First, I don't run any specific game and I'm new to PUA. I do try to pickup a few lines and convo ideas from you guys and just try to apply general concepts.
Background: I'm 32 and she's 22. She's working as a nanny and practicing her English here. I met her from an online dating site so she knew my age to begin with.
I was going to take her to a cool wine tasting but they are booked out for a couple weeks. Instead I took her to walk through some Christmas light displays and then we just talked for a couple hours at a nice bar.
I've negged her several times about being young to get her to mentally defend that our ages are not a big deal. One point at the bar she tells me guys under 30 are just teenage boys which I felt she was trying to validate herself to me. So I told her "most" girls under 25 are the same way. She also mentioned three times that I look more like I'm 25 which I think is a compliment.
I let her talk about her home asking things like where I should go if I visit Brazil. She tells me I would have fun and do well there; that the girls would love me for being American. I took that as further validation. Also, she mentioned one of her friends here has decided she will no longer date Brazilian men. Maybe I need to meet her friend too
I did a lot of light kino at the bar, using her hand as a prop to tell a story. I would touch her thigh often to emphasize points. I noticed she starting touching my leg in the same way as she told her stories. Sometimes cross culture can be confusing too because they have different standards. I know Brazilian culture is VERY friendly. When I walked her to the car she hugged my twice and both times did her fake little kisses on my cheek. Did you know you get 3 kisses in Rio de Janero, but only 2 in Sau Paulo?
Weird too because she did 3, even though she is from Sau Paulo.
I asked what we should do next time we get together and she brought up my initial idea of the wine tasting. Walking to her car it seemed she was about to ask me to go out the next night (saturday) but then she remembered I already have plans (George St Pierre vs Koscheck baby!).
I kept things in the friend zone because of several hangups. She has a good girl thing going on. She doesn't like much drinking, no cigs or drugs too. Also, she's Chrisitan/religious and I'm pretty turned off with that. I stuck to my guns telling her I smoke 420 daily and that I have no interest in religion. I could tell she was conflicted by the look on her face and saying "that's bad" but she stayed in the conversation and kept up her kino. I'll neg her on the good girl stuff next time we're out.
So I don't have a particularly high attraction for her at this point. Think I'll let her simmer, keep flirting with her but not escalating. Drive her a little crazy wanting more. I don't have much of a social circle so she could be some good leverage to go out with her 20-something friends and have their social proof at the bars.
Feel free to comment.
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