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First off, the biggest mistake you can make is to avoid arguments.
Avoiding any sort of discomfort is beta and not masculine. While I agree with your main point here, I'm going to have to say that your perspective isn't necessarily a fair representation of the general female population.
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That's why she starts silly arguments with you all the time- to get a raise out of you. She needs something to complain about; she wants to play the victim. That's what the "bad boy" gives her, and that's why he's so popular; he makes her feel all these different things- good, insecure, guilty, bad, passionate, loved, rejected, scared, unsure, protected, admired, jealous... he makes her feel EMOTIONAL, so don't be scared to get her mad at you once in a while.
As I've said to you before in the chat, you're the type of girl who likes stirring shit up and causing controversy because peace and quiet is just too boring for you. While there is a part of that drama-craving animal in every woman, there are also different types of women who would be more accurately described with the very different traits.
I know a lot of girls who try to avoid any sort of controversy as much as possible. They shy away from it because they don't want to be imposing because it might threaten their self-image of femininity.
My girlfriend does not raise silly arguments with me, ever. I don't think she ever does that with anybody, to be honest. That has to do with both her personality and the fact that I already provide her with a full spectrum of emotions.
Your point about the bad boy is still valid. Regardless of how the woman plays her role, she still wants to feel a lot of fucking emotion. Still, you're only offering the perspective of one "type" of girl out of many.
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Don't be afraid to debate her, but don't overdue it either... what I'm trying to get across here is that if you disagree with her on something, you shouldn't be scared to tell her so.
I disagree with using the word "overdue" when you should have used "overdo."
Anyway, yeah, the main lesson to take away from this is that man should not let his fear guide his actions. In my current position, it is absolutely ridiculous to even imagine myself being afraid of any sort of verbal confrontation with a woman. AFCs fear this because they think it will give them less of a chance to have sex or something gay like that.
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When You Want to Make Up
Remember, she wants to be mad once in a while. If it's a minor fight and she throws a hissy fit, do not apologize to her. That's what she wants, and it's important that you don't give in to her. You can use the "You're so cute when you're mad", that's always good; you can go in and kiss her, fine... if she's still feisty and demands you apologize, just leave her alone. Ignore her. Tell her to call you when she's ready to move on, because you don't have time for this.
However, if you really did hurt her, it's important to man up. I'm not talking about a little neg you may have said that she took the wrong way, or forgetting to call her back- I mean, you really messed up. If you truly feel like you should apologize, then chances are you should. You don't need to make a big spectacle out of it, just say "Look, I'm sorry for ________" or whatever- keep it simple and to the point. Since you don't apologize often (or you shouldn't anyway) then she'll know you're sincere. Don't apologize a million times though, one honest apology is enough.
Meh. Here's what I have to say to that:
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"I hate you."
"You're such a blah blah blah who always does this this and this!"
*Insert more bitching here*
Sound familiar? I bet it does. If you've been romantically involved with enough women, this sort of situation will pop up every now and then.
Let's say you've had sex with a woman more than just a couple times. She is your fuck buddy, a friend with benefits, or maybe even your girlfriend. Regardless of the type of relationship you have with her, there might be some bumps in the road where it seems like she's attacking and/or criticizing you for one reason or another. Sometimes it's a legitimate, logistical concern, but most of the time she's actually telling you that she's hurt or feels neglected.
If it ever seems like she is putting you at fault for something, there is absolutely no need to get defensive. As always, put your ego aside. Shift your focus on her. There is only one thing you need to ask her: "Are you OK?" Show her that you're man enough to take the hits and still be thinking about her instead of being distracted by your own ego.
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You're right, I should probably work on being less general in my posts...
