Greetings to all, this is my FR log. This will be a record of the approaches I do so that I can track my improvement. I also plan on posting things that I have completed periodically that may or may not have anything to do with pick up, this is to motivate me to get more done.

Background:
Basics: I am tall, white, in shape, deep voice, I try to dress well, and I work at a job that I love.

Pick-up: I don't have a big issue with approach anxiety, but I don't always make the 3 second rule (I would like to get better at this). I can hold conversation well but I need to tease more, and get comfortable asking for phone numbers. Escalation is a big sticking point but I think with conscious effort this should become easy.

here's a couple of quick FRs that I need to write down before I forget any more about them.

Dance Club:
Tall blonde in a set with 2 shorter brunettes. I saw them on the dance floor but I don't consider myself a good dancer so I was too hesitant to approach immediately. I noticed them on the outside deck a little later. I didn't look for IOIs or a setup, i just went straight in and opened "Hi I'm adrnln and I'm new to the area, what brings yall out tonight?". The blonde response completely shattered my frame, she says in a russian accent "wow, can I just say that was really direct. In my country no man would do something like that" (I really would love to thank this girl for saying that, it got me to fix some approach issues). The conversation after this went well but I couldn't keep the attention of the whole group and I know I lingered too long before ejecting.

Local Bar:
Brunette HB 8 was at the bar with some friends, I was playing pool when I noticed her but didn't approach immediately (I tend to get really focused on games and I think this hurts my approaching sometimes because either I don't notice who's around or I just go back to the game). I made it a point to go to the bar beside her when I went for my next beer. opened with something like "Hi, how are you?" good conversation for starters, talked about her work and teased her a little bit about her job (I need to get conversations started on topics other than their jobs, not at work don't talk about work I guess). Things were going great with IOIs: great eye contact, I would move slightly back and she would come closer. I failed to kino and escalate here, I guess I just wasn't thinking about it, but I did learn a great lesson about buying drinks. I got weak and bought a us drinks, and it was a DAY AND NIGHT difference afterward. She clearly lost attraction, I ejected a bit thinking depriving her of attention would help my case and it definitely only got worse. When I re-approached I got cold shouldered, then again I lingered too long and made a weak exit.

Local chain restaurant:
Came in for a late lunch, sat down at the bar. Cute blonde waitress, HB7, was working and took my order. I made some light chat and somehow she got on a rant about facebook and some relationship bull between her and her boyfriend. At that point I just figured this was a no-close situation, but I would benefit from practicing conversation and engaging people. Now don't get me wrong the waitress was fucking nuts but the practice was really good. By the time I was leaving she tried to find excuses for me to stay, I'm really not sure if I should have gone for a number (I'm not one to step in on relationships so I just let it go). Anyway next time I'm in this situation I want to make an effort to use triangle gazing, I think in situations where kino is not exactly an option this can help to escalate.