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For the past year I have been involved with a girl who is a long-term relationship. I've had friends constantly tell me to stop what I am doing, but I disregarded them because I am a bit hard headed and generally will get the things that I want. Me and her have made out on numerous occasions, and a week ago we slept together (no sex). And anytime we have any sort of intimacy, there are a lot of space between us. I am not obsessing over this girl, I have been controlling my emotions pretty well, but at the same time she knows what I expect from her (dating), which I think gave her too much of an upper hand and is killing me now.
6 months ago, she told me I was a player when she found out about the other girls I have been doing stuff on the side with, but I think I managed to convince her that she is special (... and that other bullshit; most of which I meant).
We have made out on numerous occasions, the last time I tried to stop whatever that is between us. We ended up hooking up again and she told me that she misses what we had. Basically, I need some hardcore advice, which pertains to your view on the situation because I am the most experienced out of all my friends, and I am lost.
What's your question?
If she was planning on breaking up with her boyfriend to be with you full-time, she would have done so already. There are many marriages that last less than one year.
She's getting what she wants: A harmless little fling outside of her steady relationship.
You're getting what you want: An shallow relationship with a girl you're not 'supposed' to obsess over. I don't really see any issues here.
Once you break up with this girl, she'll find another guy for a harmless little fling and most likely, you'll find another girl that you can keep at an arms distance. If you like what you've been doing, continue. If you don't like the situation, change it. There is no right or wrong.
CHAT
