Hi everyone
I registered here a couple months ago and lost interest coz I rarely had the confidence to pull off some of the ideas people give here. Then came my revelation!!!!!
A few weeks ago I went on a weekend away with a bunch of people and a girl I really like was there. The whole time I was running ideas through my head of what to say to get her interested in me (shes dating another guy who she told me isnt here type anyways). I found myself falling into the friendzone wheni relied on my own tactics and speechless despite the many good lines which have worked for people, when using the pua ideas. That weekend was extremely awkward and at the end of it i felt like smacking my head as hard as I could against the windshiled of my car as I drove out the front gates of the place.
However, dont count me out just yet!
I was invited back to the same place recently with a slightly different crowd, and that girl i like was there too. However i didnt stress over thinking about what to say and what will make her interested, I just focussed on being the guy I am when noone else is around. After about half a day of this I began enjoying being myself sooo much. I was able to laugh at myself when I made an ass out of me, I was able to have good fun and was able to hold conversations with everyone around with no stress at all. The girl who last time ignored me and it felt awkward around, this time we were laughing together and playing silly games with each other and she even started doing things like giving me quick hugs when I walked past. I resisted the urge to get too close to her and it was working like magic. She even went on to put a pic of me and her on my profile after checking exactly who my friends were ( my thinking checking that the guy shes with and I werent friends) He just sat there very quietly.
The combination of just being myself and not letting the fear of being thought of as an idiot or emabarrassing myself, opened up something amazing. Other girls from the previous time also started chatting to me more and being alot more flirty.
I then observed a good looking friend of mine who came on the trip as well. Now Id say im an avergae looking guy but hes a really good looking guy. He sat there and looked very awkward due to his serious lack of self esteem which we both aware of and now and again one of the girls would engage with him but on the whole he was largely ignored.
Which brings me to this gents: girls arent looking for a the best looking guy, with an enormous build whos 6 ft 5. Theyre looking for a guy whos himself and is fun to be with, who they can chat to without you trying to be their therapist but on the same note without you smothering them with smooth lines and witty comments. Theyre looking for someone whos is real and they feel they can connect with.
I dunno if you guys agree with this but for me its been working wonders.
Tigz
CHAT
