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PostPosted: Sat Dec 04, 2010 5:39 pm 
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Has this idea ever crossed your mind? Isn't it very typical of an AFC to obsess over technique when approaching a HB?

I say this because it screams "outcome dependence"... the very thing that makes someone an AFC. Obessing over the outcome and letting that dominate your interactions with women.

The truth of the matter is that you can walk up to a hot girl and say "I hate cats" and still walk away with her number and eventually fuck her. Of course we should never lose sight of behaviors that simply don't work like screaming "Nice rack!" but we should never lose sight of the fact that inner game is really what gets women turned on. Inner game is not about technique, clothing, props, lines, or memorized stories.... its about attitude. The "I want you but I don't need you" attitude.

Inner game is a "vibe" you give off that communicates you are being genuine and unapologetic. You are not scared and you are not hung up on the outcome. This is what makes people attractive.. both men and women. Its an unapologetic honestly with the world and yourself.

When you approach women you should be thinking more along the lines of: "Lets find out if this hot girl is a fun sexual person like me".. NOT along the lines of: "She is hot.. I can't fuck this up.. I have to be smooth". See the attitude difference?

You are reversing the whole "qualifying model". Rather than finding a way to "qualify" for this woman's affections... you are coming from a place of already being qualified in your own mind and having the attitude that she needs to respond to you a certain way in order for HER to qualify for more of your time. This is how it should be.

You should approach women with the intention of enjoying yourself. If she is a bitch she disqualifies herself and you can walk away without feeling like you "lost" something or did something wrong.

When you have this attitude.. you will notice how little your techniques and lines really matter. You will have no problem opening with "I hate cats" or "There is a stain on your shirt. How did that happen?"

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too much is focused on the why. why does this work, why did this happen, to be honest the why is irrelevant if it works use it if it doesnt dont. over thinking theory will drive you insane!
think about growing tomatoes you plant the seed you water it then when the tomatoes are ready to be picked you pick them, you dont ask yourself why they grow in immense detail.

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say what ever the fuck you want to a girl and getting #-close sounds like a rsd fanboy cause if you just use a nonsense line to do the approach she could just look at you like if you are crazy and keep her way

she doesnt know you if you are saying a nonsense as a joke


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I think I've heard it dozens of times:

NINETY PERCENT OF COMMUNICATION IS NONVERBAL!!

I think the above is a bit of an overstatement, but I agree you can say just about anything if you project the right vibe, confidence, body language, and show her you're not taking anything too seriously either way. That's why I get annoyed with some of the guru 'magic-bullet' stuff and have become far more interested in natural game...

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say what ever the fuck you want to a girl and getting #-close sounds like a rsd fanboy cause if you just use a nonsense line to do the approach she could just look at you like if you are crazy and keep her way

she doesnt know you if you are saying a nonsense as a joke
no true.

i say the dumbest shit every. i was going to my moms house one night and my brother had his gf and her cousin over. I walked in and told the cousin to "go in the room and ill be in there in 5 mins ready for butt sex"

as PlayHer Man pointed out, inner game (confidence) is huge and as long as you have some you can have her no matter what.

Btw i ended up k-closing that girl; she said she wouldnt go any further because her cousin was there. but im going back there in a little bit so im not sweating it

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Has this idea ever crossed your mind? Isn't it very typical of an AFC to obsess over technique when approaching a HB?

I say this because it screams "outcome dependence"... the very thing that makes someone an AFC. Obessing over the outcome and letting that dominate your interactions with women.

The truth of the matter is that you can walk up to a hot girl and say "I hate cats" and still walk away with her number and eventually fuck her. Of course we should never lose sight of behaviors that simply don't work like screaming "Nice rack!" but we should never lose sight of the fact that inner game is really what gets women turned on. Inner game is not about technique, clothing, props, lines, or memorized stories.... its about attitude. The "I want you but I don't need you" attitude.

Inner game is a "vibe" you give off that communicates you are being genuine and unapologetic. You are not scared and you are not hung up on the outcome. This is what makes people attractive.. both men and women. Its an unapologetic honestly with the world and yourself.

When you approach women you should be thinking more along the lines of: "Lets find out if this hot girl is a fun sexual person like me".. NOT along the lines of: "She is hot.. I can't fuck this up.. I have to be smooth". See the attitude difference?

You are reversing the whole "qualifying model". Rather than finding a way to "qualify" for this woman's affections... you are coming from a place of already being qualified in your own mind and having the attitude that she needs to respond to you a certain way in order for HER to qualify for more of your time. This is how it should be.

You should approach women with the intention of enjoying yourself. If she is a bitch she disqualifies herself and you can walk away without feeling like you "lost" something or did something wrong.

When you have this attitude.. you will notice how little your techniques and lines really matter. You will have no problem opening with "I hate cats" or "There is a stain on your shirt. How did that happen?"
Great post. AFC's rely on purely technique, AND have that attitude, "I can't fuck this up. She's really hot." Natural Game comes off way more confident. I use to get nervous as fuck when I was relying on routines, it just wasn't me. (I'm sure she noticed too)


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say what ever the fuck you want to a girl and getting #-close sounds like a rsd fanboy cause if you just use a nonsense line to do the approach she could just look at you like if you are crazy and keep her way

she doesnt know you if you are saying a nonsense as a joke
This is not true. This is AFC talk.

It just depends on the girl. Some girls are goofy and others take things more seriously. Since I'm looking for a FUN girl.. it doesn't matter if some bitch can't take a joke or doesn't like my opener. I'm already qualified. If we are not on the same page then I don't want her.

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Of course we should never lose sight of behaviors that simply don't work like screaming "Nice rack!"
You CAN open a girl by telling her she's hot. As long as you do it confidently, with a smile, and then transition into conversation so you show you're also interested in finding out a little about her. If she's not into you, you'll know within a minute. But, if she wants to fuck you, then she'll continue the interaction and it's ON.

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Of course we should never lose sight of behaviors that simply don't work like screaming "Nice rack!"
You CAN open a girl by telling her she's hot. As long as you do it confidently, with a smile, and then transition into conversation so you show you're also interested in finding out a little about her. If she's not into you, you'll know within a minute. But, if she wants to fuck you, then she'll continue the interaction and it's ON.
Exactly!

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