It happens to a lot of guys in the community. They come here trying to fix something, they want to be enhanced, they want the ring they can call "my precious" that will bring everything they always wanted.

After reading lots of material, they start to see that when ever they use the material it works, when they don't it doesn't.
What is happening is that the material creates a shell around who they really are and nothing internally has changed.

Yesterday I talked to a really hot girl at the gym and it striked me that I got her number with no material whatsoever. How could that be? I may missed lots of girls that wanted to get together with me only if I said Hi.

What's happening here? Maybe being myself is enough. Hey... I'm a great guy. I invested years in studying, working out, improving myself. I deserve a hot girl with a cool personality. In the past maybe not, I was depressed, I was whining about life, I was not expressing my true self.

What's confidence? Confidence is when you express your true self freely. You're not seeking validation, you're not worried about the outcome. You're fully present in the moment and life's good. People will be a fool if they don't want to participate in your reality.

Go inside at your deeper core and see if you have the values that makes you a cool person. Really take time to see what's good, what you can improve.

In a lot of cases a more confident you is enough, guys.

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"Their compliance is,
'Does she grab your hand?' F*ck you! I want to grab her mind. If I can
grab her mind, she'll be grabbing whatever I want, any way I want her to." - Ross Jeffries

Projection is one of the most important elements in life. I'm not talking about the commonly cited psychological concept of projecting ones feels, often used negatively, on to someone else... though the two concepts are closely related. I'm talking about the elements that you exude. If a person is depressed, self conscious or has low self esteem you can see it, you can feel it. Conversely the same is true of happy, confident people. It's all about the type of presence that you convey through your words, attitude, actions, body language etc. Learning how to convey these positive qualities better is great, but it doesn't really come to fruition until you dispell the dissonance, until you truly feel and believe it for yourself.

A superb Answer by Imretired.

Gets my nomination early for best Answer.

Also on a further note, have you noticed how much people whinge and moan nowerdays.
What sort of self projection does that give off.
Its not really manly is it.

This comment is aimed at those who now blame this site for messing them up.
You know who you are.

Remember nobody forced YOU.

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Its getting Hot out there.

Its all to easy.

I want to be a tree!

I totally agree with your whole shell idea.
but i wouldn't necessarily call it a shell its more like a avatar
because if anything material gets guys out of their shells .

all im saying is , its not that much of a bad thing

theirs a lot of guys out their with confidence issues who want to protect their ego
how do they do this ? with an avatar or pretending to be someone their not a much cooler more interesting person . with this it gives them fake confidence allowing them to receive the right social conditioning into which they less rely on the avatar they created and can become themselves with natural confidence and the right social cognition's .

One of the most scariest thing's is when you feel like your past your whole avatar period and their is no obstacle you cant defeat to realize that your not actually past it

but its defiantly values and experiences that make you , you as you said