So I sorta seeing this girl I sleep over her place sometimes. She has told my best friend that she really likes me and does not think we can just be friends.
At first I did not want anything serious but never told her, I feel like I am starting to like her more and more.

I looked at her facebook and it seems she has some guy friends talking about taking shots this n that. And that makes me go WTF! They talking about hanging out on the weekend too....

Can girls just be friends with guys?

I almost want to tell her something but I also have many girls as friends that always post on my wall asking to hangout this n that.

Anyways.... Should I be concerned??

No, you shouldn't be concerned because you never locked it down she can screw as many guys on the side as she wants. Yes, man and woman can just be friends, but it's not very likely. If they admire each other enough to be friends, they probably like each other enough to screw, which in my experience takes less than what it takes to be friends.

I don't get why you're all worked up. She gave you an opening to snatch her up and you didn't really want it. Now that she's looking around, trying to make you jealous, you're suddenly infatuated. If you didn't want it when you had the free and clear to take it, you're probably just not that interested. You probably only want it now because your ego and jealousy are distracting you and you'll just lose interest if you do get her again.

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31 and still figuring it out.

What you are feeling is the inevitable chemical rush of jealousy that results from living in a competitive sexual environment. Learn to control it. It is never a good thing

(A) You are showing her that she can get a rise out of you by flirting with other guys. From now on she will preemptively use jealousy as a tool to get more attention or condition you.

(B) Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, by displaying it you simply lower attraction. The key to keeping a girl faithful is to increase her interest level, you will NEVER be able to prevent a girl from cheating by being over-protective. A girl does not cheat on a dominant Alpha Male she is highly attracted to because it is in her nature NOT to. If he is an Alpha Male, then there is no biological payoff to cheat, she is not inclined to do so. Men are different because there is ALWAYS an increased pay-off for cheating (hence why sometimes men cheat even when they are in love, simply for variety).

(C) You are starting your relationship based on fear. You are creating a fertile breeding ground for psychological dependency i e; a bad case of Oneitis. The other route is that you won't get Oneitis and you'll simply foster a resentment against her. Either ways, it is not going to end up well.
In General, it's a good idea not to go on any girls facebook and look through her wall posts. It's AFC / stalkerish behavior and only has potential to harm your chances unless you use the material on her facebook profile to cultivate a cosmic level of Jedi Game that she has no chance of resisting


Girls love to have guy "friends," it is the greatest female social convention ever invented. A Guy "friend" is essentially a guy who fulfills her needs in a male-female dynamic (nourishment, protection, attention, affection) without asking for sex. Allows her to maximize utility while saving sex for someone more Alpha.
If you tell her something, you will enter a submissive state. As a result, if you ever flirt with another girl, she will flirt with other guys for retribution. On the other hand, if you enter in a dominant Alpha State, then flirting with other girls will simply raise her interest level in you. There is nothing more ego-gratifying to a woman than seeing other women want her man.
You should be extremely concerned. Not over her talking to other guys, but over your case of jealousy. Insecurities have a parasitic mind-warping effect on Men, you must exterminate them mercilessly.

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I have not told her anything about what I think and have in no way shown that i'm jealous to her or any of my friends. This is the only place I vent my concerns and frustrations when it comes to girls. I pretend it does not effect me.

I think she might be doing this because she thinks i'm a player and girls are always telling me to hangout on facebook which really might work against me instead of raising my value towards girls.