I left this girl for 8 weeks. Over that time I still kept thinking about her but I wasn't crazy about her. I finally came back to get with her again. I approached nicely, she said I was too much. Then I took the approach of still being nice and leaving while understanding. I was going to leave and she said she's off to explore. 3 minutes later she said that I left her. Anyways later after that, I went through phases of being a complete AFC and apologizing and then I would get the feeling that I am too weak so I would play hard and fight with her. Anyways one day I cracked and decided it was time to let the balls drop and tell her how much I love her. So I did that and I kept saying over and over again how I feel and stuff and she would say "Bye" to me. I kept sending her messages non-stop and she said, "I'm not even reading your shit, I'm going to block you." I said, "Block me I don't care, I still love you."

So now she blocked me, and will not respond to me anymore. I KNOW she feels bad inside because it took her 20 minutes to block me and she finally did it. When I told her once, "I give up, when do you want me to leave." She said, "I don't care." I mean my stupid AFCness pushed her to the limit to block me. While that sounds bad, I just know that she can't stop thinking about me either. That's the whole reality of it. When me and her were in a relationship, it was on fire. We kept fighting, ignoring each other, making each other jealous, coming back for one another..making up...Either way we never ended it. It's just that I took a long break from her so everything can chill but that amount of time messed it all up.

I made this girl cry plenty of times before because I would do something very sweet and would cry. She spilled her nail polish on her mattress because of me and still has the stain. After 8 weeks, I decided to add her on facebook. I looked through her info and one of her new emails was "lahvyoudia@yahoo.com" and "Lahv" is how I say "love" because I have an accent. Under her activities it said, "Too often we don't realize what we have until it's gone. Too often we're too stubborn to say, 'Sorry, I was wrong.' Too often it seems we hurt the ones closest to our hearts, and we let the most foolish things tear us apart"

I talked to her friend and the guy already KNEW what was going on. She told him that I was "hella weird" and stuff. He told me to not worry about it.

We tried to hit it off once but she snapped out of it. I remembered to not completely be an AFC just because we're trying to get along this one time so I playfully teased her and stuff. She reacted as well but at the end she said, "Who the fuck cares anymore." When I came back for her she told me, "You still got that Roxanne chick." (because I was in a relationship that only lasted a week when I went after this girl again.) However me and Roxanne broke up and I told her that I'm not with her anymore. My ex even TRIED to tell her that me and her didn't do shit together (we really didn't, it was a fake relationship, she wanted popularity.)

To sum it all up, I left a girl and came back for her. She's very pissed/sad/tempted. During the the "getting her back again" phase, she would occasionally open up to me and invite me on webcam but I declined because I told her I was actually busy. As for me, well...I was only able to keep my cool on the first day. After that I eventually began to lose my sanity because I realized that I love her.

I recently made a video of my parrot dancing to her favorite song with me playing the electric guitar in the background. She had these lyrics on her facebook so I looked them up a long time ago to find what song they were from, and this time I made it a surprise. I even bought her a Christmas gift during the time I was trying to get back with her. She didn't say a word about it. I would also email her pictures of me flexing and stuff because I'm one of those ripped guys and she said, "lol stop." later she said, "Irritated by your damn face." She said things like, "you act like everything is normal again" etc. I have tried every single thing possible. There are just too many emotions involved for this to go anywhere anymore.

I requested her on facebook last night and she declined. I sent her a message saying, "Alright, I understand, sorry for being weird lately..I just couldn't get over you. Take care I guess..you won't hear from me again." When we fought last week she said, "Making a new screen name, byeee (:" 2 days later she's back on her old screen name.

I think only time will solve something. I want to tell her that I'll be ready for her whenever she's ready just to not make it look like I don't care anymore because I've done that way too many times. She even said to me, "All you ever do is leave." I feel like I should be counter-intuitive this time.

Jesus...

Ask yourself why you really want to get back with this girl?

It's because you feel like you can't procure another woman of equal attractiveness.

Yes you are acting like an AFC. This one is over. Let it go.

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A real man apologizes when he knows he was truly wrong. I've been thinking about this whole AFC stuff in relationships and all. When the girl did something bad, she would apologize to me. There is no reason for me to not apologize unless I just don't care about the girl anymore.

I've had a few situations like that. You might try, not to contact her yourself first, but don't decline her calls either. When she calls, you might want to talk about all the amazing staff that's been happening to you, Then say something about some superfun thing where you could go together with your common friends. But you should do this only if "love" is involved. I'm a romantic person, and I saw somewhere something like "Fate is building a bridge of chance for someone you love"

Good luck

I'm in the beginning of a similar problem. After my ex broke up with me, we argued and then she said that was not talking to me anymore. I don't intend to let her go, i still want to be friends with her (And even get back, if possible), but the best thing i can do to it is wait and live my life the best i can.

If that is what you really wanna do, go for it! If you don't manage to succed, at least you tried, ain't that right?

If you don't chase and don't express your love, what sort of impact did you create in the first place? :/ True love is where you still accept the person after they declined you. Getting revenge and declining them back to try and make them feel bad is what a real weak man would do :/ hope it works out, thanks

Let's just say you built a dream castle all by YOURSELF, then you put on a CROWN telling everyone you're a KING, convinced yourself that everyone loves your, yet you failed to realize that you're the only person in your CASTLE.
I dont wanna be harsh, but she gave out a lot of disinterest hints, you just didn't catch it. You started off wrong by keeping coming back to her also, it was wrong since the beginning.
I'm not criticizing you, I'm just giving advices. Move on, she's not worth it, there are 4 billions more woman on Earth who will appreciate you if you can pull if off better next time bro.
Next time, dont chase, make her chase you.
Don't crawl back to her after she said im blocking you, who would wanna be with a wuss
Don't say you love a girl till you are forced to, or she said it first. Never said it with a seriously face unless its important occasion.

She said it first a long time ago. You don't understand, I'm not the only person in my "castle". I made her cry before. When I came back and we started talking she said, "Leave me alone before you make me cry again." Let's say you had a screen name with 200 friends on it. Some girl you don't know begins to say I love you to you over and over. You block her. She makes new screen names and keeps telling you that. You block them. She keeps doing it, it never stops. Would you really make a NEW screen name just because of one person? Nope. She reacted big time, I "affected" her so much that she made a whole new screen name. Have you ever watched Gone with the Wind? People say the most disinterested things in that movie and in the end they still love each other. I swear, when you're in love and the other person shows you disinterest, you got that "love instinct" that tells you that they don't mean it but to someone that isn't the one in love, it appears as disinterest.

Why would you come on here asking for advice if you won't listen to other opinions? Just remember this is PUAs forum, if you really want someone to workship your romantic love story then you should go to Gone With The Wind forum. Just remember it's a FICTION.
I gave you my honest advice based on PUA point of view, they dont dwell over one girl, they simply decide she's not worth it and move on.
Sometimes the person himself has his judgement clouded by emotions, others can see the signs obvious while he keeps lying to himself.
You came in here for help, but you dont wanna take a step forward. If you keep being the AFC you are right now, I guarantee even if you guys get back together, someone gonna come along and she either run away with him or you gonna find him inside your closet one day.
My advice is simple "MOVE ON". If you cant accept that, then I really did all I could to help.