So I've been meeting this HB9.5 for about a month now, taking her out to parties mostly and not getting anywhere... She gives me a full mix of IOIs and IODs all the time. And when we are on the dance floor together it gets very hot, but I know pushing it too fast will end up in a rejection with this girl in fact the time when I did try to k close she said if she wanted to fuck me she would have done it by now... haha what a line huh?

But she continues meeting me, often by herself and the times we ended up on a dance floor in the right mood things always start to slowly get hot and heavy.

Then, 2 nights ago, just as she was leaving (which I know I shouldnt normally do) I went for anotehr kiss, and this time she didnt reject and in fact we made out for 20 secs.

The next day I sent her a very casual text thanking her for coming to the party which I was host of and asking if she got home ok. And also said that I hope shes doing something fun tonight as it is christmas (hoping her reply could lead me to inviting her along to the party I was going to that night).

She didn't reply

Wtf? So I'm really confused with this girl... her body language and actions are definitely into me and I know I have very high value in her eyes, shes single, shes open to sex, what am I missing here? I'm acting a tiny bit needy but not so much I think. Any advice?

Hot girls do this, if she is open to sex she probably doesnt see making out with you as a big deal. basically, she loves your attention and will do anything to keep it but also if she made out with you there is probably some interest.

It sound like she is deciding if you are worth her time. The WORST thing you can do now is act like her puppy dog, she wants that and that will make her win. What you wanna do is act like you lost interest in her, for example there is not need to initiate text or phone conversation.

Make sure she is with you at parties but hit on other girls. Social proof the room by making friends with guys first and then hitting on other girls (or go for girls first, its whatever), make sure they like you and when the HB you like tries to pull you away or get ur attention dont fall for it. Ignore her for a while (ackowledge she is there, dont be rude but dont start flirting with her). after she tries a few times flirt with her again and maybe try a k-close, when she acts cold punish her by getting attention from other girls again, by this point you should have a few interested in you at the party.

Keep doing this push pull and she will warm up to you trust me. The main thing in this situation is DONT EVER ACT NEEDY.

buyer's remorse

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Buyers remorse, that was the word I was looking for. Yeah maybe that. I dono why though. We've known each other for over a month. To be honest there are times we just don't click, maybe thats it.

I try being not needy, not initiating contact but shes not the kind of person to do it otherwise... but usually when I do she returns it and comes out to meet me. This is first time she ignored me, right after the kiss....... How about a text opening routine like saying I saw her on the subway or had a dream about her?