best fuck she has ever had, just aim to please her.

jack off 4 hours before you're suppose to be with her and supposedly sleep with her that will help you last longer regardless if you're a virgin or not. every time you feel like your heart is racing fast because your anxious, just breath in deep and let out deep but don't let her notice it happening though.

Yup. Buy "Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms" and you'll be totally confident about making sure she cums at least once before you penetrate. Which means the pressure's off you if you might not last that long. Then again, you can just go back at it with tongue/fingers, then go again and you'll always last much longer the second time.

Just take things slow, be completely in the moment and enjoy it, and if you feel you're coming close to blowing, just slow down or stop, touch her a bit, and then start slow and continue again. As long as she's being stimulated, it really doesn't matter if you're penetrating continuously for 30/45 minutes straight or if you're giving her oral, then penetrating, then using your fingers. In fact, mixing it up gives her a range of sensations and is preferable to a lot of girls because you can give her 2/3 different kinds of orgasm and she's less likely to get sore

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Thanks for all the tips. I really do appreciate them.
Just a couple more concerns.
Is it gonna be a bad idea that I may be a little drunk for it because we will be going out to the bars beforehand. I figure it will help soothe any anxiety I have before?
Should I stay the night or leave after the job is done?

Also returning to getting back to her house, I walk her home lets say, do I wait to see if she then invites me inside? Or hint at it some way?

Your worrying too much on this man, and that's because your a virgin and you want to break it badly!

Don't get overly drunk, or you wont be doing shit with her, apart from falling asleep haha. If your worried, don't drink.

In regards to staying the night, if it's really late, why not, she'll be under the impression you are, kick out in the morning, not too late, that could seem needy, depends what else you want from her.

If you walk her home, use some kino and K close outside, maybe suggest you have "one more drink".

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