hey guys, i'm a new user to these forums but i've done a bit of browsing. i have a lot on my plate and i'm pretty unhappy with how my life is currently so i'd like some outside opinions on how to handle everything.

firstly, i'm an 18 year-old male. yes, i'm an AFC, but ive been with a handful of girls, im just lucky i guess. i've been best friends with my buddy joey for 12 years now. i pretty much grew up with him and he's more of a brother to me than a friend. my life's gone through a few phases, but right now i really don't know where to go now.

up until april or so of this year, joey was really depressed and i was his only friend. he ended up dropping out of school in december and i didn't really see him for a few months after that. we started hangin out again around april or may and he started bringing all these girls around. it's not like he had any idea of what he was doing, he was just sinking or swimming i guess.

now you guys are gonna think i'm an idiot for this, and i agree. he brought one girl around but she wasn't really into him. i feel like im typing way too much though so i'll shorten this part. we met in august, i got friendzoned, and i've been hangin out with her every day ever since.

it started off as oneitis but i really dont care about her anymore. she's not my girlfriend, we're only "best friends." however, alone the line joey and i became very good friends with this girl's older brother, too. he's actually living at joeys house now.

so basically it snowballed. i pushed all my other friends and responsibilities aside because i liked this girl so much. my life feels totally fucked now. i started smoking a LOT of weed to deal with the stress and depression from the oneitis. now i smoke because i love being high so much. and i feel entitled to smoke my friends up every time i smoke (i feel like an asshole being high when my friends arent) so i'm losin a lot of money from that. on top of that, i treated the girl so well when i was actually trying to get with her that she got used to it and thinks im being an asshole if i treat her like a normal friend. we've both kinda molded our lives together and even though we're not dating it feels like we are.

but in the end she treats me poorly but i really don't know what i can do. if i stop hanging out with her then what will happen to joey and the girls brother who lives with him? if i stop talking to this girl that i care about, she's really got nothing and nobody besides her brother. i want to be happy but i dont want to hurt all my friends feelings or break bonds that aren't rightfully mine to break.

sorry for the long first post. i just don't know what to do.

Stop being a pussy, get a job and fuck this girl...

Just joking. I would really advise you to take a look at RSD Blueprint: Decoded DVD. It's mostly about your inner game. Boosting your self esteem, (not)reacting in certain situations and why it's important to be your best self etc.

There may be better solutions but I would take a look at this one and try to handle every problem you have seperately. There is no one thing that will make your life "better". Take it step-by-step. Identify problem - eliminate problem.

Stop hanging out with this chick man, she is only bringing you down. She will continue to treat you bad for the rest of your lives if you let her. I understand it's sticky with her older brother and the whole situation, but it's important you get a bit of distance between you so that she can develop some respect for you. Hanging out with other girls and hooking up with a few could do some wonders as well since this chick will feel like she has less of a grip on you.