Hey everyone,

So i'm new and i've read a lot of the stuff on here blah blah blah i'll save you some time.

I just got back from being out and I go to a fairly big school (~25,000 people) in the USA. I just broke up with my GF who I had for 4 years and basically all of college so I really didn't pay much attention to other girls besides being put in the friend zone. Regardless, I have been told i'm very good looking and I know I have a body to match it so it's not the confidence I have a problem with or the inner game; really all it is is that I have problems approaching girls. Tonight, I couldn't really come up with anything good to say or a relevant opener which is the only part that kills me. Some girls seem so uneasy or standoffish when you first approach them which is what happened tonight and that kills my mood big time. I forget about it a few minutes later but it sucks when it happens. Anyone have any advice on how to fix this? It's not really approach anxiety I have because I love meeting new people but it's really more of damaging the little social clout I have. The fact I was with a GF for the past 4 years and now I have a semester left has really put me into scramble mode. I have brought back two girls in the past week (I knew them before, not random hook ups) which has been good but I want to branch out and when you see a two set at the bar and have nothing to say opener wise, it kills me.

Basically, what are good openers that are relevant to college in any way?

forget your body!!! if you cant talk to women you wont be getting laid.
Openers are dificult at first, you have to realise what you say doesnt matter, grab a spider from the wall and say "look, its a spider!!" theres an opener for you...

DO something random, the other day I went to a club it was quite so I went outside for a smoke, there was people around and I didnt know how to open so I look around the place. saw a ladder on top of the roof, grabbed the ladder, climbed on the ladder and look to see what else was up there, people was looking at me like "WTF is that guy doing?" came back down, put the ladder back and just said "I thought there was more then just a ladder up there.... They laughed! Boom Im in the set!

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Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen

@Dilaks thats a great opener you've, in first place it might be looking weird but you responce was great and spontaneous.

@Tjs121 a important thing about openers are that you should not think about which opener you must use, just improvise, that kind of openers are more real and spontaneously.

suggest you sit on the bar next to a lady and she's drinking something, then it's a great moment that you can react on that situation an say something like:

"Are you drinking *name of the drink*" (just call a brand)
she will responce on that for sure, and then you response on that and you two have a subject to talk about.

Getting pass the "opening" phase is easier said then done.

What helped me out was when the rule me and my wing had. "Never eject." So when open, and there being bitches, stay in there and keep talking. Even if you got something stupid to say, keep talking. This should help you get over opening phase.

BTW, the "never eject" rule cancels out when your ejecting to add advantage to your game.

Thanks man was kinda strange at first wether it would work or not, its not what you do but how you do it

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Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen

@dilaks

Thats what i was talking about you've to bring it spontaneous and give it a joke flavour on it. When others laughing the girls on that spot will notice that you're a "entertainer" and humor is something that always works.