Ok, Struggling to move on from an ex.

I know I know, theres more fish in the sea etc, but i didnt like her for the smell ok.


Ok so I already know the correct answer to this!!! im supposed to fuckin move on, root other girls, and STOP dwelling on this one girl... and the oneitis will pass in time. WHICH I am doing, and quite well thankfully, as it kinda helps, but in all honesty, when im with other girls i still just think of her...

SO...

All i want to get going... is a thread on how to make an ex want you back, or at least want to show enough interest back in you to become fuck buddys. We had amazing sex.. I at least want that back. Im craving it!!! these other girls dont cut it

It was a kinda ugly breakup a month ago, bit of words said we both didnt really mean, and shes done some immature stuff like seeing guys and telling me about it to make me jealous and try and make me loose my cool. Stupid mind games like that.

SPAM the situation is, I would take her back in a heartbeat (such a fool) and I already have asked for her back(foolish again) and she said no.

So how do I play it from here... I will try not to contact her, but when I do, should I make it sexual talk? all flirting? to make her wanna jump the gun and get back in bed with me?
Telling her about memories I miss didnt seem to work. she would give a really shallow reply.. to me thats hinting she doesnt have many feelings left towards me. so i dont think I should play this card...
Small talk just doesnt cut it. If I ask her how she is, she just says the "Im Fine Thanks"

Im not stupid, I can see shes not that interested right now...

But my question is how do I get that interest back......??????????

Reinvent myself as a person? become better and learn from this and she might notice and miss me...?

TLDR.. I hope someone read this please. I know theres some experts on this site with great advice. this is the time i really just want it most...


Love,
TJM

because just 1 more thing... SPAM im like a fuckin lost puppy. I call her at 2am if im up. I know her number off by heart so deleting it didnt help. some days I would text her like 5 times just to get an answer. All time low guys.
Its just the emotions that control you.. I just dunno :s

how do I play it without pushing her away forever

1 month is not nearly enough to say things you are saying. In three months things will be different, in 6-8 months things will be completely different. If you will be surrounded by other girls enough you wont even remember how her pussy looked like.

Soup boiled two times aint never that good then the first time.

Oh and being lost puppy even if you know that sorry mate you are fucking things up. It wont happen, you or she had her chance to fuck things up, now leave her get some and you get some more Take the initiative. You know how dogs who take control of their own owners behave ?

Still just my own personal opinion, I aint noone yet to talk about that

Well, a difficult situation for you, people will say walk away, I will say the same, of course it's hard, the more you show her love and care, the more she will throw it in your face, and the worse you will feel, so ask yourself, why do that to yourself? Do you deserve it?

I've just had a breakup, it hurt alot, but, look positive, if a girl takes you for a mug, says she has no interest ( some do this as a shit test and for mind games ) take it on the chin, and start having fun again. You deserve it, nobody wants to feel crap.

Read this from PUA SLave (member from here)

http://trustyourlifejourney.blogspot.com/

First bit may make you see things a bit easier.

Don't let her bring you down, you don't deserve it. Remember, days turn to weeks, weeks turn to months. Life's unpredictable, some for good ways, some ways bad but it's best to live it, life is to short.

Keep your head up.

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I would simply tell you to move on.Leave her live her life(That sound corny)

If you insist in getting her back,which will lead to more insecurities and deep scars(actualy you want us to tell you a suicidal reciepy) then you can do the following things:

Convey higher value than she expected:

Have other women around you,admiring you.

Be someone else,make yourself appear like an aspect she never believed you could have.

Social circle.Your close friends are a mirror of your personality,hang out with the famus,and you are a famus.

Appear to be a chalenge!Do not ignore her,but seem TOTALY unitrested in the sexual aspect of your relationship.She is a buddy now.

Ignore her!(I know,i said dont ignore her,but with this ignore,i mean do not do the first move on an interaction.FB teasing comments about a matter that doesnt involve your relationship,and doesnt make you need is accepted)

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To sum up:

Display high value(that includes many many things that i hope you already know)
Appear a chalenge
Dont seem needy or attached.

She has to lose you in order to make her want to win you back

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Oh for Christ's sake. Wasn't your other "I'm a complete dork" thread enough for you? Do you really, really need to play another round of the violin?

To all you knuckleheads who continue to play the 'onetitis card', spitting on all that is manly and disgusting us with your zest for public displays of self-castration, PLEASE take a close look at this 'case study' as shown in these two threads and make sure you stay the hell away from this cycle of idiocy.

Hey, I'm a guy . . . I understand the need for punani. . . but reading your shit puts a frown on my face. Any girls out there? Please offer some input and let me know if you can read this crap with a straight face:
You went from, "I really, really love this girl" to "Well, I really, really love her vagina." The truth is that you just plain love fucking(who doesn't?) but you can't get any quality meat anywhere. Really? You really, really love fucking this girl? I am willing to offer 100 to 1 odds that if I sat an hb8 or above right next to your girl and told the hb8 to spread her legs and tell you, "this pussy is for you," you'd get on your knees wedging your fat head between her legs while completely ignoring your 'oneitis girl'. Your girl left you because she knows ALL OF THE ABOVE to be true.

The problem is:

1. You have zero game. You're a liar. Here's the way things work in the World of PU. There are guys who get plenty of pussy and there are those who do not. Those who get plenty punani NEVER complain, whine, or beg for old punani. They might fall in love(with a person) yes, and they might try to regain broken relationships, but this "I gotta fuck (her) again" crap is the domain of guys with zero game.

2. You bluffed and she called it. You have zero game and you pretended you did. You might have even pivoted her to get you some play. Don't kid yourself, she knew 100% that once she dumped your sorry ass, you'd split your time jacking off at home and figuring out how to get her back. Had she thought you had girls lined up, things might have been different . . . but then, you would have dumped her first wouldn't you?
She's already seeing another guy, she has zero interest and you are continuing to contact her. Wouldn't "I'm not stupid" define this to be "stalking"?

Solution:

If you want to try this out, stop insulting the word "oneitis" by labeling it to your situation; you're just another horny guy who can't get laid. Drop the act; the game had nothing to do with the demise of your relationship. Stop trying to learn 'game' through your ex. You're attempting to apply all the generic game theories to her and this is your path to 1 more year of no sex + bad karma. Please for the love of all that is holy, leave this poor girl alone. Regardless of what you say or how she replies, she is hanging up that phone like she just swallowed sour milk.

Drop you habit of marketing your bullshit. If you do this online, you probably do it in real life, "Look at me, look at me. My heart is broken and I'm sad," is an understandable habit because those around you are programmed to 'mend sad hearts'. Sure, you'll get the 'awww, too bad . . ' from chicks, or the occasional, 'keep your chin up' from the guys. Regardless of 'what they say', guys will drop a respect point from you whether they are aware of it or not. Women will DROP any potential desire to fuck you whether they are aware of it or not. This is probably not the end you desire.

Go get yourself a journal and write on the top, "Openers". Start with that.

Well said...

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hmm yea.. harsh but true. Its kinda the reply I was looking for.

Dude have you ever had a long term relationship? It can be a wonderful thing, it sounds like you're hating on it or never had one. Its just the aftermath that is fucked up.

After along time in a LTR of course you lose all your 'picking up game'. You spend ages with just one girl so you dont need it, hence you lose it.

I guess its true, I lost so much of mine due to this. maybe Im back to square one. And have to rebuild.

yep, Im a perfect fucking case study right here for all you to learn from.

I dunno.

I guess you cant fucking leave this shit. If you spend years developing your skillset, attractive lifestyle, inner game etc.

Theres no place for a LTR to come along and change everything.

You go into one, and you will lose most of it.

You dont, you stay single for life. Its fun, but at the enddd of the day, once you are finished fucking a stranger, it can feel pretty empty.

Does anyone agree or is this just me?

Every time a relationship fucks up on me I pack my stuff into my car and go on a surfing trip. I'm mean having a gf always seems so restricting and most of the girls I meet are so boring and have no interest in my hobbies.

Mate it's not the end of the world it's the start of a new chapter of your life. So pack your shit up and get out there and go do something awesome. You can't go wrong with travelling.

Thats something i feel

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This thread has got interesting.

Remember to always look at the bigger picture. As Kasabi said, start with a blog. It can help so much in all honesty.

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Had you written a post months ago about what you thought to be a cool relationship, I would have congratulated you. So here's your belated 'congratulations': Congrats dude! Wow! Great relationship. You enjoying that pussy or what!? Pump it baby! Whoo hooo! You going to pop her the question or what? Can I look forward to a bachelor party? Clap, clap, clap . . .

Back to current affairs:
You're a LIAR. This lie is what got you dumped on your ass. This is the 'source lie' that led you to create more lies. Your two threads wreak of insincerity. I gotta tell you . . . I'm happy for your ex. She had the balls to kick your delusional ass on the curb and hopefully, she found a guy who 'knows who he is".

You never had game . . . who are you trying to kid? "Go BACK to square one" . . . Come on man. Regardless of ALL the excuses you can create in your head or pull from the sky, the reality is that you have ZERO game NOW. If you have zero game, why not just walk over to the local store, grab a pad and pen, and just write in the first page, "openers" and try this out?

I am going to give you my super awesome - one of a kind secret to getting over being dumped. Its really simple, anybody can do it and its 100% successful.

Walk up to a woman you find attractive
Say "hi"
Repeat until you are confident doing that then
say "i'm *whatever your name is*, pleased to meet you"
Keep doing this until you frequently have fun, interesting conversations with strangers and before you know it you will be struggling to decide if your dick is too sore from fucking to go out tonight.