OK, first of all, slow down, this is gonna be a slow burner, she just broke up with her BF, give her a little time and continue flirting for now, and listen to her if the ex comes up but say she broke up for the best and thik about what she wants now, this should lighten her up a bit.


Good Luck

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she dont seem bothered. said it was for the best, didnt see future wi him and would rather be with someone else.

she was still happy. smiling, laughing and flirty.

was really cute when she said 'see you tommorow darling.'

really into this girl i got to admit.

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another good day today guys. flirtin still goin strong, more kino and she has taken to callin me 'honey' and 'babe'. good times. i called her 'hun' once aswell and this got a smile. gd times. another dynamite thing was this cute girl (hb8) in another department i was talking to the other day and having a laugh with ran up to me at lunch and hugged me sayin 'hey sweetie' in front of target. couldnt have written it better myself. i love workin at this place! plenty friendly hb's, high status for me, good pay and benefits. love it, love it, love it!

number closing target tommorow. got to keep things going forwrd. know its a dead cert that i'll get it. so will prob be askin bout phone game tommorow night. lol. so get your thinkin caps on boyo's!

should i start to give hints that my relationship with my gf is not solid? if i show her a little chance she may take this as a green light to make a move on me. i think i could guage a lot on her reaction too as to how she is thinking. what would you guys say? would there be any major reasons you wouldnt do this?

been loving this thread cos its developed over time and helps me keep track of exactly whats went on by putting it into words. as i said before, im really into this girl now and yeah she is inside my head but it doesnt seem to be effecting my game negatively. if anything its a driving force pushing me to analyse things more to make sure im getting everything right. i feel reall comfortable around her too, which isnt always the case when you really, really want a girl. shows me how far my gamess progressed too that despite all the limits and obstacles of my situation here with work and partners, things are still moving forward. surely a matter of time till she is mine.

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Good stuff today then.

The nickname thing can go eithe way, I've had it as attraction and as friendship, so it depends on other factors and IoI's.

Her number is the easy part, just say something like "We have so much fun here at work, we should so hang out outside of here, I wanna get to know the real you"

Good Luck

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"i wanna get to know the real you"

i dont know about that. is there a need to give her a reason? i think he should simply suggest doing something fun outside of work! no need for labels or reasons..

Well yea, I suppose that works lol

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number closed today. didnt use a line really. just had fun with her, made her laugh a lot, kino'd and then situ kinda peaked said. 'your fun NAME, can i get your number' success. 'yeah, of course you can'. good times.

what to do tho? do i phone tonight or keep her waiting? write bk soon guys.

goin to loo at flat with a mate tommorow. decided im leavin my gf wether i get this otha girl or not so gotta find a place to stay...... im on my way to happier life whatever happens.

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Well she gave u her number so you can call her i don't see anything wrong with calling her today

I usually text her the same night about something funny that happened and/or was said at work, when I worked in customer service, it was a goldmine(In hindsight I wished I'd learnt all this then) or contune a convesation you were having.

Also go with a nickname(if you've got one for her already, awesome, if not make one up, I usuallygo with Doll, old school huh?)

so I'd put something along the lines of

"Hey Doll! Ok, you convinced me, I'm actually gonna watch Twilight x" (if you have been discusing films etc)

"Hey Doll! Just been laughing again about what you said earlier about that guy falling on the ice lol xx"


Not great examples I know lol, but I've got them to work before a few times, if you can, get ahold of "The Text Book" from the Art of Charm, brilliant book btw, helped me alot recently.

Also don't get disparaged if she doesn't text back straight away, texts are things that you can come back to, I know I used to have a major problem where I'd think a girl was falling out with me, when in rality she was asleep or at work or even at the cinema.

Also, if you're looking at houses tomorrow, ask her along! Great for visualisation and imagination techniques!!!

Congratulations btw, your on your way!

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thanx dude!
this for me is just a culmination of everything i have read (i read a lot). and the trial and error i have used in my limited time practicing stuff (due to gf situ) and of course all the help from my online friends here givin me little hints and tips.

cant text as she has no credit so need to call if im doin anythin. what u think?

time of change for me also;
leaving my gf
movin in wi a mate
im in a new job

all good, all positive. so why not a new gf too? (i know cos i wont be able to sarge much lol)

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well gentlemen, i gave her a call. all went well and positive. we talked a bit bout funny shit at work. she asked me if i had finished with my gf yet? (mentioned at work today i was thinkin of leavin her and movin in with a mate). i lied that i had, although i will be in the next hour anyway..... so its not REALLY a lie if i do end it with my gf is it?

she sounded happy enough with this and asked for details etc. i made up some normal shit that will be said anyway and told her id tell her all bout it tommorow and that i had to go just now cos i was almost home (phoned her walking bk from the shop).

your opinions gentlemen?

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Sounds good man, remember what Style says "It's not Lying, it's flirting" I don't agree with it but see how people can use it.

It's good she asked for details, but it is a weird situation I can't get my head around whether or not it's good that she continues to talk about your ex with you, too far into the friend zone? Tough call imo

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@SCB -you think its all too much 'caring and sharing'? you could be right. if im in the friend zone with this bitch i will flip out. lol. couldnt deal wi that. think i need to make a big play?

im hoping she just wants to know i have definitely ended it.

any advice for work tomorow guys?

time to escalate further? even if i do end up showin my intention? time to ask her out for a drink? (so AFC i know). any routines i should be runnin?

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i would have let her in the dark concerning your gf. that way she would have known that there is competition and would have tried harder should she have serious interest in you.

well, too late.

just continue having fun times with her, kino when appropriate and in the course of time do something fun together outside of work, just dont seem needy and take your time..

if you make sexual keno you wouldn't be in the friend zone. if u feel any resistance say that you still are not over ur xgf yet