| Being a good, honest, caring person is all fine.
The "nice guy" usually has the following problems
1. He agrees with everything she says, to try and maintain rapport, and to get her to like him. Don't do this. If you disagree, say so. Don't be afraid to make fun of her, tease her, flirt, etc. Be willing to risk breaking rapport once in a while. That doesn't mean calling her a bitch with a frown. But saying something like "omg that's so retarded" with a big smile whilst playfully pushing her a little, is simple, easy flirting that always works.
2. He's willing to change his actions and plans to suit her. You're unlikely to get a date at all if you say "I was wondering, if you're not busy, maybe we could do something, sometime." It's so non-committal and shows a lack of dominance and the ability to lead. Women like to be lead. Tell her where to meet and at what time, and what to wear if you like. If she keeps you hanging or flakes, just freeze her out a while and invite her to something really low-pressure and non-committal, like an evening out with other friends.
3. He does "good boyfriend" things too early. When you're in a relationship for a while, then flowers, presents, nice dinners, etc. are totally cool, if you want to give her something nice because she's been good to you and things are going well. But doing that stuff too soon looks like you're trying to buy her affection, and that you've emotionally invested way too much too early, and it will scare her away.
4. Not sexually escalating quick enough. This is the big one. Most guys are so scared to lose whatever rapport they have with her, that they don't make any kind of move for too long, at which point she assumes you're only looking for friends, or you're not attracted to her, or you're gay, or you're just a fucking pussy.
The fact is, you lose FAR MORE by not escalating quick enough, than by doing so too quickly. If you go too fast, she'll probably just say or do something that essentially means "not yet / not right now / slow down" remember, a "no" with a giggle and a smile means "not yet."
Even if she's not interested, she'll respect you more for trying and she'll be flattered that you tried at all. You can totally still be friends. Plus, you haven't wasted your time any longer with a girl who you didn't have a chance with. Now that you know, you can move onto another target.
=> In conclusion - be the guy she wants to fuck FIRST, and only then show her the good boyfriend material stuff AFTER you've had sex.
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