So I work a scholarship job at my college. I sit at a desk, and take over the shift from this girl every wednesday.

So I saw her a party on Friday. We talked and then parted ways. I then saw her again later and asked her to dance so we did. Her friends pulled her away and they said that they were leaving but I saw her again a little bit later, and asked her to dance again. Another friend then pulled away, but not before I got her number.

I invited her to a party at my place the next night, but she said she was busy, but she hoped to see me at another party later that night. So I went and I saw her.

This second night I was so wasted. It was my roommates birthday so we celebrated with plenty of drinking. Anyway she approaches me and I think she leads me to the dance floor. While we are out there, we eventually kiss. We then go back to sit down somewhere and talk for awhile. We then head back out and dance again and eventually kiss again.

She seemed so happy to be with me, but I was pretty drunk, and she was only a little tipsy. I tell her when we go back to sit down that I really like her, and she says that she's really likes me too. She says that she liked me because I am a nice guy.

I remember showing her a text to another guy we both know, and I told him that I wouldn't try anything with her because I am still a virgin, which is true, but he is a hardcore christian, and didnt want him to judge. I showed her the text too, and she smiled.

Eventually she said that she had to get going to go check on her friend who got into a fight. I decided to leave too, a girl at the entrance found my coat for me so I kissed her and left.

I sent this girl I danced with a message saying I missed her about two hours later but never got a reply back. I then tagged her in a pic on facebook from the night before, but noticed that she either deactivated her account, or defriended me because I cant find her.

I sent her a text today, "Hey Kelsey, hows it going? Hope you are having a great day!" but never got a reply back.

I don't think she was expecting me to take her back home, she seems like a prude, so I dont think she was dissapointed. I also dont know if one of her friends saw me kiss this other girl. It was just a quick peck on the lips, less then two seconds really.


I'm just really confused.

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You told a girl you missed her after a couple dances and a kiss. If you can't figure out where things went wrong, we can't help you.

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you came on way too strong, man. messaging her you miss her after a couple dances and some drunk kissing? thats bad. proceeding to tag her in pictures and texting her after getting no response? thats really bad.


Just drop this girl

Time to start looking again because you sorta fried this situation. What you did = needy. No more explanation needed.

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They do that sometimes its jut weird... that's why a lot of times i try to give them a text they cant ignore such as... "Whats up loser" or just "whats up".. i think u were needy when answering ur own question "hope u had a great day" i think its kinda annoying.. or this is good too i tried it "i was thinking of you and i need help deciding bla bla ( u can say wut to do for my 21st bday or what kinda car i should get next or anything u like it's asking their opinion still ". its better than pre-answering ur own questions cuz its kinda needy its better than saying for example "hey how are you i hope ur good"

So, lemme get this straight.

You told the girl you liked her.

Then, you showed her a text, which you had sent to a friend of yours, telling him that you weren't gonna try anything with the girl because you are a virgin?

Then you started texting and facebooking her.

Then she de-friended you.


If this is honestly confusing to you, allow me to explain.

YOU ACTED LIKE A FUCKING PUSSY. She's not the "prude" YOU'RE THE FUCKING PRUDE.

Next time you're dancing and kissing a girl, guess what - she LIKES YOU. You don't need to confess your feelings to her. She knows, you know. Just ESCALATE. That's all you have to do. Keep having a fun time, keep kino ploughing, and then sort out your logistics and close. No more games, no more bullshit. You've got a cock, she's got a pussy - insert one into the other - she wants it, you want it. Get it?

What you did was suddenly put all this pressure on her about the situation. Girls don't want to feel like they're making decisions. You're supposed to take the responsibility for the both of you. Telling her you like her is unnecessary and counterproductive. You can tell her she's sexy, you can flirt with her, but a serious talk abut your "feelings" for her? No.

Secondly, showing her the text was absolutely awful. Here's what it did

1. Showed you to be inexperienced
2. Showed you to be INdiscreet (telling your friends about a possible relationship)
3. Put pressure on her (you told him you weren't going to do anything, so now if you do, she's making you lie to your friend)
4. Confused her (if you liked her, then why are you saying nothing is gonna happen)

Women avoid social awkwardness like the plague. When you then tried to get back in touch with her, the easiest response was to just cut you out rather than having to trudge through the minefield of your emotions, where you guys stand, and all the pressure you're putting on her when all you've done is kiss a few times.

Next time, try taking things a bit more casually. If you like a girl, then flirt with her, tease her, kino her, and just escalate. If she really doesn't like you, she'll say so. But, if she allows you to keep touching her and flirting with her, then she's TELLING YOU - keep going (remember - a "no" with a smile, a blush and/or a giggle means "maybe later"). You don't have to say anything overtly.

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