I know there is the newbie mission listed above in a sticky, but for me approaching girls wasn't so hard for me. I read through the sticky and I noticed a few people had the same mindset as I did.

Now, getting past the approach part wasn't bad. But getting rejected was. I hated it. No one likes the feeling. It's not like it ruined my day, but it would set me back a little bit which if it happened like a chain reaction, within an hour my confidence is out the window.

A very good friend of mine, Matt, gave me a mission to conquer that fear, that "getting down on myself" feeling. I'm not sure if he got it from actual literature or not so I'll just give the credit to him.

Anyway. The mission:

As in the sticky, get yourself in a presentable fashion. Shave, do your hair, dress nice all that fun stuff. Don't go crazy where you feel uncomfortable. Do what you think is best. Here comes the fun part.

Go to the mall, stores, whichever is highly populated by women. Go to the range of HB-7+ Don't settle for less. Why practice on mediocre women? That's not what you're after right? Think of the most obnoxious pickup lines and lay it down to them. Of course walk up with a smile, you don't want to look like you're about to kidnap them.
E.g. "Do you work at subway? 'No, why?' Because baby you're giving me a footlong"
"You know, I may not be Fred Flinstone, but I sure can make your bed rock"
Things like that.

My experience consisted of getting slapped about 10+ times, laughs, speechlessness, and even some conversation.

You will most likely experience the same. The benefit of this mission is you will get over your fear of rejection. I mean there's hundreds of gorgeous women out there, so who cares if you purposely crash and burn a few. Get at least 20 down. By the 10th one you'll realize like I did rejection really isn't so bad. By my 20th I was ready for anything. If you need to go 2 days in a row, or more until you feel that you can get rejected from Paris Hilton comfortably. (She probably has the herp anyway)


Good luck everyone! Post your experiences! And remember, fear of rejection is just as powerful as the fear of approach. If you can get past one, you can definitely get past the other!

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"No no no I love all womans. I mean..women. That's the problem"

Good advice but I'm calling bs on the 10+ slaps. Nope . . . never happened. If you're going to make shit up, at the very least make it believable.

Also, there is no such thing as going all out and doing this a thousand times over a week and making it STICK. Our brains simply do not work like this. Whether you work at a fast food joint or a huge marketing company, your work place is probably decorated with 'daily education material', reminding you EVERY DAY how the people of the company should conduct themselves.

Any daily routine that is not natural to you must be practiced over and over again for you to rewire your habitual mental patterns.

I didn't proof read as well as I thought I did, my mistake. 10+ slaps over a a good amount of time. Not one day.

And yes, you're right our brains don't work like that but this is something I've done to help get over the fear of rejection. Just like how game is practiced by actually going out and doing it, this works the same way. I periodically do this because yeah, that fear comes back. I just recently got out of a long relationship and I actually intend to do this again considering I've been slacking.

This can be done say every few months. It's fun, and it helps.

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"No no no I love all womans. I mean..women. That's the problem"

LOL . . . bullshit. Nope, never happened 10+ times. Revise and try again. Even if your goal was to receive 10 slaps and you went all out with terrible insults like, "Your mother is a whore and I'll F both of you together while you bitches take turns on the crack pipe . . . " and you lay it on THICK, you still won't get slapped 10 times. Very difficult to do. I know you see it in movies all the time but really, the physical action of taking a hand across somebody's face is not at all an instinctive move for most women.

How about, "I got slapped across my upper arm 10+ times!" - This is good. . . and this would only happen if they stuck around long enough for you to go over the top a with a few more 'cute' lines. By the way, I'm getting pretty close to calling bs that you EVER did this even once. Regardless, you offered good advice.