Hello, good folks around. I'm a young learner in the arts of life, with 18 on my back, from Brazil, and aways with a growing interest for the psychology behind relationships. I'm the kind that does not hit several women as a prize, i'm looking for a perfect star to shine my days (kinda poetish, i know). I am a bit geeky, but i have a good talking with women, and socialize a bit easier with them than with other men, to tell the truth. Oh, i'm a musician in training, a guitar player!

In the day after christmas, my problem started. Please, good fellows, hear this young'um's words.

I think i had found my true love, but after almost 3 months, she breaks up with me due to some of my behaviors, saying that she saw me more than a friend than a boyfriend: The fact that she picked up the table way more often than I did and the fact that i invited myself excessively to her house. This last one created sparks of tension with her mother (She lives only with her).

We argued over a week and this sunday she said her Farewell by e-mail. "Be sure these will be my last words to you. I will give back your things ASAP and hope you do the same. Farewell".
I answered then with a nice e-mail, telling her how our time together was special, that i would keep only the good memories. I thought it was the right thing to do, even tough i expect she won't answer me, at least not so soon.

I want, at least, to be friends with her (yes, i think this is important). But i know that after all this ruckus, it won't be no use to talk to her right now. I would like suggestions about the time i should give her, if i should have the iniciative to talk to her or wait her do it. I was thinking in sending her a letter after a month, maybe two. With some nice words (she often called me a Bard, due to the nice things i said) and some music in a sheet paper (She would love to see a song created especially to her).

Oh, it's important to say this. I heard from a friend that she may enter in some "crazy mode". Due to her dangerous changing of humour, her last ex-boyfriend broke up with her. Ah, she's 21 (just for saying) One more thing i think it's important to say: She left the game guild we were (Yes, she is the geeky type too!), blocked me everywhere and maybe even bought a new phone for her.


Is it too late? Is the friendship forever lost? We have so much in common!

She is important to me, but i know life goes on. I plan on living my life normaly, hanging out with friends and living my best, this kind of good stuff. But, hell, break up the day after christmas and after i gave her and her mother presents is way too bad for the soul! XD

Well, well. I'd thankfuly enjoy any advices from you, people.

I even have some other questions about the terms (HB6, HB9, AMOG, etc); i know nothing about them! but i'm affraid i wrote too much, so I'll ask this in other possible situation.

Thanks for "hearing" this unfinished tale (oh, more poetry)

Sorry that you are going through a tough time right now. it sounds as though it's over between you two. You don't want to come across like a stalker as it's obvious she has cut off all ties with you.

Although you said you feel like it was true love I can tell you from experience that it probably wasn't, during the honeymoon phase it is easy to think that it is true love when it isn't.

I think the best bet for you is to try and move on, forget about this one and write it off as a mistake in your game. Learn from it and make sure you don't do the same thing next time.

All the best.

I thank you for the nice words, but being friends with her is something i aim to do. She is very nice to be around and is one of the few people i know that has things in commom with me. Sadly, due to our arguments, not so soon.

If you're just trying to be friends, were you friends before that? As in, friends with no intentions of becoming more than that. If not, you most likely won't be friends afterwords.

Sounds like you just need some time, eventually you probably won't see staying friends with her as such a big deal. Staying in her life might seem important for now, but eventually it'll pass.