Seriously guys... how big a problem is this?

I've never found myself in a situation where this had led to a problem I couldnt handle in a set.

If someone asks for a drink, of course Im gonna take the chance and neg the shit out her.. and then when she feel really bad I'll rub it in by actually buying her one.
"Poor you.. gotta talk to strangers cause your thirsty and poor
Go ahead, have a little zip from Mr-Im-Desperate-So-Im-Buying-Strangers-Alcohol "

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What the hell, there should be no substantial rule on drink buying and what not. Why make things so hard one yourself? Buy her a drink or don't buy her a drink, as long as you are in control of the situation, do whatever the fuck you want. I know a natural who has dated 7 girls at one time, all knowing he was dating 6 other girls and wanting to have him all to herself. Yet he buys girls drinks. Why? He is ALWAYS in control of the situation. Even if you were talking to him, he is in control of the conversation. Being a retired professional athlete, he has the extreme confidence mindset, yet is cool and composed, and I've never heard a neg come out of his mouth.

The no drink rule came from the out-of-control standpoint. Guys were girls' lapdogs and SPAM, drowning cash in alcohol seeking attention from the girl. In this case, the no drink rule is fine, because then you are in control. However, drinks are fine. For example, the natural I was previously referring to used drinks as rewards.

yeah, this is just another case of there being plenty of exceptions for the rule. Last time I was at the bar with my buddy, it was really crowded and a girl next to me got the bartenders attention just to help me out. After talking for a bit I bought a round for myself and her.

Buying drinks is no different than buying dinner, paying for a movie, etc, it's more about intention than anything else. If you come off as if you are just trying to pay your way into her pants it'll crash.

If she is a friend, say what you would tell a guy friend if he asked for a drink. In my case "haha, YOU buy ME a drink". Ive done this in clubs and you would be suprised how many girls actually do it if you say it right. after she said why Ive said stuff like "If you are intersted in me you should buy me a drink, isnt that how it works? You are clearly interested since you are the one bringing this up"

If you have been talking to a girl for a while and she says "you wanna buy me a drink" NICELY (that is important) then say "nah, you havent earned it yet". Do this only if it i a nice request and not a demand, i dont like demands so I usually shut them right down in that case.

If your friends is getting pissed you arent buying her drinks and you are not trying to sleep with her (this might work even if you are), I would literally tell her to fuck off and say "what should I buy you a drink?". I had a friend that did the same thing and told me a was a jerk because I wouldnt and that guys should always buy girls drinks. To that I said "Ok, so go ask some loser to buy one, thats not me babe". Now she wants to fuck me (im sure for other reasons too, not just that one line)

I do buy drinks for girls but I never ask. I either get a drink and hand it to her and say something nice like "here I got you a present" or just buy drink for the whole group, however this wouldnt work with a group of random people since it makes you look like you are trying to buy their admiration and I only do this when in a group of friends.

Also If I wanna isolate, I just say "come get a drink" and just pay for it.

My philosophy is never ask a women if she wants anything or if you can do anything.

I've known plenty girls who go out to party but leave their wallets at home. Some even make a contest out of it. Regarding this, girls only fall into one of two groups:

1. Girls who are physically attractive and have personalities that for one reason or another have garnered a lot of attention all their lives. Sometimes, I wonder what their lives might be like. Doors magically open, bags get carried, drinks get bought. I mean . . . as long as utilize their attractive powers towards their personal progression, they can achieve success in just about every professional sector. Of course most would tell you that it's due to their hard work and persistence. Yeah right, tell that to the girls in category #2. And by the time they're about 45, unless their completely delusional, they'll admit that their tits and ass offered them great rewards.

2. Girls who wish they were in group #1.

Girls in group #1 never beg for anything. Girls in #2 beg for everything but never get anything.

What Kasabi Said.

Also, never buy ANY girl a drink. Too Cliche, and it's a bad investment/gamble.

Pour more money into self-growth material, or hamburgers.

In regards to actually buying a drink in PU situations:

It's far better to understand some basic concepts of PU than to blindly follow the "Top 20 pick up rules of 2011". - The principles of attraction remain the same. In bars/clubs, regardless of direct/indirect/sideways/upside down approach, the basic idea is to demonstrate that:

1. You are not a fucking weirdo.
2. Her hanging around with you will be fun and something to look forward to.
3. You're a man and you're in charge of your fucking shit.
4. You're going to carve out for her an easy, non-threatening, non-creepy, and fun path to an orgasm. (Both literally and figuratively) All it takes for her to partake in this fantasy is to go with her feelings and nod. Simple, simple, simple . . .

Do the above principles make sense to you? How do you think the following methods match up with the above objectives?

1. Offer the ladies a quiz to see which one gets a drink?
2. Nod and buy her a drink if she asks for one?
3. Shake my head no if she asks for one?
4. Make up a smart retort and neg her?
5. Buy a drink and just walk away? Buy her a drink and just stay?

There are a hundred different ways to run it but I think too many of you are concerned with how to outsmart a ditzy girl in a bar as opposed to how you’re going to fuck her. The idea is to HAVE FUN but keep your objectives in mind. How about these situations?

1. Tempt the girl to bounce to ____ bar because they make the best espresso martinis. Buy her that martini or go dutch?

2. You invite her back to the VIP table. Any booth in any bar/club with a couple of friends are fine. Buy or go dutch?

3. You run a 'surprise kiss trick' and she's a good sport and laughs it off. Buy or go dutch?

Get it?

i buy people stuff in general if want to, rather than for any reason. If i enjoy someones company then id be willing to buy them something. If im not, then no.

same with friends, ive paid for a few friends entrance into a club before because i wanted them there, moreover, i was financially suited to too unlike them. It was never so something could happen or not happen.

Also imply i imply that i want the favour returned, even if i jokingly do it just so they know im doing a favour for them and not a walk over. Ive never encountered buying girls drinks though because im 19 and it seems like an older thing. We just have fun haha. Still i dont see where my views should change in here...its only a drink...

This gets rid of users too because the person must be bringing fun to me

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I agree with carmo!

make them want you, not your money!

with the friend issue it's not like you'll buy her a drink and then never see her again.
Buy her drink cos she's a friend but next time she asks insist she owes you one back or drink your drink hand her the glass and say you'll have another one, any reluctance on her part opens the door to neg her for being a "bad friend".

I just thought of something that I think would be kinda funny. You go up to a girl or a set of girls and ask "Hey ladies would you like some drinks?" and then they say "Yea, sure." Then you say "Ok, well go get some and get one for me as well."

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Come to think of it --- there is one gaming situation where I might consider buying her AND her girlfriend(s) a drink and that is to get their compliance for "entourage game" or social proof to game your real target.

For example: If she asks for a drink then she will have to jump through your hoop first which is to introduce you to her friends, have her walk around the place with her friends, etc BEFORE you buy the drink for her

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Salut!

Holy shit! Why is this discussion alive yet?

I stopped buying girls drinks somewhere in May'10 but I do it constantly to my guys (Hey, I trust them, I know that without saying a word they will buy next round, I do it because I want to!) From this time there was one and only situation, the only exception I bought girl a drink: I dance with her (HB7), she is a little dizzy, kino like hell, much laughter and she says she has her birthday. "You are kidding! So I think I have a special gift for you (I put her hand on my ass) but promise not to unpack until we got home. Hey! Happy birthday! Come with me, this is on me but next round is yours" So I buy a round because it's her birthday, that was obvious for us two. But I also think that the following night was even more obvious so drink was fine.

And one experience again: I isolate target to my table. My 2 friends come over, I introduce them to a girl, got some laugh. Waitress comes and asks if we want another round

Surielx: "Hell yeah."
Waitress: "4 this time?"
Surielx: (turning head to HB, smile, wink) "Maybe later. She's drunk already"

At this point she totally forgot about the drink, she started qualifying herself "I'm not that drunk", I said that if she's sober she would easily win a game.

That's how you reverse the situation. I will repeat this forever: huge DON'T. Not before sex, that's for sure. I'm currently testing if it's OK to do it after sex.

Salut!

Surielx.

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well, I buy drinks for my homies so if it's just a chick I'm kool with, then yeah, I'll order a round.

I also will buy a drink for a chick if we've already been talking and I'm ordering myself one.

I DO NOT buy chicks drinks that just randomly ask. I look, smirk, then turn my back and walk off.

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I dont. When approached I would simply say "no thanks". But now i either say:
"I'd like to, but I dont buy drinks for strangers"
OR
"Hahaha, wow, cute AND funny" and crack a smile.

Have had success with both.