i know she gonna ask me all bout my ex and what our relationship was like so what messages do i want to put accross guys?

thought mention our sex life was still really good (true) was a no brainer....if an older woman hasnt got bored of fuckin me after 3 and a half years she will be knowin i could show her a trick or two surely? maybe even mentioning we were pretty adventurous (also true) or is this over stepping the mark.

@cindy - she got competition at work (2 girls in another department come up to me most breaks). lol. and she can see that for herself anyway. plus surely i could keep a wee thing going that my ex wants me back etc?

hopin shes goin into town this weekend as i am! seein her outside of work wi a wee bit eh drink involved could be just the ticket!

any advice appreciated as always!

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I would say that I'm not over my ex completely ( if you sense any resistance) and see how she responds. and i would answer with a yes or no ...no extrapolation

will be inviting her to come see our appartment once im settled in too. jus wish it was now! lol

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"She was great". That's all you need to say; don't go into detail. If she insists you be more specific than that, tell ask her "are you this curious about everyone's love life, or just mine?" and smile. Tell her you don't kiss and tell, and that what you had with your ex girlfriend was great but now it's over. That's all she needs to know.


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this.

also have you guys hung out already outside of work? (sorry can't remember if you mentioned if you did or not yet). remember it's important to bounce the target to as many places so she can associate those places (and hopefully happy, fun memories there too) with you.

doesn't have to be a drink, tell her you saw this really awesome ice cream parlor and that she should come with you to check it out. or go bowling. or check your appartment, like you said. or whatever you guys do there in scotland lol

gl bro, keep thinking positive

thats the deal done, im gettin keys tommorow. good times. start of new chapter of my life.

loving life today!

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ok guys. am settled into ma new pad, im single, the scene is set so its time to move it up a notch with this chick. she was askin all bout my new place and my breakup and shit today. all the flirty stuff continued too.

whats the ideas?

was thinkin do nothing different really till we get paid next thursday and she gets har phone bar lifted. then i can let her instigate the phonin and textin?

or maybe thats a shit idea as it gives her time to meet someone else as she may not want to be single for xmas?

or maybe i should just call her one night, run some phone game and ask her meet me?

or maybe isolate her and ask her for a quick drink after work one night?

heads fucked. lol. mainly cos i know its so close, and partly cos shes a work colleague........

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Well my opinion, she has interest in you. Invite her for a drink, and maybe give her a random call sometime, and be yourself, keep it brief, have a laugh.

She's on it man!

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hey, thanks man!

yeah i think she is up for it but v difficult to take this step in the work situation!

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Think of it as a 'friendly' drink, that you'll turn your way. It'll show courage and bravery, which a lot of women do like.

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awrite lads? havny been on for a while cos since movin in ma flat iv been less of a keyboard jockey and spent mare time in field. went shoppin with the girl in this post one night after work and we had fun so ticking over nicely. she asked me to meet her in town last night at a club she was going to with mates but i had plans already. had a great night last night at a mates house party. ended up bringing his gf's sister home (brunnette hb8). its now 11.30am and she left bout half hour ago.

im still fucking my ex couple of times a week too so pretty happy with life SPAM. not even that bothered bout the girl this post is bout anymore, see her as a wee bonus prize now and pretty sure i will get her sooner or later. being single and having my own pad in the town has opened a new world of possibillitties. will still update this thread with progress of the work target tho. take care all!

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Hey mate, well done, and the way your looking at things is the best and correct way in my opinion. Don't put pressure on yourself to succeed with one girl, used her as a bonus, as you already stated.

You've got your own place, your single, you like to have fun, your in the PUA world, so enjoy yourself is all I can say. Well done on the pull last night

I bet if you don't call her or anything, she'll be gagging for it again.

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cheers man. for the 1st time in ages i feel in total control of my life. i do what i want, when i want, with who i want. the only things i have to do is work and pay my rent and thats not workin out too bad at all. actually enjoying work and so thats easy. going out with a guy off of here tonight. met him before and hes big into speed seduction and a good guy. although im more into other types of game we can still wing eachother and have fun. totally right bout not seein one girl as be all and end all. im on my way to better things mate!

have a good weekend fuckers! i will.

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Hi all,

I was very confused and needed to get some perspective so excuse the lazy grammar and punctuation,but the following is what oneitis at work can do to a man..Girl I'm working with now..hugs me then when sitting back down is flushed but blames it on being emotional as its a completion ceremony for a work group..always giving me compliments but then its that kind of working environment,support work,therapy etc..always seems to end up working with me until recently when she has pulled away a bit..but I did pull away a bit from her first by making my excuses as I felt a bit suffocated..so this may have been a reaction to my subcommunications..

I've been playing it cool and gaming her a bit as I don't trust her agendas as its a working environment in a profession notorious for head games..but even mates have made vague comments about her seeming to fancy me or the hug incident that her behaviour was strange if they didn't know better..I even tried to just shake her hand but she insisted..has nudged me while I'm talking to others and holding court to get my attention..when I say hi to her she pretends not to notice then introduces herself shortly after..we share the same sense of humour and joke about it and things we like constantly..I could go on..we do have alot in common,she's quite sexy and we do connect well..

I was gutted when I found out we wouldn't be working so closely together for the next few months which made me resentful of my own slight oneitis!She can be quite friendly and slightly flirtatious with others but it seems much more with me..maybe I'm in delusion but this is throwing me off the challenge..I really don't know how to proceed now as I have to be around her for at least the near future so just playing it safe,pulling back completely and practising avoidance isn't an option.HELLLLPPPPPP!

Anyway after an opportunity to be around her one on one albeit at work through xmas came up, I took good advice and declined and am now feeling much less AFC and much more grounded, and that it's out of my system..the real test will be when I next see her! The moral of the story..don't shit on your own doorstep.Work is not the best of places to game and to watch out for silly oneitis situations that can occur there.

FTJM

jus a quick msg as i havnt bin on forever.....

but yeah i fucked that girl. im not with her now. lost interest after i bin with her a few times ha ha. guess the chase is better than the catch. we still get on tho and i know i could have her again if i want. set my sights on anther wee huni at work now tho. what am i like? lol

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