Note: You've seen the girl in real life before, so its NOT online dating!

What should it include?

- Emotions? Tell about your stories full of positive and negative emotions?

- DHV ? Tell about your great opportunities to take, for ex you just received such a great job offer, etc.

- What else? Should you tell her about how you feel for her? (guess NOT ?)

Thanks guys, appreciated.

Never tell her how you feel, always make her wonder and WORK for your qualification and validation.

As for the e-mail.

Use a third person technique:

"Hey, theres this girl I know... she's sort of cute. I think we should go on a date sometime. That is, if she can handle all the fun. I bet she can't. "

Any more input?

I'm also looking for a good DHV story to add in an e-mail

thank you

I'm not good with DHVs, but you could make up a story about an awesome date you went on with another girl and then tie her into in at the end. Make sure it is very detailed. This will generate jealousy and interest in you.

Like "This one time... with my ex girlfriend... we (insert epic long story)... it was intense! How would you like to be that girl?"

Or you can make up a hypothetical story and end with "There are a lot of contestants... but how would you like to be that girl?"

1. Keep it short.

2. Keep it short. If you had 100 girls wanting to sleep with you, would you spend more than 5 minutes writing an email to some girl you just met? If you find that your emails are longer than hers, you're writing too much.

3. Don't ask a bunch of questions. (it makes you come off as needy, and makes your email annoying to reply to.)

4. DON'T ask stupid boring questions like "how has your day been".. That will make her groan and think meh I don't feel like answering this email now.

5. Put yourself in her shoes and try to make the email easy to answer. Don't ask philosophical questions about the meaning of life.

6. Keep it funny, don't talk about anything serious. So NO, you don't confess your love to her.

7. Don't say stupid AFC shit like "it was nice meeting you". She must wonder whether or not you're into her, saying you're into her is like telling somebody what happens at the end of a movie.

8. If you DHV, don't brag and say stupid shit like "I go to the gym every day, yep it's good to be strong and healthy and have a 6-pack". Keep it indirect, and try to make it relevant to what's being discussed.

9. Try to refer humorously to something that you talked about when you met. Make her laugh and remember why she gave you her email in the first place, but at the same time don't recycle the same joke. So for example if you had told her that her nose looks like a puppy's nose, you can email her and say "you know what, I went home and took another look at my neighbor's puppy, he definitely has a cuter nose than you! "

10. Don't email too much, lest you become an e-buddy. At some point, get her number and ask her out, the sooner the better. Keep in mind that if you meet and it turns out she's not interesting or if she's not going to sleep with you, you'll have wasted a lot of time if you sent 10 emails back & forth with no results.

EDIT: (Note: most of this applies to text messages as well!)

You better just cancel that email right then. Whether you're a guy or girl, nobody's wants to hear that. Think about it. A girl starts telling you, "My ex boyfriend and I used to..." Doesn't matter what it is, it says she's still thinking about that EX, not in the moment. You talking about other girls is telling her you're not interested, it negates the whole reason for you emailing her. Assuming this on a personals site or listing, the whole point of the affair is actually a blatant admittance that you are interested in what she had to say in her personal, and are inquiring further to see if you two are compatible. And the fact that she even posted the ad, means that she IS LOOKING for a LTR/hookup/NSA etc. So why would you go against that grain by acting totally uninterested by talking about other girls?

I will say though, you don't want to act like a creep. You want to be cool, and keep some distance in email. Email is hard though, because it's not spontaneous. Especially the first email you send off. Keep things relevant, make a few statements about you are as a person, and use plenty of ACTION! Don't just use passive phrases, like "I'm caring" or "I'm serious about life." You should write down examples of the things you want to impress upon her, and let her draw her own conclusions and opinion.

Dont just say you love or like, or enjoy something. State what it is you do that shows you're passionate about it. For example you just throw your hobbies out there to her, "Cosplay is a big part of my life. I learned to sew just so I could make my own Gandalf costume for last year's HobbitCon." Whatever. Doesn't matter.

So basically, just think about what you know of the girl. Think about what you would like her to know. And keep it relevant, and say through "actions" that show that you have an idea of who you are, and what you want to do. Just don't be afraid of her reaction or already have it set in your mind "this girl I'm emailing right now has to be the one."