I'd like to share a few thoughts on something that I've tried out recently: going out solo.

To save you reading the rest of this post, I will summarize the general gist of it now:

Go out solo.

I'm serious.

Go out solo.

Why?

1. You don't fucking waste time mincing about with your mates; you just get out there and mingle, because there's nothing else to do.

2. Your energy level remains constant, because not only are you constantly approaching/merging (or at least meeting people you already know from other times you've been out), but you never return to your group (who may or may not be approaching) who's energy levels may be lower than your own.

3. You're less intimidating for women to approach when you're alone; girls don't wanna walk into a 3 set of guys and tell you you're cute.

4. You build a whole different sort of social proof; you're not that guy with the cool friends, you're that cool guy who's friends with everybody. Social proofing is actually easier, cos you're bouncing from set to set all the time.

5. If you have the chance for a one night lay, you don't have to be concerned about leaving your friends.

6. Women are impressed by a man who has the social confidence and stability to go out alone.


I'm SERIOUS, guys: go out alone.


I'm done.

Skylark

Thanks for the push lol. I will be doing just that the day after thanksgiving at the Mall of America... My usual wing will not be available so I'm doin a little shopping by myself... Going out alone has never been my thing but I've done it quite a bit lately and it does help... P.S. need wings in Minnesota!

I'm actually talking predominantly about club game. In day game, it makes more sense to go out alone, it's more socially 'normal'. You don't often see people out in clubs alone.

Cool, I grew up an alcoholic so it was normal for me to go out alone and meet people. That was all I did.. Now that I don't drink, most of my game is day game. So your post still related to me but maybe not the way you intended. Thanks

Hey Skylark, you make a good point about going out solo in clubs, from what i know it can't be that hard to get away with, and you do have a point about it will force you to open sets. Was considering doing this myself, it can't be hard to fake that your friends are hanging out "over there" or they've gone to get drinks. Then by transitioning to another set the first one would assume their the "friends" you were talking about.

another great thing about going out solo is that it pushes you to be more social. If you make an effort you will meet not only more women but you can also meet other people who are out. This works wonders especially later in the night because it can add to your social value by making it seem like you know everyone there.

What about going solo during the day?

I'm thinking about going to the mall right now.

Good post. I used to only go out with wings but I realized I was more focused on impressing them than on improving my game.

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Yes, absolutely. For a while, I perceived game and pickup as something that I did with my friends, that was all. That's great, but I believe you'll ultimately find yourself wanting to actually get good at it; and you do that by going out solo.

Or, I discovered in the past couple of weeks, going out with women.

Adam Lyons isn't bluffing when he says that works... seriously. Go out dancing with a girl.

It's true. Go out with women and all the work is done for you. Here's the loud-clubs-high-difficulty-made-easy-vt ... highlight= to my post about it.

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