Ok, well back from a party and my knuckles are bloodly. As melodramatic as this may sound I'll continue writing anyway.
My entire life I have not had particular success with women. Don't get me wrong I have slept with a girl, but that was more fluke than skill.
Two of my friends seem to have a natural talent with this kind of thing, all they have to do is be themselves and girls appear to fall into their arms. I attempt to do this myself to no avail. I have have discussed this with them in depth and the reoccurring theme seems to be to come on less strong, to be less intense. But when I do that all that seems to happen is I get impatient and start to view women as objects that want only either money, social proof, personality or looks. And if you sport neither of these then your out of the game.
So I write this message while I have got back from a shindig.
I have recently buffed up and girls were grabbing my arms and feeling my chest by I just can't close.
I know from reading much NLP that I just don't have the write outlook. Honestly many people much have it much worse than me. But I just don't know what to do. I learn by fucking up and each time I do I just sink further into this state of loathing. Not just for women by for the entire system. I want to improve my game, but at the same time I wish the emotional games didn't exist.
I feel very selfish and egocentric writing this but I don't know what else to do.
So I'm joining this community as a last ditch effort to turn this part of my life around. And begin fixing my flawed ways of pick up.

If you read all I commend you for taking this much interest in a strangers life.

Hi,
I think you're halfway there and should hang on in there until the "loathing" feeling reduces. The bad feelings can be very strong and may take a while to reduce but they will if you keep making approaches. Keep the conversations low-key and indirect - i.e. start with trivial, simple or slightly off-beat topics, clothes, music, etc., don't ask boring factual questions. Wait until the bad feelings have reduced and your confidence has increased before you try to progress to making a close.

I suffered years and years like this, but finally things have improved (no closes yet).

I don't know anything about NLP.

First of all you don't need money or shit like that. What woman want is an alpha male. You have to learn how to be that. Woman desire men that are confident and alpha. I would say a great place to start is with is reading up on game. Start to assemble a tool kit for your game. Things to say, techniques to use, and ways to present yourself. You may not be alpha now but you can develop it. Stay confident and it will work out!