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Me: Wth how could u do this to me? We both know dogs don't make the best cuddle buddies but I guess it will just have to do :/
You actually sent this?
Listen, based on your previous idea and then this, I would say your mindset is not in the right frame.
Regardless of whether you're looking for a fuckbuddy, a long term girlfriend, a kinky sex-slave, or whatever else, you HAVE to be relatively non-committal at the start of ANY relationship.
Lets take a look at why from the GIRL's perspective.
Any girl who's relatively attractive and non totally fucked in the head (hell, even some who are totally fucked in the head - take THAT my ex gf!) will probably have at least 2-3 different options in terms of guys they could probably hook up with. Depending on how she rationalises her behaviour so as not to be a slut to society whilst at the same time satisfying her innate sexual desires, she could be fucking all three, or having one guy just taking her out to dinners and not giving him any, making out with one guy when they go out clubbing, and actually fucking just one, or whatever.
So, we got guys A, B and C.
Now. She goes out with guy A a couple of times, and they have a really nice conversation and seem to have a bunch of stuff in common, but there doesn't seem to be that "chemistry" to her (i.e. he doesn't turn the conversation sexual, be flirty, touch, or escalate properly) - she will keep allowing him to take her out to nice dinners, but that guy's friend zoned.
Then we have guy B and C.
She's attracted to them both and ends up sleeping with both of them after seeing them a couple of times. For purposes of argumentation, they're equally attractive to her and the sex is identically as good.
EXCEPT. She gets a nice text from B saying how fun last night was, then doesn't hear from him for a while. Was she really bad? Is he not that into her? What's going on? All this time she's thinking about him. Then she gets a text out of the blue inviting her to a really fun social gathering with him. When she gets there, he's the social centre of the situation, surrounded by other hot girls who he seems to have a lot of chemistry with - have they slept together before? Are they really good friends? Are they flirting with him? All these questions are going around in her mind. But at the end of the night after having a great time and dancing and kissing, eventually he takes her back to his place. She feels so HAPPY he chose HER. Yay! Then another few days go by and NOTHING. Maybe she should just call him. No, that would be weak. Wait,wait wait. Finally after another week, he calls again and invites her out. YAY!
On the other hand, C texts her the next day and thanks her for an amazing time and asks her what she's doing tomorrow. Uh, tomorrow? She doesn't know, but probably with a friend. Ok, he texts back immediately, what about the day after? OK, she says. Then he takes her out to another similar place again, just the two of them. He says how awesome she is and how great last time was, again. OK, she thinks, so we have sex once and suddenly this guy is like, totally in love with me. She knows she;s "got him." Does he get laid that night? Probably not. After a while of him being too available and always wanting to see her (don't you have other friends to see or anything going on in your life, she thinks) she eventually gets kind of bored and turned off by the constant pressure. She says she's not really looking for a relationship right now (it's not you, it's me) and runs away from being PRESSURED into something with C to CHASING guy B.
Now.
When you look at your first message, what you IMPLIED through your words was:
I need you to make a commitment RIGHT NOW to be in some kind of relationship with me. Just a quick fuck is not good enough. I demand complete monogamy from you immediately. Anything less and I consider you a whore.
I don't know what the background is, but unless you've been going out for MONTHS and have had great sex a whole lot of times, saying anything like this is fucking retarded. What does she owe you? You guys barely know each other, you've had sex ONCE, and suddenly you're making her decide to be with you and cut off all of her other possible options. Uh, NO.
You're expecting WAY too much emotional investment from her WAY too early on - this looks NEEDY because the only reason you would demand this is if YOU'VE invested at least as much as you're expecting her to invest. I.E. she gives you some pussy once and you're in love with her.
Second text I highlighted above.
Again, initially you were like "you HAVE to come to this movie" or whatever. I initially saw this as in "omg we GOTTA go to this thing it'll be amazing" but actually the interpretation is more like "PLEASE come with me otherwise my poor puppy eyes will fill with tears of TORMET AND DESPAIR"
and hey presto, when she was busy with something else (i.e. she has a LIFE OUTSIDE OF YOU) you respond with
"OMG now I have to stay at home alone with my dog because I have no life outside of you and no other friends to go see a movie with. Boo hoo."
Get it?
In conclusion
1. Be busy
2. Have lots of options
3. Don't hang all your hopes up on 1 girl
4. Don't overcommit (even in your thinking) to much too soon
5. Don't expect ANYTHING from her. Judge her level of investment in you based on her compliance.
6. Don't text her more than once a day, or every other day. Give her 2 texts for every 1 she sends you, and always wait 2x as long to respond as she did to reply to you.
7. Don't see her more than 1-2x per week.
8. Be gaming other women ALL THE TIME.
9. Don't verbalise or ask about levels of commitment. Don't bring stuff like that out in the open. Instead SHOW her you're into her by making the experience when you do see her AMAZING, and JUDGE how into you she is based on what she says and how she acts.
10. Don't be a pussy.
CHAT
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