A friend of mine is dating this girl for 3 years now. His girlfriend has a few friends in her circle which she is really close with and i always hang out with in a group since they started dating, i never hung out with any of them alone. One of her friends i really like and I use to hang out with her all the time with my friend and his girlfriend which is her really close friend. The girl i like has moved an hour away but my friend is still dating her friend so i occasionally see her.I never speak to her about anything sexual i think she would be wierded out if i did since she is more a reserved type girl( virgin in case you were wondering what reserved was hah). My friend had his girlfriend ask her close friend what she thought of me and she said that her friend was in shock when she asked and was like i can only see him as a friend. Great! I have a lot of feelings for this girl and it looks like i am stuck in the friend zone badly. By the way I am 21 and the girl is 19 and she is a reserved girl she is not the slut type she only had 1 boyfriend and she didnt do anything with him besides kiss. Can someone please help me!!![/b]

Oneitis... LJBF = game over, move on. It isn't worth it.

If you REALLY want to you could try to escalate and see what happens, or freeze her out then try it.

if i was you id try not to get hung up on this one girl but if you want her that badly well.......

firstly you need to freeze her out of your life for a couple of months. no contact and if you do need to have to see her appear distant and indifferent to her.

secondly once you reinitiate contact with her try to be cocky and funny , focus on building sexual tension and let her know that youre seeing other people.

hope this has helped.

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Thanks people! how can i say something cocky and funny and build sexual attraction without seeming like a perve? hah Can you guys give me an example? I would normally move on but she is really good girl and its hard to find that now especially where i live they are a bunch of sluts and trashy people haha

No matter how much of a "good girl" she may seem to be, sexual conversations should never be taboo. And if she does get offended by it, tease her. She's 19 years old, not a little kid anymore. Real adults are comfortable with talking about sex. Children laugh, giggle, or get offended because they think its "bad". I would say don't talk to her for the time being until you see her again. When you do, don't be afraid to get a little physical, and talk about sex.

If she seems like a good girl, I'm willing to bet she will enjoy a bit of a "bad" conversation.

Good luck

after the freeze out for a few months, when you first see her next make sure you have girls with you to create jealousy plotline/socail proof. it'll help

Thanks everyone for the tips! This girl is definately a virgin and a sweet girl i dont want her to be weirded out if i bring up sexual topics. Any one have a plan on how I could bring it up? Also i never broke the touch barriar, meaning i never did kino with her. how could i do it without seeming likea creep? because i never touched her at all and if i suddenly do i dont know how she would react? Any advice?

I am like you, except I'm 25.
Recently a 45 year old psychologist has told me what I have done wrong, and I bet you make the same mistakes.

STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH A GIRL YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH

Being friends is a cowards way to get a relationship. You hear me? Stop being the friendly cuddle guy, the emotional gayfriend who talks and listens. If you want to be her boyfriend, TAKE A SHOT, BE CONFIDENT, DANCE WITH HER, ASK HER OUT.

Don't say " I think you're hot, will you go out with me? "

Say "You're hot, we should go out"

Don't give her a choice, be the strong and confident alpha male if you want a romantic relationship. That is what women want. Never apologize for anything, don't be needy and show her you are a man of high value.

So many guys hide in the friend zone because it's their comfort zone. YOU HAVE PUT YOURSELF THERE, being friends was your choice because you didn't have the balls to go for her

I'll tell you one thing. If you keep doing that you end up being a virgin like I used to be.
Get your lame ass out of the friend zone/comfort zone and take a shot.

Alcohol helps you to get rid of insecurities

Now go for it and don't second guess. If you fail, you fail and move on to the next girl