I think it's important for guys on here to realise that even the greatest mPUAs (which I would never claim to be) have bad days. I really respect Style for writing about some of his "failures" both in the Game and in the Rule of the Game. Some people in this industry do everything they can (including posting FAKE clips of pickups!) to bolster their image and sell the idea that they can get EVERY girl and teach you to do the same.
Anyway, I had a day2 with a girl yesterday who I'd n-closed from daygame on sunday. I only remembered her name, that she was black (my favourite
), she had a pretty face and was 20. Met her at the station - score - was actually hotter than I remembered!
Had a great date, she was laughing and smiling the whole time pretty much. Turned the conversation sexual towards the end, was totally unphased and told me lots of stuff. "Let's take a walk" I said -> my place
Got home, played a youtube clip and went for kiss. No resistance at all. Carried her to the bed and threw her on it. No LMR. Got her naked and her body was AMAZING. Huge natural DD tits, tight little tummy, great ass, smooth skin. Perfect.
And then.
Nothing.
Couldn't get it up!
So, what did I do?
Here's what I DIDN'T DO:
get embarassed, apologise, cry, whine, make up excuses, get angry, etc.
I lay her back on the bed and made her cum a couple of times with my mouth and fingers so she had a great experience (and giving myself some time to see if anything was gonna happen), and then lay next to her after she'd cum the second time. Nothing was happening, so we just had some nice pillow talk and went to sleep (it was pretty late then anyway).
In the morning we had breakfast, and laughed and joked around all the way until I dropped her off at the station with a kiss. I didn't mention anything about what happened, or make a big deal of it, or apologise, or say "don't worry, next time will be better" or something stupid like that.
Now. If she really likes me, then she'll give me the benefit of the doubt and give me another chance to fuck her properly. If she doesn't then I wasted one date and will likely never see her again, so I lose nothing.
I still can't figure out exactly what happened. I hadn't had much to drink (and I had sex on new years eve when I was completely hammered anyway!), wasn't nervous or anything. The only thing I can think of was that I was expecting at least some token resistance, and when it was SO EASY to get her naked I became LESS aroused? Regardless, the point is - shit like this is gonna happen to everyone regardless of how "successful" they are. The difference is whether you handle it by reacting like a little bitch, falling over yourself to apologise, and in the process sabotaging the chance of seeing her again, or just being cool, making the best of the situation as much as you can, and hopefully giving yourself a second shot next time.
CHAT
