Hello everybody, I'm 19 years old and since im a newbie I really need your advice in this kind of situation. There is a girl which i like so much, despite the fact i dont know her very well, lets call her X, and she has a friend (Y) who likes me alot, at least i think so. The biggest problem is that i dont like Y at all, but i dont say that to her, because i want to become better friends with X through her.

And there comes another story, it was a new years night, and i decided to meet Y, ofcouse as i thought she invited X too, but they asked me to invite one of my friend too. When we all met, my friend kinda pickedup X, so i was pissed off and acted like an asshole all night. Ofcourse i felt so bad next day, but i got the sintuation under control and our relationship with Y is even better now, but its not very good with X.

What should i do next to pickup X and get lost of Y? I really need your help

Sounds like X tried to isolate you with Y, probably hoping that the two of you would hook up.

As far as getting X (seriously, just use fake names next time, people != coordinates) attracted to you, I'll give you the same gut reaction I get every time I read a post on here about building attraction with a particular girl after already being acquainted with her in some way:

It's not going to happen.

It seems to me that X and Y have probably discussed Y's attraction for you in detail, and they are cooperating in an attempt to engineer something between the two of you. If this is the case, then even if X is attracted to you there's a good chance she won't endanger her friendship with Y by pursuing it.

Women (really, most people) come to a determination of how they feel about you in a very short amount of time, think moments. This idea continues to evolve the more they learn about you, and it becomes more and more entrenched. That's not to say that said idea can't change, or even change dramatically, but it isn't something that's easy to affect. While it probably pumps you up in X's eyes to some extent that her friend seems to want you, my advice (given the limited amount of information I have about your situation) is to pursue other women. That's not to say that you have to abandon any interest in X, but any effort you spend trying to 'get' her is probably only going to make you look worse.

Of course the incredible range of possible situations in human interactions means that my advice is going to be general, so take it for what it's worth, but my gut tells me you don't get X.

Good luck man,

Wagon, thanks for your reply. I love challanges, and when you said that you think i cant get her, i want to prove you wrong. All i need is advice what would be the best way of tyring to do that (even if you think its impossible)

At the moment my plan is like this: I will stop chatting with HB0(Y), and if my friend gonna pick up HB8(X), he will definetly invite me to go to meet her with him, and in this place i will have to show my game and get her. What do you think?

You're welcome, and if you really do relish a challenge, you'll enjoy a lot of success, both with women, and in lot's of other areas of life.

I don't have a problem with your plan, though I'm a little puzzled by what you mean in terms of your friend picking X up, I'm assuming it's just logistics for getting together at whatever event you're attending.

As far as 'showing your game' goes, my advice is to remember that it's not about what you say, or do, or even who you are, attracting her is ultimately about how you make her feel. Now here's the kicker, you can't control how other people feel, you can only control your own actions and attitude. Focus on cultivating a fun SPAM wherever you are, be hopeful and inspired about your own future, laugh and don't take things too seriously, and don't be afraid to be a little mysterious (this is a lot of fun too if executed correctly).

Finally, remember both that nothing is impossible and that there are many, many, more women in the world for you my man, don't get too invested in this cutie.

Thank you alot, i really needed this kind of chat.