Yeh, recently have been wanting to go for older women more exp. as well around 27 30, im 19... any tips to attract them ?

really appriciate

Hey there,

I would say confidence is your best weapon with cougars. I normally don't ever hook up with guys younger than myself (I'm 29) and yet, I found myself getting nailed by a 23 year old last week. It was the first time I'd ever slept with a younger guy. He was so confident in himself and the way he acted towards me, that age didn't seem to matter and I only found out how old he was afterwards.

Remember, older woman have seen it all and, in some cases, have done most of it too so they won't really be impressed by bragging or showing off. Act confident even if you don't feel it. Don't go overboard with it though and become arrogant because it's an instant turn-off. Older women seem to appreciate a man who doesn't care what the world thinks as long as, at that moment, he's paying attention to her.

That's just my opinion though.

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Cheers love,

yea. . . confidence is my main thing im really confident but not so much as to be arrogant etc...

about the 23 year old what did he do, that attracted you ? like first impression ? compliments etc

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He wasn't the best looking guy out there and to be honest, I wasn't even looking at him at first but he sauntered over and randomly asked my opinion on something. I can't remember what on earth it was but we got into a conversation and he totally put me at ease.

That's a big thing for me, I have to be at ease before I'll consider anything with anyone and he managed it within 15 minutes. He never complimented me though but I wasn't looking for compliments, I was just having fun.

My first impression was that he was a bit weird just coming over to a woman sat all by herself and was fully prepared to blow him off even though he was dressed pretty smartly but because he opened up by asking me my opinion, it made me think that perhaps he wasn't just going to be an arse who dominated the whole night so I decided to give him a full five minutes of my time because there was nothing to lose.

Some women might like a guy who dominates the whole evening, takes care of everything and acts cocky, but I personally only like a man to push so far before it becomes irritating and I push right on back and it usually ends up with me walking away but this guy got the balance just right.

Obviously, by the time we'd finished, we'd been having fun for a whole lot more than five minutes

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Hello I'm new to this forum and the community but its good to see that theres some female insight keep it up doll

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Hi there,

I'm new too but I figured that female insight couldn't hurt so I joined up. Besides, I was feeling a little devilish too and that's always a good time to do something random like join a PUA forum

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IMO the older a woman gets the easier she becomes because she's "seen it all". Younger girl *generally* tend to be more tight about their sexuality (no pun intended) Think of the first time a girl usually has sex, shes 18 been dating the guy for 2 years. As time goes on women tend to be less picky about their partners, i believe due to desensitization. (I've done this x ammount of times what would 1 more time hurt? Less ASD)

Indeed! I know an amazing pickup artist in real life, and she's a cougar. She has occasionally given me advice on pickup, but she says there's no substitute for getting out there and learning through direct experience what works and what doesn't. There's a cultural stereotype that pickup artists are always men, but of course they aren't. And I think the old cultural gender stereotypes are starting to dissolve at last.

She was actually my first time having sex. I think she had always fantasized about breaking in a younger man (but I'm not super young, I was a late virgin at the age of 30 when it happened). What did I do right? I think in my case it was just a lack of doing things wrong. She was already interested in me and I didn't have to try very hard. If I think of anything more specific than that, I'll be sure and let you know.

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Hitting on an older woman requires a lot more knowledge of yourself, because of the fact they indeed have seen it all. It requires you to know who you are and what your skillset it. For as far as I have noticed, they like humor and confidence like the most plus things in seduction. Don't mistake confidence for arrogance, cus it most of the times kicks them out.

I actually hit on an older woman (34 or something) last year. Didn't actually ment to hit on her, rather being friendly. But I was mature, self confident and good in my skin. Made her laugh and gave her the feeling that she was taking all my time - even tho I wasn't even focussing on that. If an older woman sits on a bar and she's alone - she doesn't get all the attention, give her attention. She'll love it.

Back to my story, I eventually got the woman to drop me off at my student house, she demanded a kiss. Never actually had the experience before, but yeah well, confidence does it all i'd say.

Btw, welcome new people!

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