Hi guys...i'll start with the cliche, long time reader first time poster

Now onto the question. Met a girl at a party a few weeks ago, bit of chit chat, end of the night she asks for my number, so all was good. Few texts back and forth that night but nothing serious. Next day she sends me a friend request on facebook.

Now a few days later I send out a text to see what's happening, once again a few playful texts back and forth so I had a feeling I was getting a good vibe. Now here's the problem, I sent out a text saying we should go out for a drink, and no reply! So I left it for near a week and texted again (not mentioning the previous text). Once again, a few texts back and forth, bit playful but nothing big.

I've left it for a few days and she commented me on FB, I wrote back a few days later and left it at that. My question is how much should I chase? With the text interaction, I was getting a good vibe but it was me initiating each time. I don't want to seem desperate, but I think there's something there that can be worked on.

Appreciate your thoughts!

I'm an advocate of avoiding any text-based correspondence, mainly because I suck at it. I always call. If I was you I'd leave it for a few weeks, 2 at least, go out and game other chicks. If she doesn't contact you within those 2 weeks, call her up and ask for a date. If she says anything other than "I'll be there in my birthday suit" then NEXT!

By the way, this is all a direct game perspective, see if you can get the opinion of a good text gamer, I can't do that for JACK.

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cheers dude. been reading a bit of b4utxther and ws4w which have good advice, but i'm gonna freeze her out for a while and see if she initiates again

There are a few possible reasons for this

1. She's not sure exactly what you're after. Did you ever indicate that you want to pursue a romantic relationship with her? Have you been talking / acting as if you want to be friends? If so, a "date" situation suddenly seems odd to her.

2. Your date idea is boring and unoriginal. She's more likely to want to goto the special carnival in town or for the most AMAZING hot chocolate EVER than to "get a drink sometime"

3. The date situation is a bit too high-pressure. She's worried about if you guys just sit there and make chit-chat and it's shit. Solutions are to make dates during the week when she has less going on, or to invite her out with your friends to something you're already going to.

=> The best solution is to CALL, have a fun conversation, and then through talking about mutual interests find a day 2 idea that she would really be into, and then set it up. Even BETTER to do this on the day of the approach before n-closing.

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Thanks mate, I agree with all those points and in hindsight it all makes sense. Good stuff to know for the future.

I'm a bit skeptical on the call though. The majority of the conversation has been over text, i'm thinking a call will put her on the spot. Especially since the vibe hasn't been that great from her from the interactions we've had.

GOOD.

Making her a little tense or nervous at some points is a good thing. It creates some kind of strong EMOTION in her, even if it's a little negative. As long as you release the tension by having a FUN conversation, it's ok.

This is what creating and harnessing sexual tension is all about. Giving her those butterflies in her stomach that she only gets when she REALLY likes a guy

I think guys forget that it's not about making the girl as happy and comfortable as possible. You have to make her work a little. You're not playing push-pull if she doesn't sometimes wonder about what the right thing to do is, or if she might fuck up and say the wrong thing and lose you.

Think about what it's like to be chasing a girl who doesn't get back to you, or when you're in-set and your mind goes blank. You have to get HER into that situation sometimes too!

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Thanks dude, this is actually really good advise and made me re-think Cheers!

Hey

About texting... Texting is the best method of communication, so if you do decide to use it, you msut use it wisely. If you write a text messages, you have to be sure that the content of that text assures you that she will write you back no matter what. Don't ask yes/no question, don't ask for her life story, just keep it short and sweet and make it INTERESTING. I like using negs with texts or just a simple text to remind her about you and that you had fun the last time you saw her.

Ideally, texts should lead to a phonecall or a meeting in person.

Be careful because it's very easy to ignore a text message or to feign not having received it...

You fucked up by chasing her in the first place.

LET HER CHASE YOU. Stop asking her out. She doesn't want the dude that chases her all over town, and is available every single night, etc. She wants the dude that's probably out banging the whole cheerleader squad.

I know it feels like you should do SOMETHING... like asking her out both those times. But that's not how your life should be.

YOU SHOULD BE SO BUSY that girls have to text you for WEEKS just to get a spot with you.

And even if you're not that busy... it should SEEM like you're that busy.

It seemed like you were on the right path until you started having these text message conversations.

Remember: Women have sex with the player. Always be the player. This means having more than one girl on-call, so you're always with a honey when you want to be.

At first, let THEM get YOU into bed. It will happen with the right mindset. Which is one of being busy, sexy, and not caring about girls at all...ironically.

This is the easy way to play the game. There are many ways.